Violet Virginia <I>McVay</I> Sexton

Violet Virginia McVay Sexton

Carden Bottoms, Yell County, Arkansas, USA
Death 13 Apr 2013 (aged 79)
Austin, Lonoke County, Arkansas, USA
Burial Butlerville, Lonoke County, Arkansas, USA
Memorial ID 108519870 · View Source
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Violet Virginia McVay Sexton was the third of six children born to Harvey Eugene and Mildred Wilmuth Jennings McVay. She died peacefully April 13, 2013 at her home in Austin, Arkansas, surrounded by her children and grandchildren. She was born at the peak of the Great Depression on February 14, 1934 in the township of Carden Bottoms, Yell County, Arkansas.

She was raised in the meager surroundings of a hardworking Christian home which taught her the immense value of family and lifelong friendships.

She loved family gatherings and potlucks and was obsessed with old family pictures and genealogy. She loved sharing and laughing at the old stories which related just how hard it was to be a kid on a cotton farm during the Depression. Her family was among 500 that were relocated to the Dyess Colony in the mid 1930's as part of an Agricultural Cooperative Project. With the town's main purpose, being to give poor families in Arkansas a chance to start over with land that they could work toward owning.

She treasured those defining years of her life as a Dyess Eagle and helped her organize reunions at the Dyess Colony. When her health allowed, attending the annual gatherings there was a highlight. Her family resided at House 302 on Road 14. During their time there, the family had to evacuate to survive the flood of 1937. The house was lost to a fire in 1951. She was proud to say she helped her father rebuild that home and was greatly saddened to find that it had burned once again in 2008.

She was an independent soul who began working outside the home between her Junior and Senior years in high school. Her first job was at Timex in Little Rock in 1952. She moved to Memphis, TN in 1953, with her first job there being as a waitress at the grill at the Trailways Bus Station. She eventually went to work at the Sears and Roebuck store in the mail order department and was working there when she met Ray Sexton, Sr. in 1953.

They met as a result of a car accident that Ray responded to as an attendant for Jack Ruby Ambulance Company. She and Ray married May 11, 1954 in Sardis, MS. They had three children during their 28 year marriage. At one point in their marriage they shared ownership of an extremely successful small family business that allowed Violet to utilize her many talents involving various types of crafting. They divorced in 1983. Violet never remarried.

Violet loved reading, cooking, canning, sewing, macramé, plaster crafting and gathering family history. She loved discussing religion, politics and playing games.

She had a part in raising four grandchildren and a great-grandson. She became an avid ice hockey fan, with her favorite team being the Pittsburgh Penquins. She could explain the intricacies of hockey and loved to attempt to make new fans of family and friends. She developed what is often a fatal lung disorder in the late 1970's. In 1999 she survived another near death illness followed by serious surgery which resulted in 13 days in ICU on life support. The result of which was a physical condition which kept her mostly confined to her home. She suffered from macular degeneration and arthritis and yet rarely complained. She was a fighter until the smothering losses of dearly loved family members took her will to fight away.

Death is an invevitability and almost always tragic but the timing can make it even more so. Violet was preceded in death within the past 17 Months by her eldest sister Mattie Margaret Boyd, her eldest brother, Herbert Eugene McVay, younger brother Bobby Lloyd McVay. Also preceding her were her beloved parents and her youngest brother Alford Troy McVay.

She was heartbroken and these losses contributed to her failing health which took a sudden decline with the need for hospice. Her decision to die at home was a true gift that her family did not recognize as such until she gained the peace for which they had all prayed. The family wishes to thank Arkansas Hospice, especially Keri and her husband Brandon, who calmed them in their worst moments by sharing hymns and soft music.

Violet spoke of her younger brother Bobby Lloyd as her first son. Their age difference and his size allowed her to mother him as they grew. She felt a special connection to Bobby. His death seemed to be the final straw. Bobby was cremated after his death on January 1, 2013. His wish to have a portion of his ashes buried at the feet of his parents will be fulfilled during the same ceremony as Violet's at the Butlerville Cemetery in Lonoke County, AR.

Violet is survived by one brother; a son, two daughters, four grandchildren, and one great-grandson, tha boy.
Visitation will be at Thomas Funeral Home in Cabot Tuesday from 6-8 p.m.
Funeral Services will be at 10:00 a.m. Wednesday, April 17 at Boyd Funeral Home, Lonoke.

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