Shelley Jo Boitnott

Member for
3 years · 11 months · 22 days
Find a Grave ID
49591729

Bio

I love genealogy and have been researching my family for over 15 years. I joined Find A Grave just under four years ago. I am excited about helping create memorials for decedent's and their families.

In the last four years, I have been in touch with many different people with many different views. Most are kind and are excited to answer questions, share information, transfer memorials, etc. and others think they OWN the memorials and will only give them up upon their demise!! If possible, some will even pass their memorials on to a family member - there is nothing wrong with this unless they are only continuing the same mentality. In my opinion, HOW RUDE!! I personally feel that families should remain together if possible.

PLEASE NOTE: FIND-A-GRAVE HAS UPDATED THE TRANSFER OF MEMORIALS FOR RELATIVES: SEE BELOW:

How can I request to manage a relative's memorial?

Memorials are transferred for relatives with these close relationships: child, spouse/partner, sibling, parent, grandchild, great-grandchild, grandparent, great-grandparent, niece/nephew, great-niece/nephew, aunt/uncle, great-aunt/uncle, or first cousin. This would include adoptive, step and in-law versions of these relationships. If two members are related within these guidelines and both would like to manage the memorial, the member with the closer relationship should be given management.

Always explain your relationship in the request! Keep in mind that the memorial manager may also be related to the memorial and may not make the transfer. You may also want to include your specific interest in the memorial.

To request a transfer on the memorial in question, click on 'Suggest other Corrections' under the 'Suggest Edits' button and type your message to the memorial manager. Be sure to include your relationship to the person and any other reason for the transfer request. This message will be sent to the member, even if there is not an email address listed on their profile.

Need more help? If the memorial in question is a relative to you (within our transfer guidelines) and the memorial manager is NOT family, then they MUST TRANSFER THE MEMORIAL. ****If they refuse to transfer the memorial or do not respond within a reasonable amount of time, contact [email protected] and we will work on it for you. Our transfer guidelines include these close relationships: child, spouse/partner, sibling, parent, grandchild, great-grandchild, grandparent, great-grandparent, niece/nephew, great-niece/nephew, aunt/uncle, great-aunt/uncle, or first cousin.

Please show sensitivity to immediate and extended family members and their requests.
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Please note: Before you send me a nasty note that indicates I have made an error on a memorial, please know that I have NOT created all of the memorials I manage. I have both created and now manage some that other Find-A-Grave contributors created. I am more than happy to make changes provided you have documentation especially when your new edits do NOT support what is stated on the headstone, etc.

If you are sending a change, do NOT email the change to me but rather USE THE SUGGEST EDITS button and PROVIDE MEMORIAL#'S along with the changes. Edits can take up to 30 days to be made; however, most are made within just a few days unless I am on vacation. If you send me an email with changes that could have been processed through the suggested edits, they will NOT be processed. I receive way too many emails and there is a much simpler process for all of us. Thank you so very much!

Thank you and God Bless!
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Taphophilia: an abnormal love for graves and cemeteries. The love of walking cemeteries and finding lost relatives and the gravesites of ancestors.
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THE STORY TELLERS
We are the chosen. In each family, there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again, to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts, but instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe.

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