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I'm not adding many memorials anymore SINCE PEOPLE JUST STEAL THEM. I'VE decided my time is better spent CRAWLING UP AND DOWN THE CONTRIBUTORS LIST OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE STOLEN MEMORIALS or just in general been the wanna be CEO'S of FAG. I've noticed in just one week how certain people are preaching and they have a ridiculous amount of duplicates. I guess if they took the time to clean up their own site then they wouldn't have so much energy to harrass others. But it's ok... I'm here to help! If you must STEAL my memorials, just feel the need to difficult, or even rude...I intend to move to your page until I'm positive you don't have one error left...


I don't add a birth location just because a an obit says native of "wherever". I had 12 edits yesterday because of "native" locations that I didn't add. Example...My obit will most likely say I was a native of "wherever", and while everyone assumes I was born there...I wasn't. We had our on hospital, but my Mama didn't like it, so she chose to drive 40 miles down the road to a completely different city/county to have me in a hospital she preferred. You can't go by "native" and be correct.

The south is known for its hospitality. I was born and raised here, but lately I'm ashamed of a small area. Mainly Toombs, Emanuel, Treutlen, and Montgomery Counties. The volunteers in these areas need to remember you are just that...volunteers, not CEOS of FAG. You're not perfect, nor are your memorials. Your attitudes are even worse. You talk down to everyone with overly inflated egos like they are dogs you can kick anytime you want. Then as soon as someone points as your mistakes or puts you in your place...you start crying..Don't threaten me,Dont mess with me, you don't know who I've already messaged, Don't talk to to me that way because I'm old or you don't know who I know, or my favorite...I'll go to the law and lock you up. Why? Because I pointed out you were wrong? Because you took my pic of my valid memorial, and added to your duplicate memorial? The people of these counties where I grew up absolutely embarrass me with their behavior. Please stop trying to intimidate others, and work on yourself. After that you won't feel the need the need to tear others down. If you send me any of the messages I want to thank you for the laugh of the day at the very least. I'm not out to get anyone. I'm out to honor those passed on. I'm not out to get fame ratings by posting flowers on every memorial I see or using obit photos to increase fame ratings for photos added. I'm out to see that people aren't forgotten. I'm out to see their name listed. Im out to see their gravestone posted, because family has personal photos, but they may not ever see their grave.

Please do NOT take pics from the funeral home obit and add then to memorials. These are the still under copyright of the family. The owner only gave permission for use to to the funeral home, NOT TO US. I think it is the family's right to add a photo when they choose. Not everyone appreciates the sight of a loved one on FAG. Everyone deals with grief differently and everyone should be respected for it. I am reporting the ones I find so they can be removed. Some people don't realize I didn't post the pic so I'm taking your beating for it. Some think that because a pic is on the internet that you are allowed to use it, but that's wrong. The copyright still stands. The internet is the new version of encyclopedias when we were in school. If you can't copy from the encyclopedia then you can't copy from the internet.

Can I add an obituary to my interment listing?
Can I ADD an OBITUARY to my internment listing (FAG Memorial)?
Please do NOT add NEWSPAPER ARTICLES or OBITUARY SCANS. The photo section is reserved for headstone/grave photos and possibly a portrait photo of the person, IF that PHOTO is OWNED BY YOU. Do NOT copy and post photographs from OBITUARY or FUNERAL HOME WEBSITES (unless YOU PERSONALLY ARE the PHOTOGRAPHER), as they ARE PROTECTED by COPYRIGHT LAW. Find A Grave reserves the right to REMOVE OBITUARY NOTICES and PHOTOGRAPHS from memorial records. Obituaries for individuals are usually written by newspaper staff and CAN NOT be posted to Find A Grave as the NEWSPAPER COMPANY OWNS that COPYRIGHT. Please do NOT include WEBSITE ADDRESSES that may be listed in the obituary as they usually expire within a year after the obituary is printed.

