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Ms Renee (#47154124)
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Bio Photo I am an author and resident of Arizona for more than 35 years.

I was born in Watsonville, California. I LOVE everything about Arizona, however, I miss the OCEAN!!!

I like to say, "I'm a Jill of many trades and Mistress of some." I enjoy writing stories, poems, and songs. I like web design, oil painting, photography, decorating, crafts, scrapbooking, research/folklore/superstitions, and throwing theme parties (especially Halloween theme parties which I have done for 25 consecutive years.) I love to travel and play on myspace (Guilty Pleasure!)

There's so much more to say and not enuff time - but we will know more of each other soon. Have a lovely day - and ...

"There will come a time when you believe
everything is finished. That will be the beginning."
-- Louis L'Amour: Quotes of Faith


"Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don't matter and
those who matter don't mind." Theodor Seuss Geisel

An Interesting Fact About Dr. Seuss:
His first book, "And to Think That I Saw It on
Mulberry Street," was rejected 27 times. Think
about that the next time you want to give up.


***My Father's name was;

James Melville (Melvin) Soward

(middle name incorrect or spelled wrong) As I recall, he didn't like either of the names, but I sure like 'Melville' as a name!

He also went by "Jim" and that is what is on his gravestone. I picked out the marker and stone under the marker when I was 12! I think Mother thot it might be a way of healing or bonding her and I together more.

Later, in my 20's, I felt it was too much responsibility and hated the way the stone and marker didn't seem to 'match' - then as I got in to my 30's, I felt it was beautiful. You just have to think of it being from the mind and appetite of a child of twelve.

I never really grieved properly when my father died. Therefore, I hold a special place in my heart for all who have lost their fathers or mothers when they were only children.

You always feel something is missing and it does affect your life and your choices in life. You tend to chose people in your life who can give you comfort (sometimes in negative ways) or who you can give comfort to because you need to 'matter' in some way bigger than what is common.

I wonder if I had went to counseling or saw my father after death (I didn't go in at the hospital and I didn't go to the viewing the night before his funeral and the casket was closed at the gravesite burial) would there have been more closure?

So, I suppose that is why I have been very interested in folklore, superstition, and such of how people in the days before our time handled death and grief. There are many stories of how people would set themselves apart for an entire year, wear black or some other type of mourning suit/dress/pin/ring for a year and even how some widows would up and move to a totally different apartment to grieve.

In the days of old, there were many more customs around death and grief than there is nowadays and I think we have suffered, in general, because we have not continued with a more elaborate form of grieving after someone passes.

I think 'findagrave' is a healthy place to carry out our thots and special bios and memories. I will write all my memories and history of my father for you soon.

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In Memory Of My DAD
Thank You
for your kind words on my Dad's page. They made me smile :-)
Added by In Memory Of My DAD on Aug 10, 2014 7:57 PM
David Eastburn
RE: thank you!
Hi Nay, so great to get your note. Hope all is well. So good to hear from you. David
Added by David Eastburn on Aug 09, 2014 8:45 PM
RE: Marcus Odel Soward, Sarah Ann Casey, Minnie Haley, Archie Soward
It is good to hear from you Renee, I'm your cousin Tammy. My Grandfather, John Fieldon Casey, was Sarah's brother. I spent many summers with her. Email me at
Added by Talley on Aug 09, 2014 9:40 AM
In Memory Of My DAD
RE: thank you!
Thank you :-)
Added by In Memory Of My DAD on Aug 09, 2014 7:54 AM
RE: hugs ~~~ *Right Back Attcha*
It has been nice spending these few moments with you and I appreciate UR sweet message. Renee, may your week-end be as special as you are!
Added by purple-lady on Aug 09, 2014 5:55 AM
* Warm Wishes at Xmas Time *
Sending "Happy Thoughts' your way and wish you well on Christmas Day. May your 2014 New Year be filled with Love, Laughter, Prosperity.

______________Merry Christmas
__________________I Have
_________________Come Here
________________To Wish You
_______________Merry Christmas
______________And Also, A Happy
_____________New Year To You For
____________2014... I Hope The New
___________Year Brings You Loads Of
__________Happiness And Lots Of Fun.
_________I Hope You Have A Nice Day On
________Christmas Day, Filled With Lots Of
_______Angel Time.......And Of Course Eating
______Lots Of Nice Foods, And Candies. I Hope
_____That Santa Is Good To You As Well And He
___Brings You Loads Of Presents On Christmas Day
Added by purple-lady on Dec 19, 2013 7:47 AM
geoffrey gillon
Is your Balgay Hill Cemetery

not the same as .........


-created 2/11/2005
Added by geoffrey gillon on Jul 07, 2012 2:43 PM
Robert Duran ~
Ms Renee
It is a pleasure to make your day as it is to visit your dad's memorial. I appreciate your kind note and hope your doing well. Take care.
Added by Robert Duran ~ on Dec 02, 2010 1:23 PM
ML Sanders Sharp
RE: Excellent!
Hi Renee,

My father-in-law is Bill Sharp. He and Jim worked together in Mendota in 1948, pre-cooling cantaloupes. They worked for Gault. They stayed in a mobile home up there & came home every other day.

They also worked together a few days in Yuma and Phoenix (126 degrees!), working for the same person & doing the same job.

My husband Michael remembers Jim as his school bus driver. He drove the large bus, even drove them on school trips to the coast. Michael said he was the friendliest of the bus drivers, the kids liked him. The bus drivers in tose days also doubled as maintenance workers at the school.

Jim liked to socialize and had a good sense of humor. He and my in-laws were friends and spent a lot of time together in their off hours.

I only met your dad once when he visited my in-laws in Armona, back when I was a new member of the family (my first trip to Armona was in 1976).

I hope you're well and had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Take care and stay in touch,
Mary Lou
Added by ML Sanders Sharp on Nov 28, 2010 10:55 AM
Pixie Owens♥Huntley
Ms Renee
Thank You for the sweet compliment and your visit to my Mommy's Memorial. I appreciate it so very much. Have a good weekend. Pixie
Added by Pixie Owens♥Huntle... on Aug 06, 2010 2:36 PM
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