Ron M

Member for
8 years 3 months 14 days
Find a Grave ID
48458376

Bio

Age 59, a retired grumpy old man, living in the Geelong area, Victoria, Australia.

The Find a Grave message system is not for correcting memorials. If you send me a message saying please correct this, please change that, then I will ignore you. That's what edits and Suggest Other Corrections are for. Similarly, if you send me a Suggest Other Correction telling me that the year of birth is wrong and it should be such-and-such, I will ignore that as well. Please send a normal edit to correct stuff like that.

You may notice that many of my memorials have the date of burial recorded instead of the Date of Death. This is not because I prefer it that way as some people actually think, it is because the memorials were created from cemetery lists that only had the date of burial on them. This is not a huge problem anyway because in most cases the date of death is within a few days of the date of the funeral service. I put a note on each memorial explaining that the date is actually the funeral date so that you know the death date could be a few days earlier. As I research them and find out the actual date of death I will be correcting them. Feel free to submit edits to correct the date of death and I will automatically remove the note at the same time.

I'm a stickler for the rules which I agreed to abide by when I became a member of this site, just like you did, but some people think that the rules couldn't possibly apply to them. Don't take photos from the Billion Graves website and put them on Find a Grave memorials. Unless you were the photographer of the original photo then it is a breach of copyright to use these photos unless you have the permission of the copyright holder. You can't just take and use something that doesn't belong to you, that's theft. Besides, most of the photos on the Billion Graves website are pretty poor quality. If you want a better photo of the grave added to the Find a Grave memorial then use the Request Photo button and a member will go and take one for you.

Another thing you should not do is create Burial Unknowns just so you can link a person to a family tree. Find a Grave is not a genealogy site. As the name suggests, its purpose is to record final disposition information to enable someone to "Find the Grave" if they want to go and visit it. Their website even says that, that it's purpose is to record burial information. If you don't know where someone's final resting place is, then you do not create a memorial for them on Find a Grave, it's that simple. When you create a burial unknown, a message appears telling you that you shouldn't really be doing that, so perhaps you should obey that rule because as hard as it might be to believe, the rules actually apply to you as well.

While I do enjoy walking in a cemetery and taking photos for people, it's nice to be acknowledged for doing that, as well as being common courtesy. Most of the cemeteries that I take photos at are at least an hour drive from where I live, and I am often the only person who fills photo requests at those cemeteries. So if you say thank you to me personally via message when I have used my time and money driving for an hour to a cemetery to fulfill a photo request for you, then I will be inclined to and happy to help you again. But if you don't, then I won't, simple as that.

If you have requested a memorial transfer and I haven't responded, it's either because you haven't provided enough information, or you requested it via message instead of by suggest a correction, or your request falls outside of the transfer guidelines. Also, it doesn't take a genius to know that someone born in the early to mid 1800's is NOT your first cousin or your uncle, so lying will get you nowhere. My answer to your request is no.

You can see now why I said at the top that I'm a grumpy old man.

Age 59, a retired grumpy old man, living in the Geelong area, Victoria, Australia.

The Find a Grave message system is not for correcting memorials. If you send me a message saying please correct this, please change that, then I will ignore you. That's what edits and Suggest Other Corrections are for. Similarly, if you send me a Suggest Other Correction telling me that the year of birth is wrong and it should be such-and-such, I will ignore that as well. Please send a normal edit to correct stuff like that.

You may notice that many of my memorials have the date of burial recorded instead of the Date of Death. This is not because I prefer it that way as some people actually think, it is because the memorials were created from cemetery lists that only had the date of burial on them. This is not a huge problem anyway because in most cases the date of death is within a few days of the date of the funeral service. I put a note on each memorial explaining that the date is actually the funeral date so that you know the death date could be a few days earlier. As I research them and find out the actual date of death I will be correcting them. Feel free to submit edits to correct the date of death and I will automatically remove the note at the same time.

I'm a stickler for the rules which I agreed to abide by when I became a member of this site, just like you did, but some people think that the rules couldn't possibly apply to them. Don't take photos from the Billion Graves website and put them on Find a Grave memorials. Unless you were the photographer of the original photo then it is a breach of copyright to use these photos unless you have the permission of the copyright holder. You can't just take and use something that doesn't belong to you, that's theft. Besides, most of the photos on the Billion Graves website are pretty poor quality. If you want a better photo of the grave added to the Find a Grave memorial then use the Request Photo button and a member will go and take one for you.

Another thing you should not do is create Burial Unknowns just so you can link a person to a family tree. Find a Grave is not a genealogy site. As the name suggests, its purpose is to record final disposition information to enable someone to "Find the Grave" if they want to go and visit it. Their website even says that, that it's purpose is to record burial information. If you don't know where someone's final resting place is, then you do not create a memorial for them on Find a Grave, it's that simple. When you create a burial unknown, a message appears telling you that you shouldn't really be doing that, so perhaps you should obey that rule because as hard as it might be to believe, the rules actually apply to you as well.

While I do enjoy walking in a cemetery and taking photos for people, it's nice to be acknowledged for doing that, as well as being common courtesy. Most of the cemeteries that I take photos at are at least an hour drive from where I live, and I am often the only person who fills photo requests at those cemeteries. So if you say thank you to me personally via message when I have used my time and money driving for an hour to a cemetery to fulfill a photo request for you, then I will be inclined to and happy to help you again. But if you don't, then I won't, simple as that.

If you have requested a memorial transfer and I haven't responded, it's either because you haven't provided enough information, or you requested it via message instead of by suggest a correction, or your request falls outside of the transfer guidelines. Also, it doesn't take a genius to know that someone born in the early to mid 1800's is NOT your first cousin or your uncle, so lying will get you nowhere. My answer to your request is no.

You can see now why I said at the top that I'm a grumpy old man.

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