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Coimetromania (Ko-metro-MANE-ia): An abnormal attraction and desire to visit cemeteries.

SOURCES: When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

TRANSFERS: Family belongs with family! Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. Requests for your family and friends will all be considered individually. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer.

PHOTO SUGGESTIONS: Get in close! A small border of “white space” makes a nice “frame,” but filling the photo mostly with the grave marker better serves the objective, especially with flat ground markers. Stand back! Posting a broad shot of the grave, or family plot, can help others with location. Check for reflections! Smooth granite markers act like mirrors and it doesn’t look very nice, if your form is visible in the photo. Try shooting from a a bit of an angle. Be aware! It doesn’t look very nice, either, if your tennis shoes, kids, dogs, car, etc. end up in the photo. Clean grave markers make for better photos, too. Consider photographing after a good rain shower to minimize having to photograph bird droppings. It seems safe enough, too, to brush off leaves, or grass clippings, with your hand—no use of damaging brushes! Above all, please just do your best to take nice photos, as you would wish for your own family.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

MY PHOTOS: Those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on ancestry.com, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


Thank you to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, thank you to the photo volunteers who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!

Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state.

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