Tom Nelson

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I'm a retired federal employee who fell into doing some online family research for a friend of mine - a McKenzie - and now I'm in so deep I can't get out! Most of you probably know the feeling. But it's a harmless obsession which I enjoy so I'll stick with it until I pull out the rest of my disappearing hair. I try to post most of my findings on Find A Grave so if you're interested in the McKenzie family who settled in central Missouri after emigrating from North Carolina via Kentucky, just scroll down and enter - mckenzie - in the "Last Name" box and take a look!

As for my own family, some surnames would be Fallas, Fallass, Bray, Oechsli, Mills - all of those in the northeastern quadrant of the lower 48 - and, on the Swedish side, Nilsson and Waldemarsson in the province of Skåne län.

See here for some interesting information about the Find A Grave name fields:

I sent the following note "declining" another member's - 50228812 - suggestion that I "correct" what was shown as a "maiden" name:


Find A Grave is currently reassessing the "rules" for the "name" fields. Please visit this discussion:

In cases where someone's name at birth is ENTIRELY different from the one they used during their lifetime - such as with folks who leave the "old country" for a "new" one - I will oftentimes use the entire "foreign name" as a "maiden" name in order to assist family from the "old" country to find their relatives in the "new" country. And I think that FaG is going to change the rules on this. So maybe we should wait to see what happens in the near (?) future.

And this will explain why I am also declining your suggestion on the memorial for my grandmother Matilda (Waldemarsson) Nelson.

But thanks anyway for contacting me about this.

Tom in Kansas City, Missouri"

This is a rather odd memorial with an even odder name:

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