Remembered sayings by Edwin...
"Do the best you know how at the time, and that's all you can do".
"Don't quit, keep moving. Because when you're done, you're done".
"It'd be nice to think so".
"Raising children is like teaching them how to ride a bicycle. You set them up, walk beside them, and help guide them. You give them a push and pick them up a few times when they fall. Then you give them that final push, and they're on their own."
Edwin Marion Willis was born in rural Ellington, Reynolds County, Missouri, the oldest child of Thomas B. Reed Willis and Myrtle Daisy Fox. At the age of 6, his parents along with two of his maternal aunts and their spouses, migrated to Carroll County, Missouri to find work. His father "Tom" as most came to know him, was a farm boss for many years. They moved frequently. When another farmer would offer him a better deal, they'd pack up and move. With this lifestyle, it left Edwin changing schools 25 times. (Edwin kept track, and there was never a reason to doubt the words ever spoken by this man). Often he would return to schools that he had already attended before. His first job, as a youngster was to arrive at the school house to build the fire before the teacher and other students arrived. The pay was 10 cents per week if I remember correctly him stating such. He was given the name "Skunk Willis", since he would 'run his traps' before arriving to school to build the fire, and had to go through the process of removing skunks from his traps.
Edwin graduated high school in 1934 at Wakenda, Carroll County, Missouri. It was the last graduating class, since the high school burned and students from 9'th through 12'th grades were then sent to Carrollton High School, Carrollton, Carroll County, MO.
Wanting to help his family financially, as he had three siblings by then, after graduating, he worked for the CCC camp. Somewhere in the late 1930's, Edwin took an uncommon risk and headed to California to find a great job. He and two friends, Clarence Allamong, and Jimmie Swan set out in a pickup truck, headed for the good life. Clarence was suppose to have jobs already lined up for them. They took turns driving the 2,000 miles, alternating with one riding in the bed of the truck, as the cab would only hold two at a time. Upon arriving in Sonoma County, California, as it turned out, there was only employment for one. Edwin and Jimmie camped out in an orange grove and as he stated "nearly starved to death, but not for the oranges." Knowing the integrity and honesty of Edwin Willis, there is no doubt that Edwin went back to the orange grove owner to make restitution. That's how he lived his life. (and yes, he still liked oranges all his life.)
After a week of searching for work, Edwin and Jimmie wandered on to a ranch, which was within seemingly spitting distance from the ocean. A beautiful sprawl of rolling acres overlooking the vast, endless sea of water. Must have been a breathtaking first view of it, as Edwin grew up near the Missouri River and scampered through the local ponds and creeks of Carroll County. It was his arrival on this ranch that would change the course of his life.
The property was fondly known as "The Mann Ranch." It was owned by Guy Sr. and Ruby (Todd) Mann. Soon began a relationship that would encompass Edwin and Jimmie in to the Mann family, as if their own. The two young men gave their best to their employment, milking cows, tending to livestock and such. They slept in fine quarters of the day, an extension built on to the home, and gathered around the table with Mrs. Ruby's fine cooking. The ranch house was built of redwood planks, wide and thick. The steps to the upstairs were well worn, from passage of children and a fine view of the ocean from the windows.
It is at this place that Edwin would meet the love of his life, the niece of the Mann's, Evelyn Florence Todd. Evelyn was 11 years his junior, but he declared from early on that he would wait for her to grow up and one day make her his wife.
When WW II broke out, Edwin joined the United States Navy, and embarked on a 4 year enlistment. This tour took him thousands of miles from Sonoma County. It was during this time that Edwin would write letters to Evelyn, expressing his love for her and his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
With just a few months remaining of his enlistment, Evelyn had accepted his proposal of marriage, and while on leave, they were married March 4, 1945 in Sonoma County, CA. His Navy buddy, John Wilson, of Milan, Missouri, who was his best man. With both men being from Missouri, they had only met while serving their country, but had become great friends. Evelyn's longtime friend, Dahlia ("Delia") DelCurto was her bridesmaid. They were surrounded by freshly picked daffodils, a gift, hundreds of them, from Evelyn's parents, Don Otto and Martha (Plomp) Todd. During the 43 years of marriage to follow, Martha would pick, press, and send a daffodil, or several, to them for their wedding anniversaries.
Edwin and Evelyn honeymooned in a cabin at the Petrified Forest. As many as could, their gift to them, was gas ration stamps so they were able to make the trip. Edwin finished out his enlistment, and then became employed at a milk pasteurization business in nearby Napa.
While enlisted in the USN, Edwin had heard of a farm that was to sell for back taxes in Carroll County, Missouri, just a few miles north and east of the town of Wakenda, in the area that was known as the Wakenda Bluffs. He sent home money for his father, Tom Willis to purchase the farm for him and to make any needed repairs. Once done, Edwin's first cousin, and seemingly like another brother, Glen Gilmer moved in to the farm home with his family.
In 1946, Edwin and Evelyn decided to pack up and head for Carroll County. The first few months, they stayed at Edwin's parents home until Glen and his family found their own place. Soon after the move, the first child of three, and only son, Robert Allen "Bob" Willis was born. They settled in to their farm life. Three more years and their daughter Linda was born, followed by another 3 years when Loretta came along.
With his love for cows, Edwin built his own herd of mostly Jerseys. He made improvements to the barn, laying a concrete floor and building stantions, and making other improvements to afford sanitary conditions to sell milk. Electricity was run to the barn and a cooler was installed to hold the cans until pickup. Many a watermelon was also cooled.
