Joan Mays

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13 years · 1 month · 6 days
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At a time like this we need to be kind to each other. I myself got caught up in an online argument about my handling of my memorials. Needless to say it escalated.
It is easy to say hurtful things to people you aren't face to face with. At this time when most of us are social distancing and working and communicating online we should have respect for each other. We don't know what people are dealing with in their personal lives.

I previously asked that death certificates not be posted on my memorials. I think it is strange that the manager of a memorial has no control over what is added. I am seeing more death certificates posted on my memorials. I give up. If I do see death certificates posted on my family members I will request that they are removed. As I stated before do we need to have the details of someone's death posted on the memorial. The death certificates show homicides and suicides as cause of death and graphic descriptions of injuries. Do we really need this information on a memorial?

When I started this journey Find a Grave was not a genealogy site. OI am working on editing my memorials "properly." I seem to be receiving edits that are incorrectly linking family members. PLEASE be sure this information is correct.

I am told I am one of the snarky people I complain about. If I have offended anyone I am truly sorry.

Please be patient with me. I have been in the hospital for two weeks battling covid.

I am getting a lot of genealogy questions. Just because I added a memorial does not mean I am related.

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