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I hope you all enjoy the memorials I've created and if any of these people are related to you, please don't hesitate to ask me to transfer them to you. My preference is that a memorial be managed by a family member. I do not get involved in family disputes. The first person in the family to ask for a transfer is the one that gets the transfer.

Tips when requesting a photo:
1. MANY graves do not have headstones. Check with the cemetery. They can usually tell you if there was a headstone placed on the grave at the time of the burial.
2. MANY people did not get their names engraved on the headstone. Where there is a central marker, the last person in the family to die doesn't normally get their name and/or death date engraved. Contact the cemetery for the plot card information to find out who is buried in a plot.
3. You should contact the cemetery to get the location of the grave -- section and plot number. In a very large cemetery, it is impossible to "guess" where the grave might be. Instructions such as "to the left of the big building, near an old tree" do not cut it in a 200+ acre cemetery with 90,000 burials.
4. If everyone in a plot has a memorial with a photo attached showing their name on the headstone and you discover that someone else in the family is buried with them, please do not expect an individual photo of a headstone with that person's name engraved on it. That person most likely does not have a headstone or their name has not been added. Volunteers are VERY good at getting photos of all names related to the family plot, on all sides and surfaces of the headstones. They know to check the grass and under leaves for indentations that indicate a buried marker. It wasn't skipped -- it probably isn't there. Give an option in the notes to take a photo of the site if the name is not found.
5. If there is more than one person buried in a plot, please request a photo for the earliest burial or all known people. Most cemeteries sold plots in date order as needed. In other words, people who died in the same year will often be buried near each other. The plot would have been sold and used at the time of the first burial in the family. It is easier to find the headstone if the volunteer encounters a group of headstones from the same time period.
6. Indicate in the notes if someone is a military veteran. Government-issued headstones use distinct designs that are easily recognized by volunteers.
7. If you have a map of the plot location obtained from the cemetery, attach it to the memorial. Even if it is too tiny to read, the volunteer can see that you have it and contact you to ask you to send to them it via email.

These suggestions make life a bit easier for the volunteers. I cannot speak for everyone, but I do this on weekends after a long week at work. I can't always get to the cemetery office when it is open to get the information needed to locate the grave.

Regarding photos -- Photos posted to memorials on Find A Grave are copyrighted by the member who submitted the photos. Lifting the photo to use elsewhere would be a violation of copyright. You must obtain written permission from the member to use any photo for your own use. In general if you did not take the photo yourself, you do not hold the copyright to the photo. See FindAGrave FAQs for more information.

...I only ask that you give me credit for my work. This statement applies to using my photos on OTHER websites -- not FindAgrave. You cannot copy my photos to put on a duplicated memorial on FindAGrave. Apparently, this needs to be specified because some people try to find loopholes everywhere. Courtesy and common sense should guide you but if you aren't sure, you can ask me.

If you want to attach a memorial to your family tree on Ancestry, FindAGrave is listed as a source under the birth, marriage, death section. You may have to look for it, but if it's on this website, then within a short time after adding it, it will be on Ancestry, too. If you must put the photo on your tree, please add, "Photo compliments of VickiO of FindAGrave", with a link to this page.

I do want to thank all those people out there who have thanked me for my photos and memorials, who have politely asked for transfers and permission to use my photos and those who have brought me to tears by telling me the back story behind finding a memorial for a cherished relative or friend on FindAGrave because of my work. I do this for those people.

Names I'm researching: Spencer, Junta/Junte, Kornet, Damme, Hazen/Haze, Milnes, van der Heide, Leusink, Mulder, Hagedorn, Fairbanks, Opgelder, van Loo, Beijman/Byman, Magre, van de Werfhorst, Colburn, Sawyer, Gates, van Puttenstein, Damme, aan't Goor and more!

Dutch names are mostly from Gelderland, Netherlands except Kornet and Damme from Zuid-Holland. Also, Junta, Hazen, Van der Heide & Kornet lived in Midland Park, NJ.

Spencer is from Lancashire & Derbyshire, England. Milnes from Yorkshire. Both families ended up in Paterson, NJ.

Other names are mostly from New England.

Also researching the following names for my fiance: Campbell, Wandelt, Collins, Zobel, Woods, Alexander, Stewart, Aiken, Tollan, Casey, Hanglin, Richardson, McCready, Parliman, Crispell, Van Keuren, Lewis.

Campbell, Alexander, Stewart & Aiken are from Scotland. Campbell is also associated with Newburgh, NY and Paterson, NJ. Alexander's landed in both Paterson and Trenton, NJ.

Wandelt and Zobel are Prussian. Landed in NYC and moved to Newburgh. Collins, Woods, Richardson, Tollan, Casey, Hanglin (many spellings) and McCready are from Ireland. Other names are either Dutch or French Hugeunot from the Hudson Valley.

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