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Please send edits through the Findagrave edit system and make sure the edits are documented. I do not process edits sent through the Findagrave messaging system. Use the Edit Feature on each memorial or your edits will not be processed. I research most edits when I have time. DO NOT add your edits in the flowers. I will report it as abuse. If you want to add additional military information, there is the stone inscription edit area that can be used and I will accept the edit.

It is sad that this wonderful website has become a warsite between members who should be working together instead of controlling the battlefield. It costs nothing to be kind.

In the past years I have had an increasing amount of negative interaction and demands with findagrave members over memorials. I find this negativity unsettling, sad, and unacceptable. Due to this, I have found it necessary to adopt new transfer procedures and follow the findagrave policies—-therefore—-
I DO NOT TRANSFER MASS SURNAME MEMORIALS, meaning you want all 30 memorials of a specific name. DO NOT ASK, AND INSTEAD READ FINDAGRAVE’S TRANSFER POLICIES which clearly outlines the direct generational procedure. Their guidelines do not include cousins, nieces, nephews, the sister of the husband of a great-great aunt or anyone who is past great-grandparents. Remember that while those people, including great-grandparents, may be related to you, they may also be related to other people, including me. Please do not insist, argue or demand, and send me repeated messages. I am tired of the animosity on this site and now forward all argumentative and demanding messages to Support at findagrave. Memorials are transferred for direct relatives within FOUR GENERATIONS. This includes your spouse, siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. If your grandparents or great-grandparents are also mine or my husband’s, that means we are related. Unfortunately, I do not transfer the memorials of my family members.

Stalking, harassment or using foul language in messages or emails regarding memorials is not tolerated by FindAGrave and you will find this policy in their Terms of Use section.

If you write to me to request a transfer of a memorial for "a member of your family" without first stating your specific relationship, and I respond telling you that the person is my family member too, therefore I will hold on to the memorial, I am not being RUDE as I have been accused in the past. I am informing you this is also my family member and am not obligated to transfer the memorial under FAG's policies. Please don't send me a string of emails or messages with insulting hurtful comments, and scream at me because I won't transfer out of FAG's guidelines. We all have extended family members and the person you are related to may be my relative too. If you ask or demand a transfer that is outside of findagrave policies, and I do not respond, that means the person is in my family tree and I am not transferring the memorial. I have GG and GGG grandparent memorials on all sides of my family including my husband, that I do not manage. They are the ancestors of other people too.

I have inherited quite a few memorials from inactive members or members who have stepped away from findagrave and have asked me to be caretaker. Thank you to those people who have put their trust in me. I will be happy to transfer memorials to you that are within findagrave's transfer policies. Memorials are transferred for direct relatives within four generations. This includes your spouse, siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

VIRTUAL FLOWERS ARE A TRIBUTE TO THE DECEASED. DO NOT LEAVE MESSAGES OR PUT BIOGRAPHICAL INFORMATION, OBITUARIES OR FAMILY TREES IN THE FLOWERS. THIS IS NOT WHAT THE FLOWERS ARE TO BE USED FOR. EVERY FLOWER THAT I FIND ON MY MEMORIALS USED FOR A PURPOSE OTHER THAN THAT STIPULATED BY FINDAGRAVE WILL BE REPORTED FOR REMOVAL.

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