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CryptoGram (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Jill Alexander
RE: Marilla Morian headstone
I want to thank you for finding Marilla's headstone for me. I appreciate your work very much.
Warm regards,
Jill Metcalf-Alexander
Added by Jill Alexander on Apr 23, 2017 5:58 PM
The Hinchees - Cherry Creek
Thank you so very much for the headstone photos of Edwin and Emeline. They are just beautiful!

Raleigh in MI
Added by Raleigh on Apr 23, 2017 4:22 PM
Lela Lord
Thank you so much for taking the time to hunt down my great aunts grave! Very much appreciated!

Christina H
Added by Christina on Apr 23, 2017 3:19 PM
Teresa Townsell
Photos in St. Patrick Catholic Cemetery
Thank you so much for taking the photos and posting them on findagrave. I live out in the Seattle area, and so your help is greatly appreciated.
Added by Teresa Townsell on Apr 23, 2017 8:58 AM
Donna Markey
RE: Cherry Creek Cemetery
Don't I know it! Sometimes there are two people with the same name (middle initial may be different) and birthdates are the same year or very close. I use online resources to pick the right person, but when you are walking a cemetery it must be even more difficult. Another problem is a change in spelling of the last name; one child may keep the same spelling as his father and another one change it; i.e., Bently, Bentley, etc. I've been told that Cherry Creek Cemetery can be muddy during wet weather, too. Your efforts are greatly appreciated.
Added by Donna Markey on Apr 23, 2017 8:44 AM
Betty Hicks
RE: DorisBakerGouldShoup
I wonder if she and James divorced, they each married other people, then he died 1971 by the fumes with Betty,(see Betty's site with article) then Doris divorced and took back her old name from her marriage to James,that way her name was the same as her children and she could get her social security after his death without trouble. But I agree it was her name and I would leave with your explanation . I added Betty, article said she is buried there with James and connected her as his second wife.
Added by Betty Hicks on Apr 22, 2017 6:42 PM
Richard Boutwell
Helmick photos
Many thanks for your time and effort in taking and posting those photos. Much appreciated!
Added by Richard Boutwell on Apr 22, 2017 3:17 PM
Barry R MacKenzie
John W MacMaster
Thanks for posting the photo!
Added by Barry R MacKenzie on Apr 22, 2017 2:52 PM
Thank you!
WoW! The photo you took of the Wilkes family marker is great! And it helps answer so many questions! I can finally fill in some of the blanks! So very,very appreciated. If you ever need a photo in OKC, Oklahoma, just hit me up! :) RC
Added by RC on Apr 22, 2017 11:06 AM
Donna Markey
Cherry Creek Cemetery
Thanks for the new photos from Cherry Creek Central Cemetery. They are greatly appreciated.
Added by Donna Markey on Apr 22, 2017 9:48 AM
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