Winters were harsh, summers were sweltering. Chores were a family affair. Wood was cut, hay baled, big gardens grown, and so much more. However, fun was always thrown in the mix. It is with fond rememberance, that I, as their youngest daughter, still remember their unending love for each other. Often was the time that Edwin would walk up to "Momma" as he called her, put his arm around her and say "Do you love me Momma?" She would always reply "Yes, Pappy." and he would ask "Why?". Her reply, always the same "I don't know why, I just do."
Education was a high priority to Edwin. He supported all of his children's activities. As President of the Wakenda School board for twelve years, it was with much pride that he was able to hand out the 8'th grade diploma, personally to all three of his children. As an avid reader his entire life, the same pride was abound when each of them received the Life's Reading Certificate.
After the decision to no longer be in the milking business, he said goodbye to his beloved cows, all of which he had affectionately named, and began working in other areas besides the farm.
He worked for the ASCS (Agriculture Stabilization and Conservation Dept) for ten years. He loved the fact of working with the land. Following that, he was employed at Banquet Foods of Carrollton, Missouri. Being a line foreman, his co-workers adored him, as his management style was "WE" need to, instead of "I" want. After retirement, he worked part time for the Carrollton Wastewater Treatment Plant, of which he earned license for.
His life was centered around his wife and family. It ached his heart to witness the declining health of his most beloved, that would eventually take her from this earth 10 years before himself. As I, his youngest daughter, sat on their front porch with him, shortly after her death, gazing across their bottom ground, with the poignant pierce of her absence so present, Daddy says to me "I couldn't have picked a better life's partner."
Edwin Willis was a fine man, one of love, wisdom, and honesty. Few remain, to remember his calm manner. He's the only man I ever knew that could raise just one eyebrow, whether it be in disappointment or excitement. It was multi purpose. Either way, you had his attention, and it was always wise to take heed of what he had to say.
(by your youngest daughter, Loretta. The one who will miss you, until my own heart takes it's last beat).
I have left the words first written by your daughter, Linda. We all loved you so very, very much.
Edwin M. Willis - GM1 - U.S. Navy - World War II Married Evelyn Florence Todd, March 4, 1945 in California. Father of Robert Alan, Linda Kathaleen and Loretta Ann. Kind and loving husband, father and grandfather. Farmed in Carroll County, MO. for most of his life. Also worked for City of Carrollton Waste Water Disposal Plant. Eldest son of Thomas B. Reed and Myrtle Daisy Fox Willis. Brother of Lyman Vern, Mable Molly (Willis) Monroe and Kenneth Wayne Willis.
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Daddy, I found this in a 1936 publication of Uncle Ezra's Book of Poems and I thought of you immediately, with your herd of over 30 Jersey cows and how you had named each one. (from Loretta)
"He met her in the pasture,
As the sun was sinking low,
They walked along together
In the twilight's after-glow.
She waited while quite gallantly,
He lowered all the bars,
Her gentle eyes turned up to him,
As radiant as the stars,
But she never smiled or thanked him,
Because she knew not how,
For he was just a farmer lad,
And she a Jersey cow."
Treasured are my memories of those evenings of following you to the barn to 'do the milking', as you called out their names to be next. "Lola", "Bonnie", etc. and of course 'my' very own "Jughead". I know they shared the same love for you as you did them...same as I. Your baby girl, "Dumpy"
06/26/2018
I think maybe one of my most favorite views from that porch, would be for the barn light to go off, and within a short bit, I could see a shadowy figure walking up the hill to the house, his soft whistle, bucket of milk in his hand for his family, then to see his face from the light of the porch, and that smile...just for me.
____________________________________________________________
Evelyn and Edwin. She called him "Pappy", he called her "Mamma". 43 years of the storybook kind. I'm sure there were 'moments', but we never heard, nor seen them. Many times she'd ask "You love me Pappy?". He'd put his arm around her and look into her eyes,"Yes Mamma". "How come?" "I don't know why, I just do". Then he'd plant a kiss on her cheek and walk away. I think they both knew why, it didn't have to always be said.
~~~~Our Willis lineage traces back, thru Find-A-Grave, to Henry Willis 1793-1873, buried in Grayson County, Kentucky. Henry was said to be a son of another Henry 1746-1818 who was likely born in Washington County, Virginia. Within the Willis Y-DNA Project at Family Tree DNA, our lineage of Willis is known as THE HENRY WILLIS OF WASHINGTON COUNTY, VIRGINIA GROUP. Our haplogroup is R-M269.
** With much gratitude to Jeff Willis, Raleigh, NC, for researching our family lineage for me, (Loretta). Jeff is a descendant of THE MARYLAND GROUP of Willis, and is Not related to our line, but was gracious enough to share and suggest that I add what he has found to my Willis memorials, so that others who visit, will know who we descend from. Thanks ever so much Jeff.
**Another memory of my Daddy:
My Dad worked the night shift in the early 70's. Buried his car to the headlights in a snow drift while taking the gravel road home. Left the keys in the car, walked the remaining 8 miles to home, with Mr. Moon to guide him...puffing his pipe with one hand, carrying his *black lunchbox* with the other!!! Next afternoon, the 'maintainer guy' called : "I dug your car out Ed and moved it. I'll come get you and take you to it when you're ready to go to work this evening". Dad was ready when Art got there...with pipe in one hand, the *black lunchbox*in the other...repacked with his night's supper and a fresh thermos of coffee. It's what friends/neighbors did back then. Oh, if those lunchboxes could talk.
"Do the best you know how at the time, and that's all you can do".
