My 92 year old aunt Betty just died. She was the last of the older generation in my immediate family. Her last gift to me was to say, ‘I love you and I am proud of you.’ As a 64 year old man, I cried.
Betty and her husband, Jim, never had children. Therefore my two brothers and a sister were her children. As a younger person I did not think much about the older generations in the family. Once I had a daughter I realized that she needed to know who she was and from whom she came. That is how I came to create a family tree with more than 5000 people.
I learned that each person was a unique individual with a life story that was sometimes similar, but yet different. Some died as children during birth, others died from disease, a few died during a war, and many more lived long lives.
Names were often given to children to honor specific family members or perhaps carry on the name into the future. I was fortunate to have discussions with some of the older generation before they died, but mostly I was able to learn about them through photos, family stories, documents and obituaries.
I never anticipated how my work on a family tree would affect or influence me. However, I must admit that these 5000 family members has formed me in many ways.
The most obvious are the physical traits I have that come down through the generations via our DNA. For example, Aunt Betty many years ago saw the actor Richard Farnsworth and stated that he must be related to her father, William Farnsworth. Not because the name was the same, but they looked like brothers. It took me years, but I was able to prove that they were related with the common link six generations ago.
After my mother’s death I began to see how much she influenced me. I concluded that she imprinted her values and beliefs on me and that I am a reflection of her and the continuation of her life—a chain of life that goes back to the beginning of human life on earth. That is a powerful thought.
I am fortunate that Aunt Betty was with us for so long. I needed her around to help me better understand my mother and family. Yes I was not her son, but that is not important. She was important in my life and I will miss her deeply.
My 92 year old aunt Betty just died. She was the last of the older generation in my immediate family. Her last gift to me was to say, ‘I love you and I am proud of you.’ As a 64 year old man, I cried.
Betty and her husband, Jim, never had children. Therefore my two brothers and a sister were her children. As a younger person I did not think much about the older generations in the family. Once I had a daughter I realized that she needed to know who she was and from whom she came. That is how I came to create a family tree with more than 5000 people.
I learned that each person was a unique individual with a life story that was sometimes similar, but yet different. Some died as children during birth, others died from disease, a few died during a war, and many more lived long lives.
Names were often given to children to honor specific family members or perhaps carry on the name into the future. I was fortunate to have discussions with some of the older generation before they died, but mostly I was able to learn about them through photos, family stories, documents and obituaries.
I never anticipated how my work on a family tree would affect or influence me. However, I must admit that these 5000 family members has formed me in many ways.
The most obvious are the physical traits I have that come down through the generations via our DNA. For example, Aunt Betty many years ago saw the actor Richard Farnsworth and stated that he must be related to her father, William Farnsworth. Not because the name was the same, but they looked like brothers. It took me years, but I was able to prove that they were related with the common link six generations ago.
After my mother’s death I began to see how much she influenced me. I concluded that she imprinted her values and beliefs on me and that I am a reflection of her and the continuation of her life—a chain of life that goes back to the beginning of human life on earth. That is a powerful thought.
I am fortunate that Aunt Betty was with us for so long. I needed her around to help me better understand my mother and family. Yes I was not her son, but that is not important. She was important in my life and I will miss her deeply.
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