Mary Louise Pelayo passed away in her home, family was at her bed side, in Sonora, California on July 7, 2008 after a long fight with cancer. Known as "Tuttie" to her friends and family was born in Dinuba, California on Sept 29, 1944 to Otto "Red" Hefley and Eva Allen-Hefley. She married Arnold Ralph Pelayo on July 4, 1963 in San Jose, California.
Over the last 12 years Tuttie was a volunteer in Tuolumne County helping parents who lost their children. She was the co-founder, Operations Director and Parents Grief Group facilitator of Dawn's Light, Center for Children and Adults in Grief. This was Tuttie's passion and mission in life. Tuttie was also intrumental in establishing the memorial wall for children at the VNA Hospice.
She was proceded in death by her daughter Kelli Jean Pelayo and her Father Otto "Red" Hefley.
Survied by her husband Arnold Pelayo of the home, two sons and daughters-in-law Jeff and Amy Pelalyo and Michael and Stacy Pelayo, a sister and brother-in-law Bobbie and Oggie Miras of Twain Hart, California, 3 grandsons and one granddaughter, her Mother Eva Hefley-Shaeffer and Step-Father, Frank Shaeffer of Frenso, California. Several Aunts, Uncles and cousins.
Services will be held Monday, July 14, 2008, at Bethel Church in San Jose, California. Interment will be at Oak Hill Memorial Park San Jose, California.
Pallbearers are Jeff Pelayo, Joe Pelayo, Frank Shaeffer, Ryan Brehm, Scott Arquette and Mark Garcia.
Below is a poem Tuttie wrote for the parents who lost children. Named "Please"
Don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be "over" it.
Don't tell me my child is in a better place.
They aren't here.
Don't say "at least they are not suffering"
I haven't come to terms with why my child had to suffer at all.
Don't tell me you know how I feel, unless you have lost a child.
Don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you notice.
Don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up".
Don't tell me "God never makes mistakes".
You mean He did this on purpose?
Don't tell me "at least you had the child for an hour, weeks, years"
What time would you choose for your child to die?
Just let me talk if I want to
Just let me cry when I must
Just say you remember my child if you do
Just say - "I'm sorry"
Just say - "I care"
Tuttie Pelayo
Over the last 12 years Tuttie was a volunteer in Tuolumne County helping parents who lost their children. She was the co-founder, Operations Director and Parents Grief Group facilitator of Dawn's Light, Center for Children and Adults in Grief. This was Tuttie's passion and mission in life. Tuttie was also intrumental in establishing the memorial wall for children at the VNA Hospice.
She was proceded in death by her daughter Kelli Jean Pelayo and her Father Otto "Red" Hefley.
Survied by her husband Arnold Pelayo of the home, two sons and daughters-in-law Jeff and Amy Pelalyo and Michael and Stacy Pelayo, a sister and brother-in-law Bobbie and Oggie Miras of Twain Hart, California, 3 grandsons and one granddaughter, her Mother Eva Hefley-Shaeffer and Step-Father, Frank Shaeffer of Frenso, California. Several Aunts, Uncles and cousins.
Services will be held Monday, July 14, 2008, at Bethel Church in San Jose, California. Interment will be at Oak Hill Memorial Park San Jose, California.
Pallbearers are Jeff Pelayo, Joe Pelayo, Frank Shaeffer, Ryan Brehm, Scott Arquette and Mark Garcia.
Below is a poem Tuttie wrote for the parents who lost children. Named "Please"
Don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be "over" it.
Don't tell me my child is in a better place.
They aren't here.
Don't say "at least they are not suffering"
I haven't come to terms with why my child had to suffer at all.
Don't tell me you know how I feel, unless you have lost a child.
Don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you notice.
Don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up".
Don't tell me "God never makes mistakes".
You mean He did this on purpose?
Don't tell me "at least you had the child for an hour, weeks, years"
What time would you choose for your child to die?