"Don't quit, keep moving. Because when you're done, you're done".
"It'd be nice to think so".
"Raising children is like teaching them how to ride a bicycle. You set them up, walk beside them, and help guide them. You give them a push and pick them up a few times when they fall. Then you give them that final push, and they're on their own."
Edwin Marion Willis was born in rural Ellington, Reynolds County, Missouri, the oldest child of Thomas B. Reed Willis and Myrtle Daisy Fox. At the age of 6, his parents along with two of his maternal aunts and their spouses, migrated to Carroll County, Missouri to find work. His father "Tom" as most came to know him, was a farm boss for many years. They moved frequently. When another farmer would offer him a better deal, they'd pack up and move. With this lifestyle, it left Edwin changing schools 25 times. (Edwin kept track, and there was never a reason to doubt the words ever spoken by this man). Often he would return to schools that he had already attended before. His first job, as a youngster was to arrive at the school house to build the fire before the teacher and other students arrived. The pay was 10 cents per week if I remember correctly him stating such. He was given the name "Skunk Willis", since he would 'run his traps' before arriving to school to build the fire, and had to go through the process of removing skunks from his traps.
Edwin graduated high school in 1934 at Wakenda, Carroll County, Missouri. It was the last graduating class, since the high school burned and students from 9'th through 12'th grades were then sent to Carrollton High School, Carrollton, Carroll County, MO.
Wanting to help his family financially, as he had three siblings by then, after graduating, he worked for the CCC camp. Somewhere in the late 1930's, Edwin took an uncommon risk and headed to California to find a great job. He and two friends, Clarence Allamong, and Jimmie Swan set out in a pickup truck, headed for the good life. Clarence was suppose to have jobs already lined up for them. They took turns driving the 2,000 miles, alternating with one riding in the bed of the truck, as the cab would only hold two at a time. Upon arriving in Sonoma County, California, as it turned out, there was only employment for one. Edwin and Jimmie camped out in an orange grove and as he stated "nearly starved to death, but not for the oranges." Knowing the integrity and honesty of Edwin Willis, there is no doubt that Edwin went back to the orange grove owner to make restitution. That's how he lived his life. (and yes, he still liked oranges all his life.)
After a week of searching for work, Edwin and Jimmie wandered on to a ranch, which was within seemingly spitting distance from the ocean. A beautiful sprawl of rolling acres overlooking the vast, endless sea of water. Must have been a breathtaking first view of it, as Edwin grew up near the Missouri River and scampered through the local ponds and creeks of Carroll County. It was his arrival on this ranch that would change the course of his life.
The property was fondly known as "The Mann Ranch." It was owned by Guy Sr. and Ruby (Todd) Mann. Soon began a relationship that would encompass Edwin and Jimmie in to the Mann family, as if their own. The two young men gave their best to their employment, milking cows, tending to livestock and such. They slept in fine quarters of the day, an extension built on to the home, and gathered around the table with Mrs. Ruby's fine cooking. The ranch house was built of redwood planks, wide and thick. The steps to the upstairs were well worn, from passage of children and a fine view of the ocean from the windows.
It is at this place that Edwin would meet the love of his life, the niece of the Mann's, Evelyn Florence Todd. Evelyn was 11 years his junior, but he declared from early on that he would wait for her to grow up and one day make her his wife.
When WW II broke out, Edwin joined the United States Navy, and embarked on a 4 year enlistment. This tour took him thousands of miles from Sonoma County. It was during this time that Edwin would write letters to Evelyn, expressing his love for her and his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
With just a few months remaining of his enlistment, Evelyn had accepted his proposal of marriage, and while on leave, they were married March 4, 1945 in Sonoma County, CA. His Navy buddy, John Wilson, of Milan, Missouri, who was his best man. With both men being from Missouri, they had only met while serving their country, but had become great friends. Evelyn's longtime friend, Dahlia ("Delia") DelCurto was her bridesmaid. They were surrounded by freshly picked daffodils, a gift, hundreds of them, from Evelyn's parents, Don Otto and Martha (Plomp) Todd. During the 43 years of marriage to follow, Martha would pick, press, and send a daffodil, or several, to them for their wedding anniversaries.
Edwin and Evelyn honeymooned in a cabin at the Petrified Forest. As many as could, their gift to them, was gas ration stamps so they were able to make the trip. Edwin finished out his enlistment, and then became employed at a milk pasteurization business in nearby Napa.
While enlisted in the USN, Edwin had heard of a farm that was to sell for back taxes in Carroll County, Missouri, just a few miles north and east of the town of Wakenda, in the area that was known as the Wakenda Bluffs. He sent home money for his father, Tom Willis to purchase the farm for him and to make any needed repairs. Once done, Edwin's first cousin, and seemingly like another brother, Glen Gilmer moved in to the farm home with his family.
In 1946, Edwin and Evelyn decided to pack up and head for Carroll County. The first few months, they stayed at Edwin's parents home until Glen and his family found their own place. Soon after the move, the first child of three, and only son, Robert Allen "Bob" Willis was born. They settled in to their farm life. Three more years and their daughter Linda was born, followed by another 3 years when Loretta came along.
With his love for cows, Edwin built his own herd of mostly Jerseys. He made improvements to the barn, laying a concrete floor and building stantions, and making other improvements to afford sanitary conditions to sell milk. Electricity was run to the barn and a cooler was installed to hold the cans until pickup. Many a watermelon was also cooled.
