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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Avelina M. Rimbert
RE: WestropeFamily
Thank you so much for the information
Added by Avelina M. Rimbert on Feb 19, 2017 1:14 PM
Avelina M. Rimbert
RE: WestropeFamily
i am just now seeing these messages. thank you so much
Added by Avelina M. Rimbert on Feb 19, 2017 1:10 PM
Julie H
Massy & William Taylor
Hi, is this your family? (46897564)
In the 1860 census there is a Jacob Murphy in their household, do you know if he is related somehow?

I'm wondering if William had a sister?
I'm trying to find a Jacob, son of Peter Murphy and Druscilla D. Wolf, born about 1836 in Indiana. Peter was born about 1806 in Ohio

thank you
Added by Julie H on Feb 09, 2017 9:47 PM
Chris Hobson
RE: DeanWilkinson
Cecile was the only one... Find A Grave does this on existing connections.. If I add the parents it won't let me keep the info on the spouse... Its a bit irritating...
Added by Chris Hobson on Feb 06, 2017 7:18 AM
Thank you so much! I'm hoping some more information will come up. The story should be up on in the next week or so.
Added by elosito12 on Feb 02, 2017 10:58 AM
Cryptogram. I need your help ASAP. It's about the Confederate soldier headstone pictures you took a little while ago. I'm a writer for The Emerging Civil War Blog, and I saw your pictures. I was hoping I could have your permission to use these and your actual name for credits. Please let me know as soon as you can!

Added by elosito12 on Feb 02, 2017 10:14 AM
Diana St. Clair Huber
William Baker family in Pleasant Valley

I couldn't find anything in the records from Painted Hills, but I do have the phone numbers for the Secretary, Lisa Oakes. Home phone is 716-372-6712; the cell # I have is 716-474-8207. She has told me in the past that during the day, her cell phone is the best way to contact her.

Good luck
Added by Diana St. Clair Huber on Jan 31, 2017 10:29 AM
Nina Willard
I am one of those who spends hours on end looking for ancestors only to find info then to not save it correctly. I then leave searching for months on end as other activities take my time. It seems every time I return, I start over. Well to my surprise this morning, after having spent the past couple of days back into it, I was directed to a picture that looks like you just posted days ago. This picture has my concerns that Harry and Harrold Willard are truly 2 separate babies and my excitement is great! Thank you so much for taking the time to do this great work, and for pointing me in the direction to now know Find A Grave is a site I could join. I hope to spend a lot of time doing it correctly this go around!
Added by mcgill on Jan 31, 2017 9:27 AM
RE: PHOTO: Doris Furman
I hate learning the "sad" stuff also. Lots of children who never made it to adulthood, or mothers who didn't survive to see their children. But also, I'm seeing a lot of deaths from gunshots and car accidents. I can understand "disease" takes many family members. And that's heart wrenching. I cringe every time I see "self inflicted." Thank you for connecting the Furman family, I think it's important. There is still some history to be learned by looking at family names, that would otherwise be lost. I know we asked a few times where a name came from, as it's so out of the (our world) realm. Then it's discovered that it's in homage to a g-g-g-grandparent or such!

Happy Hunting!
Added by LRobin on Jan 27, 2017 11:36 AM
Virginia D
Cheeseman & Briggs
Thank you so much for taking the time to seek out and photograph the memorials for Elizabeth & James Briggs (2488349-50) and for the information and photo for the Amy Cheeseman plot (109734969). Her burial plot information was forwarded.
Virginia D.
Added by Virginia D on Jan 26, 2017 6:34 PM
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