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Nancy Jean {Wolf} Ostrander (#46862375)
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Bio Photo THIS PICTURE IS OF MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND, I LOVE YOU JERRY BENNETT OSTRANDER............notice he is standing next to a headstone. We spent a lot of time, together, in cemeteries.

I haven't done much on Find a Grave for quite a while. My husband, Jerry, and I have been crafting bird feeders and attending craft shows. That in its self takes up a lot of a persons time.

Last year in May (2011) we went to California, Colorado & Oregon for two months. Our granddaughter was getting married in Ft. Bragg CA. After the wedding we had family and friends, we hadn't seen in a very long time, to visit. We have a son and his wife in Oregon, another son who just happened to be visiting in Oregon while we were there, one daughter and husband, three grandchildren and two g-grandchildren in CA, youngest daughter and husband and two grandsons in Colorado. It was the most wonderful trip we had every taken together, every thing was perfect. I think this trip was a gift from God so that we would all have wonderful memories of each other. And I thank You God for that.

You see my husband of, not quite 47 years, died on 12 May 2012. We were tearing down an old house and the front porch roof came down sooner than it was suppose to and fell on my Jerry. There was a friend of ours who was, also, trapped under the roof but, thanks to God, he was spared. God wasn't ready for our friend yet, but he needed Jerry. I sure hope he needed my husband more than I did, because I needed that man of mine a whole lot, God knows I wasn't ready to let Jerry go, but we are on God's time table not ours. There were a lot of things we still had in our minds to do yet.

Please, please don't waited to realize how important your loved ones are to you. Once they are gone you cannot bring them back to tell them how you feel about them. Tell them now and tell them every day how much you love them and how much you depend on them.

Jerry and I were lucky, we were together 51 years, high school sweethearts. Jerry knew how I felt about him because I told him I love many times a day. For no reason, at all, I would just go up to him, give him a kiss and a hug just because of who he was and what he ment to me. My arms are so empty now. What hurts the most is that I had no idea how much I depended on him until he was gone from my life. He made our crafts, I decorated them. We went on long rides around our county, together. We talked to each other every day. We cooked together, we cleaned house together (he was a much better housewife than I am), we researched and took pictures of cemeteries and stone for Find a Grave together, everything we did was together.

Now people tell me I have to learn to do all of this by myself. I'm not at that point yet, I don't even know how to tackle all of these things without Jerry. It's like starting a new life all over again, but alone. I wasn't ready for this I don't know if I ever will be.

The only thing I am doing for Find a Grave right now is corrections. I can't make myself go out right now without Jerry to do the research and take pictures. Maybe someday I will be able to start taking pictures again.

I'm really glad Im not writing on paper, it would be so full of tear stains and hard to read. This was really hard to write to all of you. In Gods name, I love all of you. Thank you for being my friends.

18 Sep 2012
Clark County, Missouri

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RE: Harriet Parish
Thank you! Just noticed those as I was working on a few pieces. Your continued help is always appreciated!
Added by Kristi & Dave on Sep 13, 2017 7:10 PM
John Scott
Would you be willing to transfer John Scott #20447343 to me. He is my gg grandfather unless we're cousins. You are doing a wonderful work.
Tom Scott
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Edward Wilson
You are most welcome!!
Added by goldenthreads on Jul 22, 2017 9:32 PM
Edward Wilson
I used s/o instead of "son of" and DC instead of Death Certificate...that would be a Missouri Death Certificate.
Added by goldenthreads on Jul 22, 2017 5:57 PM
John Ray info

Re: John Ray, Memorial# 16025930, the headstone pictured can not belong to him. He died long before the Civil War & could not have been a soldier in Co. F, 50th IL Inf.

Added by Sheila on Jun 25, 2017 11:01 PM
Carol Miller
Memorial# 39196950 Mary J (Miller) Cochenoeur
While reviewing my Miller family tree to link children with parents, I found Mary J Miller Cochenoeur (1857-1930) linked to my Gr Grandfather William T Miller and his brother Charles Francis Miller. Mary is not of that family and I can totally understand the error as researching such a common surname as Miller is frustrating if even possible. However, my Grandfather Luther Ashley Miller was kind enough to have scribbled down the given names of his family so I am confident there was no Mary J. Now the question is, how to correct this.? Am I even leaving a message for the correct findagrave contributor? Thank you so much for your time. Carol
Added by Carol Miller on May 28, 2017 2:45 PM
Robert Hartman
RE: Marie Kullick
What got me started on this is an email I received about Miss Pauline Grucer, or(Grusser.) "Pauline Marie Grucer was born and spent her early childhood at Lubenau, near Berlin. Germany. In 1856 she came to this country with her folks, settling near Winchester, Mo. Later she came to Eddyville, where she resided for a short time when she went to San Bernardino, Cal., with her brother, Charles Grucer. After his death in Guatamala, she lived for several years at Los Angeles, returning to Eddyville in 1882, since which time she has made her home with her sister. Mrs. J.W. Seifert."
I have look on the 1860 census but I did not find them listed. 1870 census they are in Iowa, but her, mother and dad are buried some where around Winchester ?family Cemetery?
Added by Robert Hartman on Apr 08, 2017 1:23 PM
dave ashbrook
I have tried to e-mail you but it must be going in your spam folder. I am researching the descendants of Simon who immigrated in 1749 on the ship Dragon, two of his daughters marrying Wolf sons, I assume these are you ancestors. Check you spam box to see if my e-mails are there, and I hope you can find time to reply. I would greatly appreciate any help you could give me.


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RE: Day Cemetery
Oh thank you, I didn't know there was a museum in Kahoka!! I really want to get up there again soon.
Added by Countrygirl80 on Jan 20, 2017 11:20 AM
RE: Day Cemetery
Sorry it's taken soooo long to get back to you. Thank you for the info. Does your book mention dates of burial at all? I'd like to eventually get out to Day cemetery, as well as other cemeteries in that area to look for family.
Added by Countrygirl80 on Jan 19, 2017 9:08 AM
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