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 Mary Margaret <I>Wheeler</I> Bode

Mary Margaret Wheeler Bode

Cincinnati, Hamilton County, Ohio, USA
Death 12 Dec 2011 (aged 97)
Raleigh, Wake County, North Carolina, USA
Burial Raleigh, Wake County, North Carolina, USA
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Mary was born in Cincinnati, Ohio to Robert Morris Wheeler and Agnes Shelley.

Mary was married to Vincent Henry Bode on Jan. 25, 1936 in Kansas City, Missouri, and they had five children.


Mary Margaret Wheeler Bode passed away on December 12, 2011, peacefully at her home in Raleigh, North Carolina.

She was born September 12, 1914, in Cincinnati, Ohio. She was the third of four children born to Robert and Margaret Wheeler.

Mary attended elementary school in Cincinnati until her family moved to Kansas City, Missouri.

She attended University of Kansas in Lawrence for three years where she was a member of Alpha Gamma Delta Sorority.

Mary met and married Vincent Henry Bode in 1934. Together, they began an odyssey which took them from Omaha, Nebraska, to Chicago, Illinois, to Charleston, West Virginia, to Cleveland, Ohio, to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and finally in 1947, to Raleigh, North Carolina.

Mary and Vince had three children when they moved to Raleigh, Jeanne, John, and Gretchen. Over the next three years two more children, Bob and Betsy were born. All five children attended and graduated from Cardinal Gibbons High School. Mary strongly encouraged education with her children.

Mary Bode was an active member of Our Lady of Lourdes church in Raleigh. She was a member of Catholic Daughters of America and St. Anne's Altar Society. She was one of the original parishioners of Our Lady of Lourdes and served on the Parish Board and the Parish Council. Mary taught school as a regular member of the faculty at Our Lady of Lourdes Elementary School for many years.

Mary was a major force and leader in the fundraising, planning and development of the elegant restoration of Sacred Heart Cathedral which was completed in 1998. For her service to the Cathedral, Mary was awarded the Benemerenti Papal Medal of Honor by Pope John Paul II in 2002.

Mary spent many hours working with Vietnamese refugees and acting as a liaison between the community and the Vietnamese as they tried to make new lives for themselves in Raleigh. Her work with Vietnamese refugees was a continuation of her earlier efforts with the Cuban refugees. Mary also devoted countless hours to local and state history projects including the area museums and as a Docent at the Governor's Mansion.

She was also a lifelong gardener and a member of the Raleigh Women's Club and the Drewery Hills Garden Club.

Mary was a loving individual who practiced loving thy neighbor as thyself. She was always generous to those less fortunate whether through helping neighbors in need or sending funds, clothing and food to numerous Native American Charities.

She is survived by her four children, sons, John T. Bode (Lucy) and Robert V. Bode (Sherry), daughters Jeanne Bode Harnischfeger (Goetz) and Virginia B. Scott (Lindsay); twelve grandchildren, David H. Bode (Carrie), Paul T. Bode, Mary Wills Bode, Richard P. Bode (Margaret), Catherine R. Bode, Anne Marie Harnack (Lars), Michael H. Harnischfeger, Robert V. Scott (Stacey), Elizabeth J. Scott, Alexander L. Holland, David V. Holland (Erin), and Amanda M. Holland; and five great grandchildren Jakob J. Harnack and Oskar V. Harnack, Patricia Mary-Anne Kalbreier, Grace M. and Jack R. Holland. Mary was preceded in death by her husband, Vince, and their daughter, Gretchen M. Holland.

A Mass of Christian burial will be offered 11:00 a.m. Saturday, December 17, 2011, at Our Lady of Lourdes with Father John Forbes presiding along with Monsignor Gerald Lewis. Burial will follow in Oakwood Cemetery.

Visitation is scheduled for Friday December 16, 2011 from 5:00 – 7:00 p.m. at Brown-Wynne Funeral Home, 300 St. Mary's Street, Raleigh, North Carolina.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Cardinal Gibbons High School, Advancement Department, 1401 Edwards Mill Road, Raleigh, North Carolina 27607.


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  • Find A Grave Memorial 100002064
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