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AlleCattSTU (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Susan D. Schwartz
Boyd - Sond
Buckshot and I have been communicating about the Boyd/Sond entries. I have gone through the Fairview files and cannot find a burial for Sond. All the Sond burials are Boyds as you pointed out.

I contacted the contributor (who has always worked well with me in the past) and asked to delete the Sond entries. I did not ask for a correction because then there would be two entries for the same person.

Thank you for bringing this to our attention. I know how easy it is to get things confused and am confident that it will be corrected.

Susan Schwartz
Fairview Historian

Added by Susan D. Schwartz on Sep 18, 2017 2:03 PM
Lisa Rienerth
Thank you
Thank you for taking the time to go and photograph the Dickens gravestone and downloading it to Findagrave! It is greatly appreciated!
Added by Lisa Rienerth on Sep 18, 2017 11:08 AM
Emely and John Fowler
Many thanks to you for your time and efforts in locating and photoing this headstone. Your good works are much appreciate. I like the verses that you have on your bio.
Added by TurningHearts on Sep 16, 2017 3:11 PM
Added by TurningHearts on Sep 16, 2017 3:06 PM
The Onion Maiden
Ida, Nora and Walter
Thanks so much for the pictures you took for me at Forest Hills Cemetery. I really appreciate your efforts !!
Added by The Onion Maiden on Sep 13, 2017 3:59 PM
William Huntsman.
Thank you for your effort
Added by marge on Sep 12, 2017 3:33 PM
Richard Kleinschmidt
Thank You
for the picture.
Added by Richard Kleinschmidt on Sep 11, 2017 7:42 PM
melissa 💗
RE: Thank You
Hi, I thought that was your profile that used to be Cryptogram. I wasnt sure though. :) Thank you for making the memorial and transfering my relative Mrs. Spencer to me. I appreciate all you have done with my relatives. Thank you for the new picture of Annettes stone also.
Thank you for the prayers. I dont know if you read the top of my profile page. I have a lung disease that has got worse. No cure except a lung transplant that I don't qualify for. The transplant doctor said im not healthy or strong enough for the transplant when needed in the future. So we are praying it doesn't get worse. Im on meds and oxygen to help me and thankfully im blessed with my family helping me do stuff around the house etc. Im not on here as much as I use to but do tend my memorials when I need to. I get tired so quick but do what I can. We are leaning on God to help me and my family deal with it all. Thank you for your prayers and I think of you too and keep you and your family in prayer.

Love and hugs Missie

Added by melissa 💗 on Sep 11, 2017 3:20 PM
Karen Barnette
Lucinda Reed
Thank you so much for checking the cemetery to see if Lucinda Reed had a headstone or not. So sad that she doesn't. I appreciate that you took the time to check.
Regarding your message about others copying your personal pictures which you've posted on Find a Grave to other websites, I totally agree with you and would like to copy and paste your write-up on my Find a Grave bio especially for two or three people that are armchair genealogist but want credit for other's work. Okay, that's my rant for the day! Thank you for all that you do for Find a grave!
Added by Karen Barnette on Sep 10, 2017 1:57 PM
Sharon Turner
Vernon Richmond
Thank you for taking a picture of the area where he is buried and noting that he does not have a grave marker.
Added by Sharon Turner on Sep 10, 2017 1:26 PM
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