MY MESSAGES ARE DISABLED DUE TO ABUSE BY FINDAGRAVE MEMBERS. IF YOU WISH TO CONTACT ME, GO TO ANY MEMORIAL, LOOK FOR "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" AND SEND ME A MESSAGE. IF YOU WANT ME TO RESPOND, PLEASE INCLUDE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS. IF YOU FIND THIS SYSTEM UNREASONABLE, I APOLOGIZE. BLAME THE BAD APPLES IN THE BUSHEL.
We all make mistakes, and sometimes there appear to be dupes when there aren't dupes; sometimes dupes are created in error. If you find that I have a duplicate, PLEASE let me know before you put in for a merge, because I am finding some of my memorials being merged into wrong cemeteries (dupes into dupes), military family members buried in actual graves being merged into Memorial Plaque memorials that are not graves but should be cenotaphs, infants that have the same name being merged into other infants that in reality are not the same infant, and family members with repeat names merged together and end up as siblings instead of parents, if you get my drift. PLEASE let me know about any dupes first so I can check it out and see if the dupe is really a dupe. Thanks.
It is sad that this wonderful website has become a warsite between members who should be working together instead of controlling the battlefield. It costs nothing to be kind.
If you send me an edit adding a period "." after an initial, I will decline it. It's a waste of your time and mine and the search function operates better by not using a punctuation mark. People were not born with the title of Mr. or Mrs., or even a military title. Military titles are bestowed during a lifetime and not all were honorable. I will not accept edits to add a prefix of Mr. or Mrs. If you send me an edit linking a family pet to a human, I will decline it.
Please send edits through the Findagrave edit system and make sure the edits are documented. I receive way too many edits linking children, grandchildren or uncles and aunts as parents. Make sure your middle initial for the married female isn't really the initial of her maiden name. And, dates on headstones are not always accurate since many stones were placed years or decades after the person died. I do not process edits sent through the messaging system unless it's an obit or a family story. Use the Edit Feature on each memorial or your edits will not be processed. I research most edits when I have time. DO NOT add your edits, obituaries or your family tree information in the flowers. If I find it, I will report it as abuse and have it removed. If you want to add additional military information, there is the stone inscription edit area that can be used and I will accept the edit.
In the past years I have had an increasing amount of negative interaction and demands with findagrave members over memorials. I find this negativity unsettling, sad, and unacceptable. Due to this, I have found it necessary to adopt new transfer procedures and follow the findagrave policies—-therefore—-
I DO NOT TRANSFER MASS SURNAME MEMORIALS, meaning you want all 30 memorials of a specific name. DO NOT ASK, AND INSTEAD READ FINDAGRAVE'S TRANSFER POLICIES which clearly outlines the direct generational procedure. --Their guidelines do not include cousins, nieces, nephews, the sister of the husband of a great-great aunt or anyone who is past great-grandparents. --
--Remember that while those people, including great-grandparents, may be related to you, they may also be related to other people, including me. Please do not insist, argue or demand, and send me repeated messages. I am tired of the animosity on this site and now forward all argumentative and demanding messages to Support at findagrave.
Read Findagrave's transfer policies in the HELP section under Request To Manage. Memorials are transferred for direct relatives within FOUR GENERATIONS. This includes your spouse, siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. If your grandparents or great-grandparents are also mine or my husband's, that means we are related. If you would like a transfer within the guidelines, please ask me NICELY and don't demand...i.e. "transfer this memorial to me now because XYZ is my 2nd cousin 3 times removed, and I don't care what the transfer policies are, I want that memorial...." Folks, be nice and be considerate, because no one is that entitled.
I do not transfer the memorials of my, my husband's or my children's family members.
I have inherited quite a few memorials from inactive members or members who have stepped away from findagrave and have asked me to be caretaker. Thank you to those people who have put their trust in me. I repeat, I will be happy to transfer memorials to you that are within findagrave's transfer policies and if they aren't members of my extended family. Ask nice and don't demand. We all like to be treated kindly.
Memorials that I have taken over from inactive or fallen gravers do not not always have correct information or links to correct family members. Since I work on findagrave sporadically at night, I haven't worked on each memorial to check for accuracy. I welcome any edits to correct existing mistakes, but I have been receiving numerous messages with rude or nasty comments about these errors. Give us some slack here guys. None of us need the smart cracks, yelling or mean remarks. If you find wrong information on these remanaged memorials, put in an edit and I'll check it out. Upload a document as verification of your change. I'm getting an awful lot of yelling messages that accompany error filled edits, which proves we all can't be perfect.
VIRTUAL FLOWERS ARE A TRIBUTE TO THE DECEASED. DO NOT LEAVE MESSAGES OR PUT BIOGRAPHICAL INFORMATION, OBITUARIES OR FAMILY TREES IN THE FLOWERS. THIS IS NOT WHAT THE FLOWERS ARE TO BE USED FOR. EVERY FLOWER THAT I FIND ON MY MEMORIALS USED FOR A PURPOSE OTHER THAN THAT STIPULATED BY FINDAGRAVE WILL BE REPORTED FOR REMOVAL.