Findagrave now automatically accepts edits after a short time, so I do not accept credit for all changes made recently. I will, most of the time, process edits in the order received, as I always have,doing the best I can with what I have. Processing edits is not an instant task if done correctly. I will still verify before I make changes even though FAG does not do that anymore. I believe it is the least I can do, to pay respect to the deceased ones memorial, to keep accurate records.
TRANSFERS: Certainly, I will not transfer my own relatives except in very rare instances. I will always transfer memorials within the Find A Grave rules, direct relative within four generations (siblings, parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents) (direct descendants do not include cousins, aunts, uncles, or your in-laws...) - please take the time & effort to read and abide by FAG guidelines. PLEASE NOTE!!! I do sometimes transfer cousins, so please ask. Please use the "Edit" button; I prefer that over email transfer requests. This helps ensure accuracy. Please do not request multiple transfers in one message; one person per request. Do not send requests like "transfer all Smiths in this cemetery". To comply with transfer policy, you must fully explain your relationship to the individual. You must include your Find A Grave name and contributor number.
While I do believe memorials best belong with family members, I may, for various reasons, choose to retain them if they are not in your immediate family as noted by Findagrave guidelines. In those instances, I will be happy to add additional information or links.
If you have documentation to verify relationships, please mention that to help reduce my research time. There is no reason to be offended if asked for proof. It is responsible record-keeping practice, and proper according to FAG admin to ask for proof or documentation. It is also in FAG guidelines to decline to add information & links that appear to be incorrect. I appreciate each one of you who do so much to keep accurate records here on findagrave.
We are the rememberers,
the people left behind...
to keep the ones who've gone from us
alive in heart and mind.
The people left to cherish
and preserve a legacy....
Yes, we are the rememberers
and we will always be.
We are the chosen.
In each family there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again, to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve. Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the storytellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us, "Tell our story!" So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family; you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say. It goes beyond just documenting facts. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes to seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying, "I can't let this happen." The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish, how they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family. It goes to deep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us. It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth. Without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might be born who we are. That we might remember them. So we do. With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place in the long line of family storytellers. That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.