Just let me talk if I want to
Just let me cry when I must
Just say you remember my child if you do
Just say - "I'm sorry"
Just say - "I care"
Tuttie Pelayo
Mary Louise Pelayo passed away in her home, family was at her bed side, in Sonora, California on July 7, 2008 after a long fight with cancer. Known as "Tuttie" to her friends and family was born in Dinuba, California on Sept 29, 1944 to Otto "Red" Hefley and Eva Allen-Hefley. She married Arnold Ralph Pelayo on July 4, 1963 in San Jose, California.
Over the last 12 years Tuttie was a volunteer in Tuolumne County helping parents who lost their children. She was the co-founder, Operations Director and Parents Grief Group facilitator of Dawn's Light, Center for Children and Adults in Grief. This was Tuttie's passion and mission in life. Tuttie was also intrumental in establishing the memorial wall for children at the VNA Hospice.
She was proceded in death by her daughter Kelli Jean Pelayo and her Father Otto "Red" Hefley.
Survied by her husband Arnold Pelayo of the home, two sons and daughters-in-law Jeff and Amy Pelalyo and Michael and Stacy Pelayo, a sister and brother-in-law Bobbie and Oggie Miras of Twain Hart, California, 3 grandsons and one granddaughter, her Mother Eva Hefley-Shaeffer and Step-Father, Frank Shaeffer of Frenso, California. Several Aunts, Uncles and cousins.
Services will be held Monday, July 14, 2008, at Bethel Church in San Jose, California. Interment will be at Oak Hill Memorial Park San Jose, California.
Pallbearers are Jeff Pelayo, Joe Pelayo, Frank Shaeffer, Ryan Brehm, Scott Arquette and Mark Garcia.
Below is a poem Tuttie wrote for the parents who lost children. Named "Please"
Don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be "over" it.
Don't tell me my child is in a better place.
They aren't here.
Don't say "at least they are not suffering"
I haven't come to terms with why my child had to suffer at all.
Don't tell me you know how I feel, unless you have lost a child.
Don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you notice.
Don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up".
Don't tell me "God never makes mistakes".
You mean He did this on purpose?
Don't tell me "at least you had the child for an hour, weeks, years"
What time would you choose for your child to die?
Just let me talk if I want to
Just let me cry when I must
Just say you remember my child if you do
Just say - "I'm sorry"
Just say - "I care"
Tuttie Pelayo
Over the last 12 years Tuttie was a volunteer in Tuolumne County helping parents who lost their children. She was the co-founder, Operations Director and Parents Grief Group facilitator of Dawn's Light, Center for Children and Adults in Grief. This was Tuttie's passion and mission in life. Tuttie was also intrumental in establishing the memorial wall for children at the VNA Hospice.
She was proceded in death by her daughter Kelli Jean Pelayo and her Father Otto "Red" Hefley.
Survied by her husband Arnold Pelayo of the home, two sons and daughters-in-law Jeff and Amy Pelalyo and Michael and Stacy Pelayo, a sister and brother-in-law Bobbie and Oggie Miras of Twain Hart, California, 3 grandsons and one granddaughter, her Mother Eva Hefley-Shaeffer and Step-Father, Frank Shaeffer of Frenso, California. Several Aunts, Uncles and cousins.
Services will be held Monday, July 14, 2008, at Bethel Church in San Jose, California. Interment will be at Oak Hill Memorial Park San Jose, California.
Pallbearers are Jeff Pelayo, Joe Pelayo, Frank Shaeffer, Ryan Brehm, Scott Arquette and Mark Garcia.
Below is a poem Tuttie wrote for the parents who lost children. Named "Please"
Don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be "over" it.
Don't tell me my child is in a better place.
They aren't here.
Don't say "at least they are not suffering"
I haven't come to terms with why my child had to suffer at all.
Don't tell me you know how I feel, unless you have lost a child.
Don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you notice.
Don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up".
Don't tell me "God never makes mistakes".
You mean He did this on purpose?
Don't tell me "at least you had the child for an hour, weeks, years"
What time would you choose for your child to die?
Just let me talk if I want to
Just let me cry when I must
Just say you remember my child if you do
Just say - "I'm sorry"
Just say - "I care"
Tuttie Pelayo
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