lejamali

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I have always felt at peace while in cemeteries, I'm sure stemming from spending much time within one with my father from as far back as I remember.I loved being there to pet the "lamby" and see the ducks.What I was too young to comprehend at that young age was that the lamby was actually my brother's gravestone.I was born out of my parents' devastation over the loss of two sons at young ages who both suffered tragic deaths.Less then three years after my birth leukemia took my mother.I have lived a life overshadowed by the loss of many cherished family members.Being at and caring for their grave sites seems to be my way of feeling close to them and having them be part of my life in the only way that they can be now.For this reason cemeteries are not a sad place for me to be but rather a place of peace,calmness and contentment.

For these reasons also I am sure,I have a great respect for these hallowed grounds of one's final resting place.Because of this I have to this date only photographed graves of the family members I knew and were part of my life or those that they knew and had close relationships with themselves.I would not share a grave site on here of someone who did not fall within this catergory unless I had obtained permission from their family members.I know my strong bond to the graves I have shared.Many of them I maintain and care for the actual sites,clean the stones,with the help of my wonderful son,etc.All of them I visit as often as I can.To have someone else without asking permission manage those graves on here that I and my family members past and present feel so strongly about and have paid for and lovingly cared for their physical location over the years is discomforting and hard to comprehend.This why I choose not to do so at this time and only would do it if given the blessing of the family to do so.Going back further generations where there are no living family members or family who had other members alive in their lifetime who knew them lessening any emotional connection to these sites seems less disrespectful though I feel getting permission from any direct ancestors that can be found would be the right thing to do.I also believe this is how most,if not all of my deceased family members would feel on this subject.Writing this I especially feel the overwhelming approval of my beloved grandparents who I am sure would have strong very similar opinions on this matter.They might even disapprove of me doing it,but I'd rather manage the sites on here rather then have someone not related do it.

To anyone sharing family connections to the graves I have put on here I would love to hear from you.If you are uncomfortable with anything I've done please let me know.One of the most wonderful things about doing this is discovering family you do not know you have!

I have always felt at peace while in cemeteries, I'm sure stemming from spending much time within one with my father from as far back as I remember.I loved being there to pet the "lamby" and see the ducks.What I was too young to comprehend at that young age was that the lamby was actually my brother's gravestone.I was born out of my parents' devastation over the loss of two sons at young ages who both suffered tragic deaths.Less then three years after my birth leukemia took my mother.I have lived a life overshadowed by the loss of many cherished family members.Being at and caring for their grave sites seems to be my way of feeling close to them and having them be part of my life in the only way that they can be now.For this reason cemeteries are not a sad place for me to be but rather a place of peace,calmness and contentment.

For these reasons also I am sure,I have a great respect for these hallowed grounds of one's final resting place.Because of this I have to this date only photographed graves of the family members I knew and were part of my life or those that they knew and had close relationships with themselves.I would not share a grave site on here of someone who did not fall within this catergory unless I had obtained permission from their family members.I know my strong bond to the graves I have shared.Many of them I maintain and care for the actual sites,clean the stones,with the help of my wonderful son,etc.All of them I visit as often as I can.To have someone else without asking permission manage those graves on here that I and my family members past and present feel so strongly about and have paid for and lovingly cared for their physical location over the years is discomforting and hard to comprehend.This why I choose not to do so at this time and only would do it if given the blessing of the family to do so.Going back further generations where there are no living family members or family who had other members alive in their lifetime who knew them lessening any emotional connection to these sites seems less disrespectful though I feel getting permission from any direct ancestors that can be found would be the right thing to do.I also believe this is how most,if not all of my deceased family members would feel on this subject.Writing this I especially feel the overwhelming approval of my beloved grandparents who I am sure would have strong very similar opinions on this matter.They might even disapprove of me doing it,but I'd rather manage the sites on here rather then have someone not related do it.

To anyone sharing family connections to the graves I have put on here I would love to hear from you.If you are uncomfortable with anything I've done please let me know.One of the most wonderful things about doing this is discovering family you do not know you have!

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