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If you have an extra moment, pls visit the memorial for a courageous, wonderful young man, Jack Williams. He was a 15-year-old Boy Scout who volunteered at the temporary hospital set up at John Marshall High School during the Influenza epidemic of 1918. According to the cemetery website, he worked "until he was exhausted, he died of influenza", another victim of the 1918 pandemic.
(A couple decades later, my daddy attended John Marshall High School.)

3/2021 - I'm so very sorry that I've been inactive on the site for so long. The illnesses that I have got much worse Sep 2012 & continued to progressively worsen to the point where I pretty much just slept in bed all of the time. I wasn't deliberately ignoring anyone. It just got to where it was either too painful or I was too fatigued to even sit up in bed. I'm not well, but want to get back to my usual system of taking care of SACs as soon as possible. Thanks so much for your understanding.

Please only send edits, corrections, additions, etc. from the memorial itself by clicking the SUGGEST EDITS button. If you have information that does not "fit" into one of the fields provided, scroll down & there is a link to click for other information & you can type in that area.
That is the easiest way for corrections, etc. to be properly made & the proper way to request it. Thanks so much!

To my dismay, I've discovered that so many, 5,000+ - almost 1/3 of the memorials I made for my ancestors, family members & others over the years have been transferred to other people.
Apparently my email, which I used for my genealogy website, Find a Grave & other sites, went over the limit so it was deleted. I wasn't notified & had no clue that Find a Grave couldn't get in touch w/ me.
My parents, grandparents, great grandparents (great +), brother, aunts, uncles & cousins (including great+), in laws, etc. along with thousands of other memorials I made were transferred.
I've spent countless hours making memorials for my family & others; trying to find as many as possible that I didn't have the location, take photos of their headstones if I could get to their graves & make memorials for them here as "my connection" to them. Not to mention the countless hours I've spent trying to research individuals I've made memorials for to get more information for them & hopefully link them to their families.
I've been linking people on this site with HTML links long before it was a feature on Find a Grave. All of that effort for my family as well as thousands+ of other people that I wasn't (to my knowledge) related to so hopefully their family members could find them. And the large amount of $ spent for cameras, sd cards, computers, computer equipment, gas, wear & tear on my car, etc. spent to travel to cemeteries in various places near & far from my home.
After knowing I was ill & being in daily pain along w/ having some other inconvenient symptoms, such as losing my balance frequently, I still went to nearby cemeteries (taking my son with me in case something happened where I would need help - he was a boy scout & seemed to enjoy wandering around - especially cemeteries like Hollywood in Richmond that have lots of hills & is a beautiful cemetery. He was a good sport to go with me so I could continue to visit graves & photograph headstones as long as I could.)
In addition to other illnesses, in 2019 I was diagnosed with 2 more illnesses - these are progressive & don't have cures. I would ask that people leave the memorials I've created with me (unless they're your family member) until after I've passed away.
Many of the memorials I've seen that were transferred don't have anything added or fixed. And so far I've found 2 where the person had a memorial I made transferred to them, then remade the memorial & deleted the memorial I made (in 1 case cropping my name off of the photo I took & reusing that picture on the new memorial they made).
Instead of just going around asking to "manage" memorials that other members have made, why not grow the site by doing the hard work of finding where people are buried & making more new memorials that aren't already listed? Or researching people who have memorials & having more information added to those like I do?

If you have been transferred management of memorials that I made, especially any of my family memorials (they're most all marked by flowers I put on them stating "My family" or "My ancestor"), I would truly appreciate it if you would please transfer them back to me.

If I have created, or have management, of one if your family members memorials (that is not my family - those I'll deal w/ on a case by case basis) & you would like the memorial transferred to you, please send me a request & include your relationship to the person. I have some memorials that I've had more than 1 person ask for & those are a dilemma. I'd prefer memorials to be maintained by family, but I don't want to slight anyone by chosing 1 family member over another. Stating your exact relationship sometimes helps resolve those dilemmas.
Thank you so much!
Sorry if any of this sounds harsh, but I'm at the end of my rope with some of the nonsense going on here lately, so want to make it clear:


2) If you have information to add to a memorial I've made, PLEASE let me know in 1 message (do not send a separate message for each piece of info) via the suggest a correction feature from the memorial. Include names & memorial numbers when referring to other memorials. I really appreciate information that make positive and accurate additions or corrections to memorials. Do not send copyrighted material as I won't put that on my memorials. Most pre 1922 obituaries are in the public domain, otherwise, submit an originally written bio & if I can use that, I'll give you credit for it as per Find A Grave guidelines.

