When I joined Find a Grave it was a good website where a person could find and connect to their past without having to pay an annual fee. As I searched other volunteers home pages, I would read in their bios how they too expressed their support for the website and how it helped them to find a love one. On certain occasions though, I would come across a bio in which the volunteer didn't write a bio about themselves, but they expressed anger about the neglect of other individuals who didn't abide by the website rules. As I continued to read the bio, I wondered why they would choose to express their anger and frustration rather than write something good about themselves. Well after many years of contributing memorials, photos, and flowers, I know now why they wrote those angry words. I have come to realize that when a website offers free membership, it opens the door to every idiot who has nothing better to do than to create frustration and tension for other people. If these trouble causing individuals were forced to pay an annual fee, I believe they would think twice about wasting their money on creating aggravation for other individuals. I am changing my policy, and will be a STRICT keeper of the Find a Grave Rules. This means: Transfer requests should be for direct relatives within four generations. This would be YOUR siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. If you don't understand this, then go find someone who does understand this statement and can explain it to you. There are many of my relatives memorials that I don't manage and I am quite happy to leave them in the hands of other people. If there is something I want added to the memorial I click the EDIT tab and make my request. This is the correct, by the rules, way for this website. If this rule is not followed, then when I receive your email/request, I will list it as spam and it will be deleted. Another rule I have found that volunteers are breaking is the photo copyright rule. You CANNOT claim a photo you DID NOT TAKE. I have found many of my photos being copied and pasted on other memorials. This is a serious rule infraction. REMEMBER, IF YOU DIDN'T TAKE THE PICTURE.....DON'T TAKE CREDIT FOR THE PICTURE! Ask for permission. Finally, Be accurate with your information. When photo volunteers go out to fill a photo request, they are taking their time and money to get you that photo. Don't just put someone in a cemetery because it seems like the right one. Take the time to do some research and get confirmation before you list a memorial. Be Considerate!
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