Winters were harsh, summers were sweltering. Chores were a family affair. Wood was cut, hay baled, big gardens grown, and so much more. However, fun was always thrown in the mix. It is with fond rememberance, that I, as their youngest daughter, still remember their unending love for each other. Often was the time that Edwin would walk up to "Momma" as he called her, put his arm around her and say "Do you love me Momma?" She would always reply "Yes, Pappy." and he would ask "Why?". Her reply, always the same "I don't know why, I just do."
Education was a high priority to Edwin. He supported all of his children's activities. As President of the Wakenda School board for twelve years, it was with much pride that he was able to hand out the 8'th grade diploma, personally to all three of his children. As an avid reader his entire life, the same pride was abound when each of them received the Life's Reading Certificate.
After the decision to no longer be in the milking business, he said goodbye to his beloved cows, all of which he had affectionately named, and began working in other areas besides the farm.
He worked for the ASCS (Agriculture Stabilization and Conservation Dept) for ten years. He loved the fact of working with the land. Following that, he was employed at Banquet Foods of Carrollton, Missouri. Being a line foreman, his co-workers adored him, as his management style was "WE" need to, instead of "I" want. After retirement, he worked part time for the Carrollton Wastewater Treatment Plant, of which he earned license for.
His life was centered around his wife and family. It ached his heart to witness the declining health of his most beloved, that would eventually take her from this earth 10 years before himself. As I, his youngest daughter, sat on their front porch with him, shortly after her death, gazing across their bottom ground, with the poignant pierce of her absence so present, Daddy says to me "I couldn't have picked a better life's partner."
Edwin Willis was a fine man, one of love, wisdom, and honesty. Few remain, to remember his calm manner. He's the only man I ever knew that could raise just one eyebrow, whether it be in disappointment or excitement. It was multi purpose. Either way, you had his attention, and it was always wise to take heed of what he had to say.
(by your youngest daughter, Loretta. The one who will miss you, until my own heart takes it's last beat).
I have left the words first written by your daughter, Linda. We all loved you so very, very much.
Edwin M. Willis - GM1 - U.S. Navy - World War II Married Evelyn Florence Todd, March 4, 1945 in California. Father of Robert Alan, Linda Kathaleen and Loretta Ann. Kind and loving husband, father and grandfather. Farmed in Carroll County, MO. for most of his life. Also worked for City of Carrollton Waste Water Disposal Plant. Eldest son of Thomas B. Reed and Myrtle Daisy Fox Willis. Brother of Lyman Vern, Mable Molly (Willis) Monroe and Kenneth Wayne Willis.
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Daddy, I found this in a 1936 publication of Uncle Ezra's Book of Poems and I thought of you immediately, with your herd of over 30 Jersey cows and how you had named each one. (from Loretta)
"He met her in the pasture,
As the sun was sinking low,
They walked along together
In the twilight's after-glow.
She waited while quite gallantly,
He lowered all the bars,
Her gentle eyes turned up to him,
As radiant as the stars,
But she never smiled or thanked him,
Because she knew not how,
For he was just a farmer lad,
And she a Jersey cow."
Treasured are my memories of those evenings of following you to the barn to 'do the milking', as you called out their names to be next. "Lola", "Bonnie", etc. and of course 'my' very own "Jughead". I know they shared the same love for you as you did them...same as I. Your baby girl, "Dumpy"
06/26/2018
I think maybe one of my most favorite views from that porch, would be for the barn light to go off, and within a short bit, I could see a shadowy figure walking up the hill to the house, his soft whistle, bucket of milk in his hand for his family, then to see his face from the light of the porch, and that smile...just for me.
____________________________________________________________
Evelyn and Edwin. She called him "Pappy", he called her "Mamma". 43 years of the storybook kind. I'm sure there were 'moments', but we never heard, nor seen them. Many times she'd ask "You love me Pappy?". He'd put his arm around her and look into her eyes,"Yes Mamma". "How come?" "I don't know why, I just do". Then he'd plant a kiss on her cheek and walk away. I think they both knew why, it didn't have to always be said.
~~~~Our Willis lineage traces back, thru Find-A-Grave, to Henry Willis 1793-1873, buried in Grayson County, Kentucky. Henry was said to be a son of another Henry 1746-1818 who was likely born in Washington County, Virginia. Within the Willis Y-DNA Project at Family Tree DNA, our lineage of Willis is known as THE HENRY WILLIS OF WASHINGTON COUNTY, VIRGINIA GROUP. Our haplogroup is R-M269.
** With much gratitude to Jeff Willis, Raleigh, NC, for researching our family lineage for me, (Loretta). Jeff is a descendant of THE MARYLAND GROUP of Willis, and is Not related to our line, but was gracious enough to share and suggest that I add what he has found to my Willis memorials, so that others who visit, will know who we descend from. Thanks ever so much Jeff.
**Another memory of my Daddy:
My Dad worked the night shift in the early 70's. Buried his car to the headlights in a snow drift while taking the gravel road home. Left the keys in the car, walked the remaining 8 miles to home, with Mr. Moon to guide him...puffing his pipe with one hand, carrying his *black lunchbox* with the other!!! Next afternoon, the 'maintainer guy' called : "I dug your car out Ed and moved it. I'll come get you and take you to it when you're ready to go to work this evening". Dad was ready when Art got there...with pipe in one hand, the *black lunchbox*in the other...repacked with his night's supper and a fresh thermos of coffee. It's what friends/neighbors did back then. Oh, if those lunchboxes could talk.
Remembered sayings by Edwin...
"Do the best you know how at the time, and that's all you can do".
"Don't quit, keep moving. Because when you're done, you're done".
