|Janet Muff (#46951416)|
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Please remember that this is a website that has grown, thanks to a lot of volunteers. We're not a homogeneous group. We have different values, different styles, different abilities, and sometimes we just plain make mistakes. So, given the nature of our mutual enterprise, we've got to learn how to "do difference." |
If you're irritated and frustrated by people who think or feel differently than you do, then please try a personal conversation before resorting to power moves and policing. You may have the clout and connections at find-a-grave to make your opinions prevail, but the exercise of power is tantamount to being a thug.
Relationship goes a long way toward solving problems, which is something that Abraham Lincoln understood very well: "I don't like that man," he said, "I must get to know him better." If you're not interested in relationship, in getting to know me and other contributors better; and if you want to hide behind anonymity and to lob edits at people like a guerrilla warrior, then perhaps it's time to step away from the situation and take stock of yourself because you've lost sight of our common goal and our common humanity.
OK, enough said. And now back to business:
Many people have asked me how I am able to take such clear photographs of the very old stones in the burial grounds of VT and NY.
Let me say first that I have taken some terrible photographs in my day, and I am still going back to re-shoot those stones. I am not a professional photographer and I use only a point-and-shoot digital camera.
But I have been gifted with two good friends who deserve much of the credit for my photos: my long-time genealogical buddy, Steven Smith, who gave me two invaluable tips for photographing difficult stones (just send me an email message if you'd like my write-up of Steve's tips); and my mirror-and-umbrella-bearer, Fay Smith (unrelated to Steve), who willingly slogs through waist-high grass and dark woods with me each summer, in the most oppressive heat and humidity, and in spite of the squads of mosquitoes and flies that routinely assail us. How anyone can remain cheerful under such circumstances continues to amaze me, but Fay does.
Were it not for Steve's advice, Fay's help, and the unfailing support of my husband Jim Boyce - who allows me two months each year in his native state of Vermont - I would be unable to "do cemetery," much less get good photographs.
And finally I would like to acknowledge my canine companions - Millie, Malarkey and Mischief - Springer Spaniels whose enthusiasm for "doing cemetery" over the years has rivaled my own!
PLEASE do not use my photographs without permission. If you send me an email message, I will gladly grant permission for your personal use.
Per find-a-grave guidelines you are entitled to request memorials for direct ancestors up to 4 generations. I receive quite a volume of requests and have found that the tone of such requests has changed recently, from gratitude that the memorials were created to blatant entitlement, and it's very upsetting. I am not a casual graver or phone-tographer. I generally research the families whose memorials I've created and whose photos I've taken (or intend to take) and linked members over many generations. After all that work, it's quite a loss to transfer my memorials, but I'm willing to do so if your relationship trumps mine.
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|Margnm||RE: Deacon Asa White's father|
Thank you for your explanation, Janet. I apologize if I sounded a little terse over Deacon Asa White's link. I really do appreciate all your hard work on seeing that these Memorials are correct. I see where the problem may be. When I merged the Pittsford Cem. Memorial that was put up for Asa White, Sr. with his correct birth date and correct death date from records like his Rev. War Pension file, I merged my Memorial with the unknown grave site with the known one and inadvertently left grave site unknown on it. I have asked for that to be removed as I am very sure that this is the correct Asa White. He had just moved to Mount Holly and died almost immediately, probably in clearing land. Mount Holly was just being settled and the closest church might have been Pittsford, but that is really quite a ways from Mount Holly and quite a stretch. I see also, that there are some problems with that cemetery's records. I'll look into it further and try to contact the person who put up the Memorial for Asa Sr. that matches his dates to see where the information was obtained. I, too, want the Links to be accurate and appreciate your efforts to do so. Thanks again for all your help. Marg McEuen
Added by Margnm on Feb 19, 2017 11:02 AM
|Margnm||Deacon Asa White's father|
Deacon Asa White's father was Asa white in Memorial # 125195378. I do not understand why my edit was rejected because my information is correct from Mount Holly records, obtained from the town clerk,, Asa senior's Rev. War Pension file, will, and other records. I do not understand what correct information would be removed if this edit was approved. Asa Senior was Sarah Moors's first husband and died shortly after they moved to Mount Holly in 1795 leaving her with five children: Deacon Asa 2, (my ancestor), John 1 (there was a younger John in Mount Holly at the same time), Sally, Polly and Francis, all noted in the RW Pension file that Sara finally received in 1846 just before she died. Sarah married secondly, Jonah Ives, in 1797, as she was left with children ages 9 (Dea Asa) thru 1 (Francis). She then had Johan Ives, Jr. in 1798 and perhaps another son, Jotham in 1800. But Asa White 125195378, is definitely Deacon Asa White's father and I would appreciate if my edit was approved so the whole White line is attached again correctly as someone else on Find A Grave is studying Deacon Asa's line currently and for others who may study the line. Thank you. Marg McEuen
Added by Margnm on Feb 18, 2017 12:14 PM
Hi! No problem - as long as they are linked, that's all that counts.
Thank you! 😊
Added by Kelly on Feb 17, 2017 7:27 PM
|Margnm||RE: Polly Patch wife of Aaron|
Hi, Janet. I found her surname in the death record for their son, Alson H. Patch, on Family Search. It is NH Death Record # 004243184:
The record of Alson H. Patch from New Hampshire Death Records:
Name Alson H. Patch
Event Date (Original) 2 Nov 1903
Event Date 02 Nov 1903
Event Place Claremont, , New Hampshire
Spouse's Name Grace L. Patch
Father's Name Aaron Patch
Mother's Name Polly Luce
"New Hampshire Death Records, 1654-1947," database with images, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/FSVG-Z49 : 12 December 2014), Aaron Patch in entry for Alson H. Patch, 02 Nov 1903; citing Claremont, , New Hampshire, Bureau Vital Records and Health Statisti...
Added by Margnm on Feb 17, 2017 11:40 AM
|Jerry Bloom||RE: Maria Fales|
|Beverly Kane||RE: Dan Pond|
That is fine Janet. Thanks for letting me know. Curious for your input - I have entered some memorials in a cemetery even though there is no headstone and interment records unavailable. I am 99% sure that it is right place but no proof and I note that in the entry. Do you think that is appropriate?
|Ross||RE: Clyde Beatty Morris|
Thank you for the additional information on Clyde Morris. I haven't figured out his connection with the Shaws yet although Shaw and Fletcher are common names in Nova Scotia. I was trying to connect all the members of Edson Morris' family and this just leaves Clyde's brother Glen Alban Morris who moved to the States in 1913 and married Rose Bell Lowe. He is the last of the children I have to find a burial for.
Added by Ross on Feb 13, 2017 5:34 AM
|Buddy Leech||RE: Ruth Congdon Godding|
Back from a Super Bowl party. Will check this out tomorrow. BL
|Arlene Walker Knutsen||RE: Harriet A. Warner|
I found record in Vermont Vital Records, Marriage bride, Harriet A. King
groom Spencer Warner
March 26, 1820
John Griswold minister
town; Pawlet, Vt. 1820
John Edgerton, town clerk
|jromine||RE: Diantha Felton|
The source is the tombstone itself. I simply subtracted 2 years, 2 months and 8 days from her date of death.
Added by jromine on Jan 30, 2017 3:47 PM
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