If you and I have duplicates then please send me an email thru the memorial in question. I am not deleting just because you say so. I will send both memorial numbers to Find A Grave. If your memorial is verified as the original and you have not back dated, flipped, or swapped memorials then they will merge the two. I am currently checking my memorials against others to check for duplicates. When I find them I am notifying FAG to check for back dating. I go out of my way to avoid duplicates but some people are determined to have a memorial at all costs. I check back for several days after I add a memorial and I am aware of these popping up. If you want to be sneaky and have mine deleted I'm sending my records to FAG to find out why you had to be sneaky. So if you aren't back dating... you win :)

When I first started volunteering for FAG things were so different and so much better. People were kinder, more considerate, and respectful of others work. Back then people did this not for the numbers, but the enjoyment and the quiet pride you found in honoring a person by creating their memorial. Back then you would trip over other FAG members in the cemetery, and today cemeteries are virtually empty of volunteers. Today very few brave the cemeteries in all different temperatures because they can simply sit on their butts in the ac while adding obits so maybe instead of Find A Grave it should be called Find An Obit. When I started volunteering a lot of graves, if not whole cemeteries were forgotten and neglected. A couple of years later I noticed things were changing for the good. A lot of volunteers helped clean up graves while they searched, but Find A Grave itself made a huge difference. Family members and communities started caring how things looked. I've had family members contact me to say they cleaned up a loved ones grave and could an old pic of the grave be deleted so a prettier one could be put up. In short...Find A Grave probably shamed a lot of people into action, but it also motivated others. If we all continue to sit home and enjoy the ac...Our cemeteries will suffer. Add the obits but get out in the trenches if you can. Find A Grave is based on just that...FINDING A GRAVE.

If I don't answer you right away...I HAVE A LIFE and it's not FAG 24/7. Sometimes I just get sick to death of bad attitudes, busy bodies, and key board gangsters. You know the ones that cuss you out and then when you cuss back they reply...I'm elderly and you shouldn't talk to me that way...There's no excuse for ugly at any age. Be nice to me and I'll be nice to you. This ain't got to be hard!!! I also take the time to go over every edit since people love to remove an original memorial, and replace it with their freshly made duplicate. Please be patient.

I don't even respond or read nasty emails from ugly people. If you send me ugly...I'll forward it to FAG to handle. I use GPS, street signs, and common sense when adding graves to cemeteries. I have one women who cusses me out on a regular basis because I don't use directions she evidently got from Grandma 40 years ago. My Grandmas directions have been useful to me but the state of Georgia doesn't care where my Grandma thought the county line was. For the record I make mistakes and I try to correct them when made aware of them and unlike this woman's theory...I really don't move bodies at night from one cemetery to another just to make her mad :)

I have a fairly large number of memorials which sets me up for every idiot on a mission for glory. The majority of them were added directly from a cemetery, not the local obit line. That says I'm NOT here for numbers or glory. I DO IT SO NO ONE IS FORGOTTEN. Transfers are done strictly by FAG guidelines. Direct descendents only. I will consider a request under special circumstances. I'm not stingy. I just want to know that if a child wants their parent that I didn't give it to a second cousin twice removed who has no intention of transferring it the correct person without a fight.

And PLEASE we all work hard in our way to contribute to Find A Grave in our own way so lets all be nice to one another. This site is a wonderful site but some people have let it go their heads. I am not perfect in any way and I welcome corrections but preferably from a fellow imperfect find a grave member who understands mistakes do happen not someone who thinks they can treat me like I'm am idiot. Treat others as you want to treated. God Bless You And Please Lets All Be Nice to Each Other.

FAG Guidelines
How do I enter all married names for a woman's memorial when she was married more than once?

The 'last name' is the name that is on the headstone. Include other married names as part of the biography section. The 'maiden name' is only for the maiden name.
Translation...I'm adding the maiden name and the most recent married name. All other married names I will LIST in the bio section.

Can I add a memorial from a newspaper obituary or other 3rd party source?

Find A Grave does not discourage the legitimate indexing of the deceased through obituaries or other 3rd party accounts. Newspapers represent a very good source of information as a public record. We ask that those who index and memorialize the deceased from newspapers and other 3rd party accounts do so with full respect of copyright, refrain from adding information about living people, and respond generously to the family of the deceased. Find A Grave takes no position on the appropriate timing of submitting such indexes.

How do I get a relative's memorial transferred to me?

Transfer requests will be for direct relatives within four generations. This would be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

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