"It'd be nice to think so".
"Raising children is like teaching them how to ride a bicycle. You set them up, walk beside them, and help guide them. You give them a push and pick them up a few times when they fall. Then you give them that final push, and they're on their own."
Edwin Marion Willis was born in rural Ellington, Reynolds County, Missouri, the oldest child of Thomas B. Reed Willis and Myrtle Daisy Fox. At the age of 6, his parents along with two of his maternal aunts and their spouses, migrated to Carroll County, Missouri to find work. His father "Tom" as most came to know him, was a farm boss for many years. They moved frequently. When another farmer would offer him a better deal, they'd pack up and move. With this lifestyle, it left Edwin changing schools 25 times. (Edwin kept track, and there was never a reason to doubt the words ever spoken by this man). Often he would return to schools that he had already attended before. His first job, as a youngster was to arrive at the school house to build the fire before the teacher and other students arrived. The pay was 10 cents per week if I remember correctly him stating such. He was given the name "Skunk Willis", since he would 'run his traps' before arriving to school to build the fire, and had to go through the process of removing skunks from his traps.
Edwin graduated high school in 1934 at Wakenda, Carroll County, Missouri. It was the last graduating class, since the high school burned and students from 9'th through 12'th grades were then sent to Carrollton High School, Carrollton, Carroll County, MO.
Wanting to help his family financially, as he had three siblings by then, after graduating, he worked for the CCC camp. Somewhere in the late 1930's, Edwin took an uncommon risk and headed to California to find a great job. He and two friends, Clarence Allamong, and Jimmie Swan set out in a pickup truck, headed for the good life. Clarence was suppose to have jobs already lined up for them. They took turns driving the 2,000 miles, alternating with one riding in the bed of the truck, as the cab would only hold two at a time. Upon arriving in Sonoma County, California, as it turned out, there was only employment for one. Edwin and Jimmie camped out in an orange grove and as he stated "nearly starved to death, but not for the oranges." Knowing the integrity and honesty of Edwin Willis, there is no doubt that Edwin went back to the orange grove owner to make restitution. That's how he lived his life. (and yes, he still liked oranges all his life.)
After a week of searching for work, Edwin and Jimmie wandered on to a ranch, which was within seemingly spitting distance from the ocean. A beautiful sprawl of rolling acres overlooking the vast, endless sea of water. Must have been a breathtaking first view of it, as Edwin grew up near the Missouri River and scampered through the local ponds and creeks of Carroll County. It was his arrival on this ranch that would change the course of his life.
The property was fondly known as "The Mann Ranch." It was owned by Guy Sr. and Ruby (Todd) Mann. Soon began a relationship that would encompass Edwin and Jimmie in to the Mann family, as if their own. The two young men gave their best to their employment, milking cows, tending to livestock and such. They slept in fine quarters of the day, an extension built on to the home, and gathered around the table with Mrs. Ruby's fine cooking. The ranch house was built of redwood planks, wide and thick. The steps to the upstairs were well worn, from passage of children and a fine view of the ocean from the windows.
It is at this place that Edwin would meet the love of his life, the niece of the Mann's, Evelyn Florence Todd. Evelyn was 11 years his junior, but he declared from early on that he would wait for her to grow up and one day make her his wife.
When WW II broke out, Edwin joined the United States Navy, and embarked on a 4 year enlistment. This tour took him thousands of miles from Sonoma County. It was during this time that Edwin would write letters to Evelyn, expressing his love for her and his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
With just a few months remaining of his enlistment, Evelyn had accepted his proposal of marriage, and while on leave, they were married March 4, 1945 in Sonoma County, CA. His Navy buddy, John Wilson, of Milan, Missouri, who was his best man. With both men being from Missouri, they had only met while serving their country, but had become great friends. Evelyn's longtime friend, Dahlia ("Delia") DelCurto was her bridesmaid. They were surrounded by freshly picked daffodils, a gift, hundreds of them, from Evelyn's parents, Don Otto and Martha (Plomp) Todd. During the 43 years of marriage to follow, Martha would pick, press, and send a daffodil, or several, to them for their wedding anniversaries.
Edwin and Evelyn honeymooned in a cabin at the Petrified Forest. As many as could, their gift to them, was gas ration stamps so they were able to make the trip. Edwin finished out his enlistment, and then became employed at a milk pasteurization business in nearby Napa.
While enlisted in the USN, Edwin had heard of a farm that was to sell for back taxes in Carroll County, Missouri, just a few miles north and east of the town of Wakenda, in the area that was known as the Wakenda Bluffs. He sent home money for his father, Tom Willis to purchase the farm for him and to make any needed repairs. Once done, Edwin's first cousin, and seemingly like another brother, Glen Gilmer moved in to the farm home with his family.
In 1946, Edwin and Evelyn decided to pack up and head for Carroll County. The first few months, they stayed at Edwin's parents home until Glen and his family found their own place. Soon after the move, the first child of three, and only son, Robert Allen "Bob" Willis was born. They settled in to their farm life. Three more years and their daughter Linda was born, followed by another 3 years when Loretta came along.
With his love for cows, Edwin built his own herd of mostly Jerseys. He made improvements to the barn, laying a concrete floor and building stantions, and making other improvements to afford sanitary conditions to sell milk. Electricity was run to the barn and a cooler was installed to hold the cans until pickup. Many a watermelon was also cooled.
