Boyd Esther <I>Stout</I> Gay

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Boyd Esther Stout Gay

  • Birth 29 Aug 1912 Waurika, Jefferson County, Oklahoma, USA
  • Death 5 Dec 1995 Bakersfield, Kern County, California, USA
  • Burial Bakersfield, Kern County, California, USA
  • Plot Acacia annex; block 74, lot 1-D
  • Memorial ID 80783536

Boyd Esther Gay, 83, passed away December 5, 1995 in Bakersfield CA.
Mrs. Gay was born August 29, 1912 in Waurika, Oklahoma and had resided in Kern County for 48 years. She was a member of the Nazarene Church and Ladies Home League of the Salvation Army. Mrs. Gay was preceded in death by her husband, Henry Gay and son David Allan Gay. Survivors include her sons Elmer (spouse; Rose), J. W. (Laura), Leslie (Linda), Bruce ( Jan) and Vernon (Cindy) Gay; daughters Janet Dresser, Joyce Lombardi (Edwin), Mary Ann Eversole, and Wanda Faye Sheppard. 41 grandchildren and 45 great-grandchildren. (Bakersfield Californian, Dec., 1995).

Boyd married King Henry Gay on Nov 18, 1928 in Waurika Oklahoma.

Notes from Joyce Gay- Lombardi:
My mother was pregnant 17 times and gave birth to 10 children (7 miscarriages). Raised them without welfare, and with a low income. We always had food on the table, hand me down cloths and shoes, a roof over our heads and plenty of imagination for thinking of ways to play. No TV, no computer, no electronic games, very few real toys, no telephone, no cell phone, and no fast food places to eat. We played with what was available and had a great time doing it. Empty matchboxes were our cars, dirt roads and mud houses made up our miniature towns. A lot of our panties were made with fabric from sacks of flour. Elastic was cut from automobile tire tubes. Toy guns were L shaped pieces of wood with a spring clothespin attached and rubber bands for ammunition. Spit wads and straws were more combat weapons. Worn out clothes were used for rag mops or cut up for quilts.
When we lived on a farm in the early 1950's we used an out house (toilet).
Mom carried water to the house from down the road, Used this water for cooking, laundry and bathing. She cooked on a kerosene stove. A box like oven fit over one burner for baking. Mother did not use recipes from a book, they were all in her head. She was a great cook. We loved holidays when she made a special effort to make pies, she had to make 6 pies every time. We swam in the farm water reservoir and picked wild asparagus, mushrooms and flowers. Mom liked this small token from us. Welfare did not exist for us but neighbors helped neighbors and the churches gave us baskets for holidays they were greatly appreciated. I loved the attitude of people then. I now realize how hard life was for her and can really appreciate the sacrifices she made for us. She was a wonderful person. May God bless our dear mother.

I found this note by Janet;
Mother was a home-maker who did all her cooking using her own recipes. (I do not think she ever owned a cookbook). She made clothing for all her children and grandchildren (and used the scrap fabric to make quilts). She loved to play games (cards, dice, board), loved music and Christian singing (taught her daughters a lot of gospel hymns). Used to haul her children to the cotton fields. Would cook pots of beans at end of field for lunch. She was a member of the Faith Nazarene Church and later went to Christian Assembly church.

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  • Created by: Joyce Gay
  • Added: 21 Nov 2011
  • Find A Grave Memorial 80783536
  • Find A Grave, database and images ( : accessed ), memorial page for Boyd Esther Stout Gay (29 Aug 1912–5 Dec 1995), Find A Grave Memorial no. 80783536, citing Greenlawn Memorial Park, Bakersfield, Kern County, California, USA ; Maintained by Joyce Gay (contributor 47659114) .