3) I DON'T link to longtime "burial unknown" memorials. Find A Grave FAQs - "How do I add a memorial when I'm not sure what cemetery they are buried?
This is similar to adding a memorial for cremation. Do not create a new cemetery which does not exist in order to add these memorials. Location of body unknown should be used for recent deaths where the disposition is not currently known. Final disposition should be determined and updated within 30 days."

This is FIND a GRAVE, not guess a grave or plop a grave, not a family tree site, etc - make sure you know where someone is really buried before making a memorial and DON'T deliberately MAKE DUPLICATE MEMORIALS. It takes a lot of time to research, check to make sure the person isn't already listed & then make a memorial - I get quite annoyed when my time & effort is wasted because someone couldn't read & follow the basic rules of Find A Grave. I don't delete memorials I've made in favor of a duplicate that was made after mine.

4) If you would like a memorial transferred to you, include your relationship to the person. If the transfer request does not fall within the 4 generation FAG guidelines - I don't transfer to the individuals who "plop" people into cemeteries where they aren't buried, make "Guess a Graves", fake memorials (all those old "burial unknowns"), etc. I also don't transfer to name collectors. Virtual cemeteries are the place to "gather" family and other groups of people on FindAGrave. If you have information to add to a memorial, please submit it via the "Suggest a correction" feature (as I stated above). Please don't ask for transfer of my family members, many of which are marked with a "flower" stating they are my ancestor or family.

5) "Nastygrams" will be completely ignored. No clue why some people using this site are so rude but I don't tolerate it.

6) Photos that I've taken & posted on this site and my genealogy web site belong to me and are NOT public domain and MAY NOT BE COPIED, with the exception that their family members are allowed to make one copy of a photo to maintain in their personal files for their personal use only (DO NOT post ANYWHERE online). They may not be republished in any form - Including reposting them on another FindAGrave memorial, anywhere online, or publishing in other way (I've found quite a few who didn't listen & copied & reposted here & elsewhere online & have them taken down each time I find them). If you have a web site and want the picture of the headstone on it, include a link to the FindAGrave memorial instead. To prevent any of the photos I have taken winding up in a publication that someone sells for personal profit, I maintain this policy (if I want my photos sold, I will do it myself). The only exception I can think of is if a well known reputable non profit organization (Historical society, Cemetery, etc). would like to use them in a publication where the profits are used to preserve records, restore cemeteries, something along those lines, please contact me with specific details as that is something I would consider allowing. I have the originals of the majority (probably all despite several computer & hard drive crashes) of the photos I have taken.

I've recorded all of the Confederate soldiers buried on Memorial Hill at Blandford Cemetery in Petersburg that I could find who didn't have memorials. The majority of the soldiers buried on Memorial Hill are either buried in unmarked graves or mass graves with 1 marker indicating they state they served from. Petersburg was under siege from Jun 1864 to Apr 1865. "There are over 30,000 Confederate Soldiers buried on these grounds. Most are buried in mass graves without individual markers. They are buried by their State of origin when known. Those who could not be identified by name or state are buried with stone markers simply marked Unknown . . . "(source

During the siege, Blandford Church was only approximately 3/4 of a mile away from the siege lines & was utilized as a hospital. A confederate redoubt stood approximately where Ward DD (new ground) is now. (source: National Register of Historic Places Application) During this time, most deceased soldiers were buried in temporary graves throughout Petersburg or where they died & later moved to Blandford after the war.

If you have an extra moment, pls visit the memorial for a wonderful young man, Jack Williams. He was a 15-year-old Boy Scout who volunteered at the temporary hospital set up at John Marshall High School during the Influenza epidemic of 1918. According to the cemetery website, he worked "until he was exhausted, he died of influenza".

~~ P.S. -- Hugs & thanks to my awesome FindAGrave friends that have taken pics for me & given more info about entries I've made :)

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