As of 05/05/2017, I will not even open a PRIVATE/PERSONAL email unless I know you well through this site, some linked as friends below right. Any message must be sent through the SAC of Find A Grave. Those are NOT private as they are controlled through Find A Grave. You could even search for my surname on Find A Grave and send a message through a relative I maintain. Please be clear in the message what memorial you are referring to. Sorry for any inconvenience.