Winters were harsh, summers were sweltering. Chores were a family affair. Wood was cut, hay baled, big gardens grown, and so much more. However, fun was always thrown in the mix. It is with fond rememberance, that I, as their youngest daughter, still remember their unending love for each other. Often was the time that Edwin would walk up to "Momma" as he called her, put his arm around her and say "Do you love me Momma?" She would always reply "Yes, Pappy." and he would ask "Why?". Her reply, always the same "I don't know why, I just do."
Education was a high priority to Edwin. He supported all of his children's activities. As President of the Wakenda School board for twelve years, it was with much pride that he was able to hand out the 8'th grade diploma, personally to all three of his children. As an avid reader his entire life, the same pride was abound when each of them received the Life's Reading Certificate.
After the decision to no longer be in the milking business, he said goodbye to his beloved cows, all of which he had affectionately named, and began working in other areas besides the farm.
He worked for the ASCS (Agriculture Stabilization and Conservation Dept) for ten years. He loved the fact of working with the land. Following that, he was employed at Banquet Foods of Carrollton, Missouri. Being a line foreman, his co-workers adored him, as his management style was "WE" need to, instead of "I" want. After retirement, he worked part time for the Carrollton Wastewater Treatment Plant, of which he earned license for.
His life was centered around his wife and family. It ached his heart to witness the declining health of his most beloved, that would eventually take her from this earth 10 years before himself. As I, his youngest daughter, sat on their front porch with him, shortly after her death, gazing across their bottom ground, with the poignant pierce of her absence so present, Daddy says to me "I couldn't have picked a better life's partner."
Edwin Willis was a fine man, one of love, wisdom, and honesty. Few remain, to remember his calm manner. He's the only man I ever knew that could raise just one eyebrow, whether it be in disappointment or excitement. It was multi purpose. Either way, you had his attention, and it was always wise to take heed of what he had to say.
(by your youngest daughter, Loretta. The one who will miss you, until my own heart takes it's last beat).
I have left the words first written by your daughter, Linda. We all loved you so very, very much.
Edwin M. Willis - GM1 - U.S. Navy - World War II Married Evelyn Florence Todd, March 4, 1945 in California. Father of Robert Alan, Linda Kathaleen and Loretta Ann. Kind and loving husband, father and grandfather. Farmed in Carroll County, MO. for most of his life. Also worked for City of Carrollton Waste Water Disposal Plant. Eldest son of Thomas B. Reed and Myrtle Daisy Fox Willis. Brother of Lyman Vern, Mable Molly (Willis) Monroe and Kenneth Wayne Willis.
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Daddy, I found this in a 1936 publication of Uncle Ezra's Book of Poems and I thought of you immediately, with your herd of over 30 Jersey cows and how you had named each one. (from Loretta)
"He met her in the pasture,
As the sun was sinking low,
They walked along together
In the twilight's after-glow.
She waited while quite gallantly,
He lowered all the bars,
Her gentle eyes turned up to him,
As radiant as the stars,
But she never smiled or thanked him,
Because she knew not how,
For he was just a farmer lad,
And she a Jersey cow."
Treasured are my memories of those evenings of following you to the barn to 'do the milking', as you called out their names to be next. "Lola", "Bonnie", etc. and of course 'my' very own "Jughead". I know they shared the same love for you as you did them...same as I. Your baby girl, "Dumpy"
06/26/2018
I think maybe one of my most favorite views from that porch, would be for the barn light to go off, and within a short bit, I could see a shadowy figure walking up the hill to the house, his soft whistle, bucket of milk in his hand for his family, then to see his face from the light of the porch, and that smile...just for me.
____________________________________________________________
Evelyn and Edwin. She called him "Pappy", he called her "Mamma". 43 years of the storybook kind. I'm sure there were 'moments', but we never heard, nor seen them. Many times she'd ask "You love me Pappy?". He'd put his arm around her and look into her eyes,"Yes Mamma". "How come?" "I don't know why, I just do". Then he'd plant a kiss on her cheek and walk away. I think they both knew why, it didn't have to always be said.
~~~~Our Willis lineage traces back, thru Find-A-Grave, to Henry Willis 1793-1873, buried in Grayson County, Kentucky. Henry was said to be a son of another Henry 1746-1818 who was likely born in Washington County, Virginia. Within the Willis Y-DNA Project at Family Tree DNA, our lineage of Willis is known as THE HENRY WILLIS OF WASHINGTON COUNTY, VIRGINIA GROUP. Our haplogroup is R-M269.
** With much gratitude to Jeff Willis, Raleigh, NC, for researching our family lineage for me, (Loretta). Jeff is a descendant of THE MARYLAND GROUP of Willis, and is Not related to our line, but was gracious enough to share and suggest that I add what he has found to my Willis memorials, so that others who visit, will know who we descend from. Thanks ever so much Jeff.
**Another memory of my Daddy:
My Dad worked the night shift in the early 70's. Buried his car to the headlights in a snow drift while taking the gravel road home. Left the keys in the car, walked the remaining 8 miles to home, with Mr. Moon to guide him...puffing his pipe with one hand, carrying his *black lunchbox* with the other!!! Next afternoon, the 'maintainer guy' called : "I dug your car out Ed and moved it. I'll come get you and take you to it when you're ready to go to work this evening". Dad was ready when Art got there...with pipe in one hand, the *black lunchbox*in the other...repacked with his night's supper and a fresh thermos of coffee. It's what friends/neighbors did back then. Oh, if those lunchboxes could talk.
"Do the best you know how at the time, and that's all you can do".
"Don't quit, keep moving. Because when you're done, you're done".
"It'd be nice to think so".
