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Nancy Jean {Wolf} Ostrander (#46862375)
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Bio Photo THIS PICTURE IS OF MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND, I LOVE YOU JERRY BENNETT OSTRANDER............notice he is standing next to a headstone. We spent a lot of time, together, in cemeteries.

I haven't done much on Find a Grave for quite a while. My husband, Jerry, and I have been crafting bird feeders and attending craft shows. That in its self takes up a lot of a persons time.

Last year in May (2011) we went to California, Colorado & Oregon for two months. Our granddaughter was getting married in Ft. Bragg CA. After the wedding we had family and friends, we hadn't seen in a very long time, to visit. We have a son and his wife in Oregon, another son who just happened to be visiting in Oregon while we were there, one daughter and husband, three grandchildren and two g-grandchildren in CA, youngest daughter and husband and two grandsons in Colorado. It was the most wonderful trip we had every taken together, every thing was perfect. I think this trip was a gift from God so that we would all have wonderful memories of each other. And I thank You God for that.

You see my husband of, not quite 47 years, died on 12 May 2012. We were tearing down an old house and the front porch roof came down sooner than it was suppose to and fell on my Jerry. There was a friend of ours who was, also, trapped under the roof but, thanks to God, he was spared. God wasn't ready for our friend yet, but he needed Jerry. I sure hope he needed my husband more than I did, because I needed that man of mine a whole lot, God knows I wasn't ready to let Jerry go, but we are on God's time table not ours. There were a lot of things we still had in our minds to do yet.

Please, please don't waited to realize how important your loved ones are to you. Once they are gone you cannot bring them back to tell them how you feel about them. Tell them now and tell them every day how much you love them and how much you depend on them.

Jerry and I were lucky, we were together 51 years, high school sweethearts. Jerry knew how I felt about him because I told him I love many times a day. For no reason, at all, I would just go up to him, give him a kiss and a hug just because of who he was and what he ment to me. My arms are so empty now. What hurts the most is that I had no idea how much I depended on him until he was gone from my life. He made our crafts, I decorated them. We went on long rides around our county, together. We talked to each other every day. We cooked together, we cleaned house together (he was a much better housewife than I am), we researched and took pictures of cemeteries and stone for Find a Grave together, everything we did was together.

Now people tell me I have to learn to do all of this by myself. I'm not at that point yet, I don't even know how to tackle all of these things without Jerry. It's like starting a new life all over again, but alone. I wasn't ready for this I don't know if I ever will be.

The only thing I am doing for Find a Grave right now is corrections. I can't make myself go out right now without Jerry to do the research and take pictures. Maybe someday I will be able to start taking pictures again.

I'm really glad Im not writing on paper, it would be so full of tear stains and hard to read. This was really hard to write to all of you. In Gods name, I love all of you. Thank you for being my friends.

18 Sep 2012
Clark County, Missouri

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Robert Hartman
RE: Marie Kullick
What got me started on this is an email I received about Miss Pauline Grucer, or(Grusser.) "Pauline Marie Grucer was born and spent her early childhood at Lubenau, near Berlin. Germany. In 1856 she came to this country with her folks, settling near Winchester, Mo. Later she came to Eddyville, where she resided for a short time when she went to San Bernardino, Cal., with her brother, Charles Grucer. After his death in Guatamala, she lived for several years at Los Angeles, returning to Eddyville in 1882, since which time she has made her home with her sister. Mrs. J.W. Seifert."
I have look on the 1860 census but I did not find them listed. 1870 census they are in Iowa, but her, mother and dad are buried some where around Winchester ?family Cemetery?
Added by Robert Hartman on Apr 08, 2017 1:23 PM
dave ashbrook
I have tried to e-mail you but it must be going in your spam folder. I am researching the descendants of Simon who immigrated in 1749 on the ship Dragon, two of his daughters marrying Wolf sons, I assume these are you ancestors. Check you spam box to see if my e-mails are there, and I hope you can find time to reply. I would greatly appreciate any help you could give me.


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Added by dave ashbrook on Feb 26, 2017 11:27 PM
RE: Day Cemetery
Oh thank you, I didn't know there was a museum in Kahoka!! I really want to get up there again soon.
Added by Countrygirl80 on Jan 20, 2017 11:20 AM
RE: Day Cemetery
Sorry it's taken soooo long to get back to you. Thank you for the info. Does your book mention dates of burial at all? I'd like to eventually get out to Day cemetery, as well as other cemeteries in that area to look for family.
Added by Countrygirl80 on Jan 19, 2017 9:08 AM
Find A Grave Memorial# 29467936
Could you please correct the spelling of my 1st cousin 2xremoved? It should be Lennaeus.
Thanks very much!
Added by Parish-940 on Dec 17, 2016 10:34 AM
Nicole Greer #173659097
Hi Nancy, I have created a memorial for Nicole Greer at Kahoka Cem. There is a photo of a shared headstone with Genevieve Balentine #8015149 that you posted. I was wondering if you would post it on Nicole's memorial as well. I have entered a photo request. Thank you, Diana
Added by Diana on Dec 08, 2016 8:37 PM
Day Cemetery
I was just curious as to how you know who is buried in Day Cemetery in Clark County Missouri. I see that most of the memorials you have done, do not have pictures, or info other than names. I am just curious as I have family links to quite a few people buried there.
Added by Countrygirl80 on Nov 26, 2016 11:05 PM
Norilee Williamson
Duplicate Memorial-68847811
Good Morning Nancy -- FYI there is a duplicate memorial for Charles that was created in 2011. Can your memorial be merged with the one that was created in 2011?
Added by Norilee Williamson on Oct 20, 2016 7:41 AM
Joel Cook
Thank you for transferring my 3rd great grandfather, Joel Cook, to me.
Linda Brandt
Added by Linda on Aug 30, 2016 8:26 PM
Oak Hill Cemetery
Take your time Nancy, I have plenty to keep me busy,I appreciate what you've done so far. You Take it easy on yourself.
Added by Teresamae on Aug 30, 2016 4:54 PM
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