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 Lance Raney Robert Groft

Lance Raney Robert Groft

Birth
York County, Pennsylvania, USA
Death 21 Dec 2000 (aged 59)
New Orleans, Orleans Parish, Louisiana, USA
Burial Annville, Lebanon County, Pennsylvania, USA
Plot 24D 101
Memorial ID 6284637 · View Source
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He is survived by his father, Vincent E. Groft, a brother Garth Groft and a son Lance E. Groft.

Childhood came and went too quickly. Old photographs bear witness to the fact that we spent a lot of time together. So we grew up together and then went our separate ways. Now he is gone and the phrase, Lance, "we hardly knew ye" echoes over and over in my mind.

When Lance left York, I always wondered where he was and what his circumstances were. Although he returned home briefly from time to time, I saw his great struggle but nothing I could say or do seemed to address his needs. The last time he visited me he challenged my loyalty to him. He called me later to say that he had come to realize that he was wrong about me. He told me that I was OK after all.

Many years passed without hearing a word from him. I did not learn about his recent circumstances until he admitted himself into the VA Medical Center in New Orleans and my Dad and I went there to see him. Our visit to the area provided some very pleasant surprises. The first was his apartment residence within a large plantation style home in the New Orleans Garden District. This historic home, with its large exterior staircase, still stands today majestically surrounded by live oaks, crepe myrtle trees and an ornate wrought iron fence. Even today, there is a great sense of tranquility there. As I stood on these grounds, I felt that this of all places might have offered Lance the peace he had always been looking for.

My dad and I met his neighbors, John and Kathy, and his landlord, John who spoke very highly of Lance. His landlord, who was a leader in the community, gave us a tour of the Garden District and while doing so pointed out to us that Lance had painted part or all of every house in the Garden District, including his own French cottage. He spoke with great pride of Lance, both as a friend and a professional. He emphasized that Lance's work was impeccable. His landlord's wife also praised Lance – telling us of his kind spirit and big heart.

Lance was named for Lancelot, the most legendary of the Knights of the Round Table. Clearly our mother was deeply affected by the romantic Camelot tales as my name also came from the same source. I always thought that the selection of these names said a lot about our mother's dreams for us. Thankfully, she had the wisdom to use the modern spellings. As best I can recall, Lance's second name, Raney, was for the Doctor who delivered him. His third name, Robert, was for our mother's brother whom she loved very much.

I suppose our mother hoped that naming us for two of the Knights of the Round Table of Camelot might somehow provide us with a little extra inspiration, strength, courage, and adventurous spirit. I do not know whether Lance ever realized her dream for him, but somehow he did acquire an adventurous spirit at quite an early age. And whatever his shortcomings - and there were many - I do think he tried to be courageous and strong. I am sure that he deeply regretted that he had never found a way to maintain a lasting family relationship, particularly with his son, Lance. I sincerely believe that he strived for what was best and gave it his best, and I suppose that is all that can be asked of any of us.

Wrote by his brother Garth Groft.


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  • Created by: Gloria Ehrhart Miller
  • Added: 23 Mar 2002
  • Find A Grave Memorial 6284637
  • Find A Grave, database and images (https://www.findagrave.com : accessed ), memorial page for Lance Raney Robert Groft (11 Oct 1941–21 Dec 2000), Find A Grave Memorial no. 6284637, citing Indiantown Gap National Cemetery, Annville, Lebanon County, Pennsylvania, USA ; Maintained by Gloria Ehrhart Miller (contributor 46524864) .