"Raising children is like teaching them how to ride a bicycle. You set them up, walk beside them, and help guide them. You give them a push and pick them up a few times when they fall. Then you give them that final push, and they're on their own."
Edwin Marion Willis was born in rural Ellington, Reynolds County, Missouri, the oldest child of Thomas B. Reed Willis and Myrtle Daisy Fox. At the age of 6, his parents along with two of his maternal aunts and their spouses, migrated to Carroll County, Missouri to find work. His father "Tom" as most came to know him, was a farm boss for many years. They moved frequently. When another farmer would offer him a better deal, they'd pack up and move. With this lifestyle, it left Edwin changing schools 25 times. (Edwin kept track, and there was never a reason to doubt the words ever spoken by this man). Often he would return to schools that he had already attended before. His first job, as a youngster was to arrive at the school house to build the fire before the teacher and other students arrived. The pay was 10 cents per week if I remember correctly him stating such. He was given the name "Skunk Willis", since he would 'run his traps' before arriving to school to build the fire, and had to go through the process of removing skunks from his traps.
Edwin graduated high school in 1934 at Wakenda, Carroll County, Missouri. It was the last graduating class, since the high school burned and students from 9'th through 12'th grades were then sent to Carrollton High School, Carrollton, Carroll County, MO.
Wanting to help his family financially, as he had three siblings by then, after graduating, he worked for the CCC camp. Somewhere in the late 1930's, Edwin took an uncommon risk and headed to California to find a great job. He and two friends, Clarence Allamong, and Jimmie Swan set out in a pickup truck, headed for the good life. Clarence was suppose to have jobs already lined up for them. They took turns driving the 2,000 miles, alternating with one riding in the bed of the truck, as the cab would only hold two at a time. Upon arriving in Sonoma County, California, as it turned out, there was only employment for one. Edwin and Jimmie camped out in an orange grove and as he stated "nearly starved to death, but not for the oranges." Knowing the integrity and honesty of Edwin Willis, there is no doubt that Edwin went back to the orange grove owner to make restitution. That's how he lived his life. (and yes, he still liked oranges all his life.)
After a week of searching for work, Edwin and Jimmie wandered on to a ranch, which was within seemingly spitting distance from the ocean. A beautiful sprawl of rolling acres overlooking the vast, endless sea of water. Must have been a breathtaking first view of it, as Edwin grew up near the Missouri River and scampered through the local ponds and creeks of Carroll County. It was his arrival on this ranch that would change the course of his life.
The property was fondly known as "The Mann Ranch." It was owned by Guy Sr. and Ruby (Todd) Mann. Soon began a relationship that would encompass Edwin and Jimmie in to the Mann family, as if their own. The two young men gave their best to their employment, milking cows, tending to livestock and such. They slept in fine quarters of the day, an extension built on to the home, and gathered around the table with Mrs. Ruby's fine cooking. The ranch house was built of redwood planks, wide and thick. The steps to the upstairs were well worn, from passage of children and a fine view of the ocean from the windows.
It is at this place that Edwin would meet the love of his life, the niece of the Mann's, Evelyn Florence Todd. Evelyn was 11 years his junior, but he declared from early on that he would wait for her to grow up and one day make her his wife.
When WW II broke out, Edwin joined the United States Navy, and embarked on a 4 year enlistment. This tour took him thousands of miles from Sonoma County. It was during this time that Edwin would write letters to Evelyn, expressing his love for her and his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
With just a few months remaining of his enlistment, Evelyn had accepted his proposal of marriage, and while on leave, they were married March 4, 1945 in Sonoma County, CA. His Navy buddy, John Wilson, of Milan, Missouri, who was his best man. With both men being from Missouri, they had only met while serving their country, but had become great friends. Evelyn's longtime friend, Dahlia ("Delia") DelCurto was her bridesmaid. They were surrounded by freshly picked daffodils, a gift, hundreds of them, from Evelyn's parents, Don Otto and Martha (Plomp) Todd. During the 43 years of marriage to follow, Martha would pick, press, and send a daffodil, or several, to them for their wedding anniversaries.
Edwin and Evelyn honeymooned in a cabin at the Petrified Forest. As many as could, their gift to them, was gas ration stamps so they were able to make the trip. Edwin finished out his enlistment, and then became employed at a milk pasteurization business in nearby Napa.
While enlisted in the USN, Edwin had heard of a farm that was to sell for back taxes in Carroll County, Missouri, just a few miles north and east of the town of Wakenda, in the area that was known as the Wakenda Bluffs. He sent home money for his father, Tom Willis to purchase the farm for him and to make any needed repairs. Once done, Edwin's first cousin, and seemingly like another brother, Glen Gilmer moved in to the farm home with his family.
In 1946, Edwin and Evelyn decided to pack up and head for Carroll County. The first few months, they stayed at Edwin's parents home until Glen and his family found their own place. Soon after the move, the first child of three, and only son, Robert Allen "Bob" Willis was born. They settled in to their farm life. Three more years and their daughter Linda was born, followed by another 3 years when Loretta came along.
With his love for cows, Edwin built his own herd of mostly Jerseys. He made improvements to the barn, laying a concrete floor and building stantions, and making other improvements to afford sanitary conditions to sell milk. Electricity was run to the barn and a cooler was installed to hold the cans until pickup. Many a watermelon was also cooled.
