All of the information that appears on my memorials is available to everyone via on-line records. The use of obituaries is allowed per the Fair Use Doctrine. Additionally, facts, in and of themselves, are not protected by copyright laws. That being said, if you would like to have the memorial of a family member removed, just say the word. I am happy to comply. Not everyone's story has the ending we may hope for, and nothing is worse than the loss of a loved one. The message they leave us is to celebrate life while we have the opportunity. The practice of a cemetery burial, marking the grave with a headstone, and the leaving of flowers at a grave are all ways we honor the memory of a loved one. If you would like to manage a family member's memorial, I am happy to transfer. My only intention is to document and provide help to other people doing genealogy research that may not be able to find records on their own. I am always saddened to learn that a fellow Find-A-Graver has not honored the wishes of a family member. That simply should not happen. That photo volunteers have been referred to as "grave stalkers" is unfortunate.
You are free to use the photographs I have taken, but please do so with all respect and discretion for our dearly departed.
I also welcome corrections and additional information. A correction I won't make is taking away multiple-marriage surnames, because although Find-A-Grave guidelines suggest limiting the surnames to maiden name and surname at time of death, those additional married surnames help explain the story of the family, especially when children from different marriages come into play.