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bodner (#43427586)
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Jim and Family
RE: Thanks
You're very welcome; have a blessed New Year. :]
Added by Jim and Family on Dec 29, 2013 9:47 PM
Rhonda C./Friends
RE: Just saying Hi!
Dear Roberta,
Thank You for the message - you sound like you're even more swamped than I am, right now (sorry it took me a week to get back to you)! It's the season, yes, but it's also just been a very strange year, and now with the Sandy Hook tragedy literally a week and a half before Christmas, and during Chanukah...I don't quite know what we're supposed to learn from this, but I feel as though there is something that we are not just supposed to let 'go by'...I was telling a couple of other site friends that random violence, I just don't understand it. I never have - why destroy somebody else because you're mad at yourself, your life, your job, whatever? I work with alot of troubled kids/youth at risk, and that has been the opinion from them, too - Little children should be treated like the gift that they are, end of story. =( Anyhow, sorry so depressing. I will be offline - again - much of next week for some medical stuff, but hoping that my Christmas present will be the news that the doctors have forgotten my name and number for awhile. =) Do take care, and I just said hi to all three of our Angels, Steven, Barry and Marilyn, and I'll try to get caught up and say hi again to you before the holidays. Lots of hugs - RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on Dec 15, 2012 1:15 AM
Rhonda C./Friends
Just saying hi!
Hi - I just wanted to stop by and tell you to have a nice holiday season, I am so swamped and behind on my messages, writing, everything, and we still have a couple more hospital situations before I'm saying it early in case I don't get a chance closer to the big day. =) Hope that all is well with you and yours, I'm still keeping an eye on both Steven and Barry's pages, trying to get more traffic to both as well as Marilyn's. Take Care - Best, RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on Dec 02, 2012 5:25 PM
Rhonda C./Friends
RE: Steven Keats Memorial
Oh, I forgot - I put a page up for Marilyn - I think that it's disgraceful that she did not have one up, even if she cannot be considered 'famous' at her craft...she was still a living, breathing person, and she deserves to be remembered. - RCP
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on Sep 25, 2012 5:08 AM
Rhonda C./Friends
Steven Keats/Barry Brown
Dear Roberta,
Thank you for such a nice message - yes, Barry Brown was absolutely fascinating to watch onscreen. I am a big fan of all those 'intense' actors, Clift, McQueen, Dean, even as far back as Mitchum, Robert Walker and John Garfield....and Barry had something about him. It is eerie now to watch him in many of his roles - just this week, I've seen him on 'Night Gallery' and 'Mod Squad' -, and note how many roles he had where he was handling a gun, being accused of shooting someone, being 'pushed' to kill himself...very sad. I became a fan of his before I knew of his darknesses - indeed, I didn't know that he had passed away -, and then when I read his brother's books, oh, my lord, it was kismet. We grew up in about the same situation, if not worse, and Barry's brother luckily did what I chose to do, write about it, try to make sense of it. When not only Barry but Marilyn killed herself, it became a "This isn't just something wrong with one person, something is wrong in that whole damned family,"...I think that had Barry been around to see some of that vindication, he may have made it out of the blackness. But it's a moot point, I suppose, as the double suicide was what, in fact, got people thinking...oh, I don't know. I do know that when my siblings and I were growing up, it was "Oh, those Poynter kids, they're just bad, blah, blah, blah, they're like their parents..." - it was really rough to have to live with, and through, and a couple of us didn't make it. I began writing about it, not to 'get back' at my parents (study my father's page, and you'll see that all tender mercies and forgiveness has been allowed), but to defend my siblings...and it has helped a great deal. I hear from young offenders, and I hear from the siblings and (sometimes the parents) of suicides my brother's age, and they say that it helps to know other families didn't know how to 'save someone', either. No matter what we did, my brother and father, especially, were going to self destruct, but - I look at it like this. Their specific losses were what made me realize that we did not all have to end that way, and that maybe something good could come out of this absolutely Shakespearean - level tragedy...and that's what Barry's brother has done, and quite well, I must add. His writing is real and true, but there is nothing vicious or gossipy about it - he is mourning the loss of siblings who should never have had to go through what they did, and he wonders, to this day, why he was the one to make it out. You can see why I identify...but I'll tell you, Roberta - there is a reason for everything, no matter how sad it may seem at first, and we'll understand it all somewhere farther down the line. Hopefully Barry's mom will say, "Child, I am so, so sorry," and Barry will be able to say, "That's all right." I think that trial in Life is almost a gift, in some ways, because it makes us realize, looking back, just how strong we turned out to be. My brother and I used to call home "Little Vietnam", and Ron would say, "When I'm old enough to be drafted, God, I won't have to go, because I've already been to war." He was right, and I feel the same way all these years later, but guess what?...I made it out, with the tales to tell. I wish Barry and his sister, my brother, my dad, all the angels who just could not see a single star in their dark skies, had just kept that in mind: Get up, crawl out of that trench, and keep searching for the light. Anyhow, sorry to ramble - the subject of suicide will often get me ranting, but man, anybody who might take the time to read your message board with similar difficulties or depression...Keep going, it is going to be so worth it. Keep in touch, Roberta, and you have a good week, too - Hugs, RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on Sep 25, 2012 3:51 AM
Rhonda C./Friends
RE: Steven Keats Memorial
Hi Roberta,

You're welcome - I agree, he was a fine actor...I actually decided to see whether he had a page because I was looking up some of my favorite actors, such as Brad Davis and Barry Brown, it seems as though there's a handful of them from a specific era who were so intense onscreen, but seemed to fly somewhat under the radar when it comes to recognition. Hope that all is well with you and yours, have a good weekend - Best, RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on Sep 21, 2012 1:58 PM

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