Our family legacy needs to continue:
Each person has a father, mother, & perhaps a spouse or child. We all have a story to be told. Each of us holds a piece of the family puzzle. It takes communication, cooperation, and a lot of patience to put all the pieces together. To find ourselves we have to know where we come from.
Please contact me by email, with any concerns, clarifications. I do not normally check my emails daily or weekly. Remember to include your FAG account number and most importantly, the memorial number of the person in question.
We are all doing our best to present memorials in the best light possible and mistakes can be made. If you feel this is the case, please write.
Other edits: If you have an account with FAG: look for edit tab to make requests. It takes about 30 days for FAG system to process most edits.
Transfers of memorials are a manual process in system. Your patience is appreciated.
If you are a family member of someone I now manage, and they are not a relative of mine, I will consider a transfer to you. PLEASE USE THE EDIT BUTTON with your request to be transferred and include your FAG# and your relationship.
Thanks again --for all you do to make this process continue. Happy Linking your family members.
Notation on Quaker records; I was amazed at how many of my family members were Quakers which taught me a few things:
1) Dating used on these memorials correlates to the OLD STYLE calender, or Julian calendar, prior to March of 1754. In most cases I HAVE NOT used conversions but reflects original records as found. I have painfully coped that information to the memorial (Date of Image) from Friends Monthly Meeting records. As advised from website below, when recording dates found in Quaker records it is preferred to copy them as they are found. Too many times dates are transformed incorrectly. ncgenweb.us/nc/qui/ford/quaker-dates
2) Friends discipline forbade grave markers and in most places the disipline held until mid 19th century If a grave marker was placed for a Friend who died prior to 19th century, it most likely was placed by 20th century descendants.
In some documented instances, Friends went through burial grounds (prior to 19th century) and removed the pile of simple stones, ensuring that no marking were in place.
Some of my Quaker family memorials, have Non Cemetry burial status. They simply were buried due to religious preferences without markers and chose not to be in a formal cemetery burial ground. They are in the ashes of the earth, in natural and greener burials. Simplicity characterized Quaker practices: they often used plain coffins, which were sometimes stacked on top of others, and, although proscribed, they marked graves with nondescript headstones. There practices forbid the dominian of the upper classes even in death and human vanity and believed all were equal before God. Although the Quakers kept wonderful records there are exceptions and instances were records were lost, or not recorded, for some reason. I would like to think that my efforts, created a conduit for some of these family members.
A good question: posted on FAG website 2017;
What if someone was cremated or does not have a traditional 'grave'?
Find A Grave believes everyone deserves to be remembered equally and have built the site to support common alternative dispositions to traditional burial. This includes cremation, lost or buried at sea, and donated to medical science.
Non Cemetery Burials, Lost to history, or unknown burial.
By the late nineteenth century, embalming, undertaking, and funeral directing emerged as masculine occupations, changing funeral and burial practices both locally and nationally. Funeral and burial customs also developed in response to the arrival into the area of diverse populations. Quite simply fear of disease being spread with improper burial, was one of reasons for change.
Most of my work on Family memorials are prior to the mid 19th century, as we can find the later decendants with state records and use of formal cemetery locations for burial.