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Charlotte Becker Bayer Heidorn

Tivoli, Dutchess County, New York, USA
Death 6 Dec 2013 (aged 87)
Red Hook, Dutchess County, New York, USA
Burial Red Hook, Dutchess County, New York, USA
Memorial ID 121398885 · View Source
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Charlotte Becker Bayer Heidorn passed away December 6, 2013 after a long illness. She was predeceased by husbands Walter G. Bayer in 1984 and Norbert E. Heidorn in 2005. She was also predeceased by a sister Barbara Becker Day and brothers William C. Becker (Billy) and Robert V. Becker (Vinny).

Charlotte is survived by her four children with Walter. Wayne Bayer from East Greenbush, NY, Stephen (Mary) Bayer from Tivoli, NY, Donna Bayer McCauley and fiancé Tom Strong from Red Hook, NY and Walter (Patricia) Bayer from Concord, NC. Charlotte had nine grandchildren. Danny Bayer, Erin Bayer Smith,, John Bayer and Katie Bayer, Amy McCauley Mergenthaler , Scott McCauley, Megan Bayer Hedin, Stephanie Bayer and Walter Francis Bayer. She is also survived by four great grandchildren (who called her GiGi): Brianna, Myles and Kelsey Mergenthaler and Adeline Bayer. In addition numerous nephews and nieces survive in the Red Hook area and in Dime Box, and Bryan- College Station, TX.

Charlotte is also survived by five sons of Norb's-Dan, Byron, Chris, Al and Troy and a daughter Patti as well as good friend Wendy and numerous grandchildren and at least one great grandchild.
Charlotte M. Becker was born to Blanche White Becker and Chalmer Becker on March 30, 1926 in Tivoli, NY. She spent her youth in Red Hook with brief periods in Millbrook, NY, Jacksonville, FL. During her marriages she lived for short periods in Washington, DC, Pasadena. TX. Dime Box, TX and Pensacola, FL. Charlotte graduated from Red Hook High School shortly after D Day in 1944 and from the Krissler Business Institute in 1946.

Charlotte was a life member of the VFW Post #7665 in Red Hook, NY, where she had managed evening and social functions especially enjoying the role of Santa's helper and later served as President for several years. For a number of years she also managed the dairy section of the former Grand Union in Red Hook.

During World War II, what is now Bard College, was named St. Stephens College, and like many places during the war was used as a post –boot camp training facility. She met both of her husbands' while working as a ticket seller at the old Lyceum Movie Theater in Red Hook.

She met her second husband first, a young GI by the name of Norbert E. Heidorn who was training in a construction battalion, when he came to see a movie at the Lyceum. After a period of dating, Norb asked the seventeen year old Charlotte to marry him. Her mother nixed this idea and eventually Norb was transferred to another base before eventually deploying to Europe to help prepare for the invasion of France.

It wasn't long after that another young soldier training in a German language battalion at St. Stephens came into her life, Walter G. Bayer, from Dime Box, Texas. Walter had originally dated Charlotte's best friend, Pat Thorley. Walter and Charlotte became good friends. After he deployed to England in preparation for D Day they continued to communicate by letter. Walter was mustered out of the army in Texas in November 1945. After briefly visiting with family, he hitch- hiked to Red Hook and promptly asked Charlotte to marry him. She accepted and they were married on June, 22, 1946 at St. Christopher's church. They were married for thirty eight years until he passed away in 1984.

In 1990 after six years having been a widow Charlotte received a phone call from Norbert Heidorn, the GI that asked for her hand in 1943. His wife had passed away at a young age. At some point after being a widower he decided to try to make contact with Charlotte. She received a call from him and after many phone calls agreed to meet him in Pensacola, Florida. When Norb asked her to marry this time she said yes and they were married on January 5th, 1990. Charlotte became a widow a second time when Norb died in 2005 leaving behind five sons and a daughter. They were married for fifteen years.

Charlotte loved to travel with Walter and with Norb. She leaves behind many friends she met along the way.
Friends may call at the Burnett & White Funeral Homes on Thursday from 2 - 4 & 6-8 PM.

Funeral Services will be held at 11:00 AM on Friday, December 12th, 2013 at Burnett & White Funeral Homes, Red Hook, NY. Interment will be at St. Paul's Lutheran Cemetery, Red Hook.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Ladies' Auxiliary of VFW Post #7765, 30 Elizabeth St, PO Box 5, Red Hook, NY 12571.

Arrangements are under the direction of Burnett & White Funeral Homes 7461 S. Broadway, Red Hook, NY.





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  • Find A Grave, database and images ( : accessed ), memorial page for Charlotte Becker Bayer Heidorn (30 Mar 1926–6 Dec 2013), Find A Grave Memorial no. 121398885, citing Saint Pauls Lutheran Cemetery, Red Hook, Dutchess County, New York, USA ; Maintained by JLC (contributor 47423445) .