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 Flora Belle “Fay” <I>Shapiro</I> Schneider

Flora Belle “Fay” Shapiro Schneider

Greensburg, Westmoreland County, Pennsylvania, USA
Death 3 Sep 1987 (aged 82)
Ladue, St. Louis County, Missouri, USA
Burial University City, St. Louis County, Missouri, USA
Memorial ID 99466705 · View Source
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Faye earned her undergraduate degree from the University of Pittsburgh. She earned advanced preparation in Social Work from the University of Chicago. She was a substitute teacher in St. Louis city schools and for the Ladue School district in St. Louis County.

"Aunt Fay", as she was lovingly referred to by the family, was known for her "folksy" quotes. Some of the more memorable ones are:

1. "Better to have rich relatives than poor ones. The rich ones will never ask you for money."
2. "If you don't like the food, you can take over the kitchen any time you want."
3. "I would trade in all my modern household appliances for one good old fashioned slave."

Faye died at the age of 82.



Flora Belle (Fay) Shapiro Schneider was born in Greensburg PA. She had three sisters --Gertie, Hilda, and Charlotte. Her father started as a peddler but by the time Fay was born he had opened a clothing store. Their house in the Jewish section of Greensburg was the first to have indoor plumbing. She graduated Greensburg High School and went on to the University of Pittsburgh where she graduated with a degree in sociology.

Against her family's wishes she left Pennsylvania to pursue a career in social work. She ended up in St. Louis where she managed an office which provided social services. Some of her compatriots remained friends for life. When she married Sam Schneider in 1934 she retired from social work, although much later after her children left home, she became a substitute teacher in the St. Louis schools.

She was a supporter of Zionist causes, and also enjoyed traditional Judaism. She went to services at B'Nai Amoona virtually every Saturday and enjoyed meeting her friends and relatives (including cousin Delores Saks). With the exception of Grandma and Grandpa Schneider, all of the St. Louis Schneiders were Reform Jews. My mother made sure that the whole family was exposed to a traditional Seder every year. She also had many Chanukah parties. She could read Hebrew and knew the liturgy, but she was very traditional and refused to be called up on the bimah to say the Torah blessings.

She loved to read and was very active in the Wednesday literary club. She had very strong ideas about raising children. Each of us was expected to work hard at school, attend Hebrew School, play an instrument, learn to swim and dance, learn to drive, go to summer camp, and in general acquire a set of skills that would be useful in our future lives. She was neither a good swimmer or dancer and hoped her children would not follow in her footsteps.

She was a good cook, but did not consider that to be high priority in running the household. Together with our maid Thelma she made sure that the household was run efficiently and smoothly.

She pushed each of us to succeed, frequently telling us that there were always more obstacles to be overcome. I think she was afraid that each of us would fail.

I think she was a bit disappointed that her three children left St. Louis depriving her of frequent contact with her grandchildren. On the other hand, the grandchildren always looked forward to their trips to St. Louis and she enjoyed the chance to see their educational and social progress.

She was a courageous person and suffered from arthritis near the end of her life. Always the stoic, she refused to have an operation that might have brought her relief.

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  • Find A Grave Memorial 99466705
  • Find A Grave, database and images ( : accessed ), memorial page for Flora Belle “Fay” Shapiro Schneider (7 Oct 1904–3 Sep 1987), Find A Grave Memorial no. 99466705, citing Bnai Amoona Cemetery, University City, St. Louis County, Missouri, USA ; Maintained by Steven Weinreich (contributor 46968054) .