Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.
The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.
RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in almost ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator
Along side our humans and Entlands, we attempt to care for at least 2 dogs & 12 cats so I don't make more than a couple memorials, via satellite, a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most people's ancestral brick walls however I can.
As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead are...how many does that leave? ½-LOL and go figure.
When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandteen that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another few years pass, just always recent deaths to add.
Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.
Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose &/or plop deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions," causing searchers trying to be helpful to go on wild goose chases for pictures, and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, duh...to require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.
But you can surely use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including "© FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.
Why I got on FindAGrave:
I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-mostly-unknown ancestors: at least 29 (30SEP2017, just found #29: John Kelly, 1747-1822, of Washington County, Virginia) Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.
So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being pawed along with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!
My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories. Alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.
May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!
The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)
God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)