Winters were harsh, summers were sweltering. Chores were a family affair. Wood was cut, hay baled, big gardens grown, and so much more. However, fun was always thrown in the mix. It is with fond rememberance, that I, as their youngest daughter, still remember their unending love for each other. Often was the time that Edwin would walk up to "Momma" as he called her, put his arm around her and say "Do you love me Momma?" She would always reply "Yes, Pappy." and he would ask "Why?". Her reply, always the same "I don't know why, I just do."
Education was a high priority to Edwin. He supported all of his children's activities. As President of the Wakenda School board for twelve years, it was with much pride that he was able to hand out the 8'th grade diploma, personally to all three of his children. As an avid reader his entire life, the same pride was abound when each of them received the Life's Reading Certificate.
After the decision to no longer be in the milking business, he said goodbye to his beloved cows, all of which he had affectionately named, and began working in other areas besides the farm.
He worked for the ASCS (Agriculture Stabilization and Conservation Dept) for ten years. He loved the fact of working with the land. Following that, he was employed at Banquet Foods of Carrollton, Missouri. Being a line foreman, his co-workers adored him, as his management style was "WE" need to, instead of "I" want. After retirement, he worked part time for the Carrollton Wastewater Treatment Plant, of which he earned license for.
His life was centered around his wife and family. It ached his heart to witness the declining health of his most beloved, that would eventually take her from this earth 10 years before himself. As I, his youngest daughter, sat on their front porch with him, shortly after her death, gazing across their bottom ground, with the poignant pierce of her absence so present, Daddy says to me "I couldn't have picked a better life's partner."
Edwin Willis was a fine man, one of love, wisdom, and honesty. Few remain, to remember his calm manner. He's the only man I ever knew that could raise just one eyebrow, whether it be in disappointment or excitement. It was multi purpose. Either way, you had his attention, and it was always wise to take heed of what he had to say.
(by your youngest daughter, Loretta. The one who will miss you, until my own heart takes it's last beat).
I have left the words first written by your daughter, Linda. We all loved you so very, very much.
Edwin M. Willis - GM1 - U.S. Navy - World War II Married Evelyn Florence Todd, March 4, 1945 in California. Father of Robert Alan, Linda Kathaleen and Loretta Ann. Kind and loving husband, father and grandfather. Farmed in Carroll County, MO. for most of his life. Also worked for City of Carrollton Waste Water Disposal Plant. Eldest son of Thomas B. Reed and Myrtle Daisy Fox Willis. Brother of Lyman Vern, Mable Molly (Willis) Monroe and Kenneth Wayne Willis.
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Daddy, I found this in a 1936 publication of Uncle Ezra's Book of Poems and I thought of you immediately, with your herd of over 30 Jersey cows and how you had named each one. (from Loretta)
"He met her in the pasture,
As the sun was sinking low,
They walked along together
In the twilight's after-glow.
She waited while quite gallantly,
He lowered all the bars,
Her gentle eyes turned up to him,
As radiant as the stars,
But she never smiled or thanked him,
Because she knew not how,
For he was just a farmer lad,
And she a Jersey cow."
Treasured are my memories of those evenings of following you to the barn to 'do the milking', as you called out their names to be next. "Lola", "Bonnie", etc. and of course 'my' very own "Jughead". I know they shared the same love for you as you did them...same as I. Your baby girl, "Dumpy"
06/26/2018
I think maybe one of my most favorite views from that porch, would be for the barn light to go off, and within a short bit, I could see a shadowy figure walking up the hill to the house, his soft whistle, bucket of milk in his hand for his family, then to see his face from the light of the porch, and that smile...just for me.
____________________________________________________________
Evelyn and Edwin. She called him "Pappy", he called her "Mamma". 43 years of the storybook kind. I'm sure there were 'moments', but we never heard, nor seen them. Many times she'd ask "You love me Pappy?". He'd put his arm around her and look into her eyes,"Yes Mamma". "How come?" "I don't know why, I just do". Then he'd plant a kiss on her cheek and walk away. I think they both knew why, it didn't have to always be said.
~~~~Our Willis lineage traces back, thru Find-A-Grave, to Henry Willis 1793-1873, buried in Grayson County, Kentucky. Henry was said to be a son of another Henry 1746-1818 who was likely born in Washington County, Virginia. Within the Willis Y-DNA Project at Family Tree DNA, our lineage of Willis is known as THE HENRY WILLIS OF WASHINGTON COUNTY, VIRGINIA GROUP. Our haplogroup is R-M269.
** With much gratitude to Jeff Willis, Raleigh, NC, for researching our family lineage for me, (Loretta). Jeff is a descendant of THE MARYLAND GROUP of Willis, and is Not related to our line, but was gracious enough to share and suggest that I add what he has found to my Willis memorials, so that others who visit, will know who we descend from. Thanks ever so much Jeff.
**Another memory of my Daddy:
My Dad worked the night shift in the early 70's. Buried his car to the headlights in a snow drift while taking the gravel road home. Left the keys in the car, walked the remaining 8 miles to home, with Mr. Moon to guide him...puffing his pipe with one hand, carrying his *black lunchbox* with the other!!! Next afternoon, the 'maintainer guy' called : "I dug your car out Ed and moved it. I'll come get you and take you to it when you're ready to go to work this evening". Dad was ready when Art got there...with pipe in one hand, the *black lunchbox*in the other...repacked with his night's supper and a fresh thermos of coffee. It's what friends/neighbors did back then. Oh, if those lunchboxes could talk.
Gravesite Details
Edwin endured cancer of the prostrate and bladder in 1984, but lived a full life up until the cancer returned in his spine in 1997. He was hospitalized in Liberty Hosptial, Clay County, Missouri, where he succomed to fluid around the heart .
