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There are a ton of new peeps finding findagrave now. It's obvious they didn't read the faqs, and don't really understand what findagrave is all about. Newbies, please read before posting rude crap.

If I have left info in the virtual flower section it's out of frustration due to memorial mgrs. who refuse to add any info you send them. If you have created far too many memorials for you to manage, transfer them to someone that does. Same with bios, obits, etc. When you refuse to add info, the next thing I do is a transfer request or I add a scan of the obit.
For all of you who refuse to add bio/obits:
Can I add a memorial from a newspaper obituary or other 3rd party source?
Find A Grave does not discourage the legitimate indexing of the deceased through obituaries or other 3rd party accounts. Newspapers represent a very good source of information as a public record. We ask that those who index and memorialize the deceased from newspapers and other 3rd party accounts do so with full respect of copyright, refrain from adding information about living people, and respond generously to the family of the deceased. Find A Grave takes no position on the appropriate timing of submitting such indexes.

If taking pics, please use the app. It adds the GPS when it uploads. If you send an edit or add a pic other than a marker, please click the photo request button. A couple of pics are fine. Don't clutter up memorials with 6 tombstone pics. Take a close up so it can be read.

All of the work on findagrave is done by volunteers. Keep in mind that info may not be correct, just as death certs, cemetery, family records, and tombstone don't always match. Then again, it's nice to have a date, than none at all. Please be a contributor and not just a memorial manager of other people's hard work.

How to list memorials:

The Colfax cemetery had a wildland fire in 1926. It burned all the wood markers and the records of the cemetery. At that time, the cemetery workers redrew the plot maps from memory. Which created quite a mess. In order to document the cemetery correctly, the only option was to take a pic of every burial record at Bruning Funeral Home from 1873-1926. Myself and Kdahl. This is why you see the burial records posted. It is actually the first source of info that a person is buried there. We added them to findagrave. Then we started researching the people in order to document and connect them to their families. (myself and Blaire) Colfax Monument (Blaire) is the official holder of the records of the cemetery, due to who kept them before wasn't keeping up to date. We both spend the most part of every day researching. It's an ongoing process. I have been working on Colfax since 2013. I hooked Blaire (Colfax Monument) 2015.
Many marker photos are being uploaded too small to be read. When clicked on, it still can't be read. Please be sure that your marker photo is legible. That is the reason why we take them. Just because we can now upload up to supposedly 30 photos per memorial, according to a photo volunteer, doesn't mean we need to add 5 pics of the marker.

From the forums: How do I enter all married names for a woman's memorial when she was married more than once?
The 'last name' is the name that is on the headstone. Include other married names as part of the biography section. The 'maiden name' is only for the maiden name.

When I type up an obit out of an old newspaper, I always include the sourcing. Including that I transcribed it. This is the way I learned genealogy many years ago. Some don't agree. I see it the same as others wanting copyright on the grave pics you took and posted.

I often find old photos at flea markets and antique shops for a dollar or two with information written on the back of them. I try to find a family researcher to give the photo to or I will look for their findagrave site to add the picture or add it on ancestry. If you see a photo and do not believe that it belongs where it is or is the wrong person, please let me know. I add the photos to be shared. I can only go by what someone has written on the back.
It's not about you, it's about the generations that came before us,
it's about the generations that will come after us,
They are not a number, many have names, while others do not...
They are loved ones, disliked ones, and some in-betweens,
Some were loners, some were fledglings, while others were gray-haired grandparents...
Some were sweethearts, some gave their lives so others could live theirs...
The one thing they all have in common?
They all have a story,
Whether it be told or untold...
~ CG
It is NOT about the #s either. It's about documenting final resting place so family members can be found easier in the future. Someday, the family member who has been in charge of research and family archives will die, and their “stuff” may— or may NOT— be special to the next generation. If that next generation decides to put those boxes on the curb for the garbage man—that’s it. It’s gone. Forever. But if you can, share, post, and label, it will live on. Forever; It won’t matter who found it, who owned it, who had it first. It will matter that it was preserved.

Please feel free to copy pics I post on either findagrave or ancestry. I scan & post my family photos for family members can have pics that they might not have. I also buy portrait pics at antique stores, scan them and add to findagrave and ancestry; ask me if I still have the hard copy.

There are way too many un-cooperative memorial managers on findagrave; whether it's requesting that a duplicate memorial needs deleted, a within-guidelines transfer or you want to add a bio, these members refuse to transfer, add bios or obits. If you run into one, please report them to; also send bios to admin asking them to add it. Please go to the forums; you will get to read about many issues, and admins response.

I would like to state that if a contributor refuses to accept sacs, edits, and bios submitted to memorials under their care, perhaps they should be transferring them, even if it is out of guidelines, instead of refusing to add the info. This simple little thing would go a long way in reducing duplicate entries, and some of the negativity that is on here. It is so very laughable, the stories I hear from family members that are frustrated that a contributor refuses transfer of their family member, or add info they send, without full documentation. When the family member requests admin adds the info, which they do, then the memorial creator goes back and deletes it?? WTH? just transfer it! It is not your family.

All un-kind messages get forwarded to findagrave admin.

For edits sent to me, if I have a question for you but you have disabled your message board, do not respond to messages sent via the Suggest A Correction method or do not provide an email address as a means to contact you, then I will decline your edit. Communication is a two-way street. When you do send an edit, I will accept it, then research it by looking up the obit or death cert.

Recognize online nitpicking, unjustified criticism or fault finding for what it is: harassment and bullying. Report it to FindAGrave. There is no reason anyone should hound or harass you. If you are threatened or harassed, take online screenshots or snips to document incidents and forward them to FindAGrave or your local authorities without haste.

Findagrave admin can see all messages that have been posted publicly or sent privately via the edit tab, even if they have been deleted.
Many believe that the marker transcription field needs to stay blank if you can read the marker. You may be able to read it today, but how about 20, 40, 60, 100 years from now? I always fill in all the blanks IF I can. Marker transcription does not include name and date.

Please do NOT add scanned obits to memorials under my care. Click edit and send other correction; send me a link to the obit and I will transcribe it. If you see memorials that I have added scanned obits to in the past, please click edit and send me a note. Thanks so much.

by Thelma Greene Reagan

Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where other cried
For Loved Ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

Kerry Rae Smith Moser

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