Bobby and Judy Laney Liles

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Picture taken in a photo booth in Chattanooga, Tn. about 2 months after our marriage of August 7, 1972. I had just gotten home from basic training that night and we were hitting the town. Judy was 15 and I was 18. She had a persona about her that absolutely glowed and a smile that attracted people like a magnet, especially children. It was almost like she was in color in a world of black and white. Our song was, "Only Sixteen" by Dr.Hook. "She was too young to fall in love, and I was too young to know." When we were dating, I serenaded her by singing "Hey Jude" by the Beatles. "Take a sad song and make it better." We were often asked how did we get along so well and how did we manage to stay together for so long. Most importantly, we were best friends. We never tried to change the other, although we did, dramatically. We knew we were not perfect and loved each other unconditionally. A plus for me was, she was down right gorgeous! When mentioned, we were always referred to as Bobby and Judy or Judy and Bobby, depending on which side of the family was doing the referring. Never was one name spoken without the other. After 40 years of bliss, my honey passed Nov. 17, 2012 from toxic encephalitis, brought on from (Avastin) chemotherapy for Non Small Cell Carcinoma and a stupid doctor. I did everything I could think of to protect her, never leaving her side for a year and a half. But sadly, I failed her. Our daughter and son conducted the memorial ceremony. Michelle and her daughters, Payton and Laney, wrapped her ashes in dark blue gift wrap, with a light blue ribbon to represent a gift to Jesus, her savior. She always did look good in blue. At the start of the ceremony they played Walk Right In "Sit right down, Daddy let your mind roll on". and proceeded with Only Sixteen. I started crying and I ain't stopped yet.
If love could have saved you,
You would have lived forever.
You know when I first joined findagrave, I did it as a memorial to my late wife, Judy. She told me before she died to share what we had discovered, that it would die with me if I didn't. We walked the graveyards endlessly in search of our forefathers. It was a wonderful time in our life, one of the many things we shared in common.
In almost all my family memorials, I give her credit for the research because not only does she deserve it, she is mainly responsible for it. Although she was not a member of findagrave, she loved the site and through me, has contributed as much or more than anyone. She was amazingly good at research. She could find that elusive needle in a haystack.
If not for her, good or bad, I would not be here today. She saved my life more than once, literally, mentally and spiritually. To those who only have negative things to say, I respond with the same words that Judy used when angered, "Thank you, for your two cents worth".
So, If you have a photo of your grand parents, just remember, they're your cousins grand parents too. If you have a story or a picture that only you know or have, please tell it or share it. If not it will die with you and will be gone forever.

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