Elaine Micklo

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10 years · 7 months · 8 days
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I grew up in the city of Duquesne. We have a huge family from the Duquesne and West Mifflin area.

I found this site 7 years ago, after losing the love of my life, my husband Ray. I was trying to find where his brother was buried and was very excited to find him here. I also found my husband's mother and her family. I joined find a grave and posted a memorial for my husband, and through the hard work of others, I was able to connect him with his parents and brothers.

Just this past year there have been four deaths in our family; five counting our beloved Priest.
I was able to connect these family members with other family members from other cemeteries. I have found creating memorials of my loved ones has also been a source of healing for me while going through the grieving process.

Nearly 20 years ago, my sister & I began our journey to find out more about our family. Things have certainly changed since we use to go to the library looking through a ton of microfiche, walking cemeteries, writing letters and sending for records. With the advent of Ancestry and sites such as this anyone can find their ancestors with the touch of a few keys. I love that more and more cemeteries are putting their records on Find A Grave and other sites.

My sister's focus has been putting our ancestors in the context of the history and culture they lived in. Grandparents who came to America as Indentured Servants, who were land barons, spending time in the poor house, held political office, fought in wars, all those things you learn about in history class...my ancestors were a part of. Customs we still have today came from them. Everyone of them not only went into who we are as a family, but how their communities developed as well.

I, on the other hand, have always love pictures. Telling the Family History through photographs is especially thrilling. I love posting our ancestors pictures and seeing pictures of other peoples ancestors. One of my favorite parts of Find A Grave is the ability to post those photos.

I also love that I can visit my loved ones here at Find A Grave when I am unable to visit the cemetery myself. It's been such a blessing for those that live out of state as well.

To give something back for all the hard work of the volunteers who posted my family, and for those thousands upon thousands who digitized all the records out there on the internet, my sister and I research others and post them on Find A Grave. In the course of our research those families become a part of us and teach us more about our own ancestors thus becoming a part of the bigger story. I think it's important to remember those who went on before us. Find A Grave allows us to remember and honor them long after we are gone. It is our hope that the families of the people we post will come across our memorials and rediscover the rich history of their own family.

The community of researchers and posters is a special one of which I am glad to be a part. I have connected with cousins that I never would have met if it wasn't for Find A Grave. People who don't care about their family history can never understand why we do the work we do and what a labor of love it is.

I am very happy to transfer memorials we create into the care of their family; as per Find A Grave rules. I will not delete the ones that have been created unless someone posted one before I did. There are other family members who are connected to ones that were created and other relatives who are glad to find them here.

We are related to the Wilcox, Simon, Zewe, Bach, Daerr, Buchleitner, Steimer, Schulte, Woll, Gorney, Loughner, Barker, Denne, Micklo, Coulter, Whitney .........just to name a few.

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