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Beth (#47841402)
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I create memorials at Black Hills National Cemetery here in South Dakota as my way of honoring our Veterans and their families.I am "NOT" a collector of memorials so if I have created/or have a memorial for someone,be it a family member,friend or someone you knew,and you'd like me to transfer it to your care...Ask and you shall receive 😊😊😊

G. K. Chesterton wrote, "Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of readiness to die." The men and women who served in the armed forces, whether during a time of war, or one of peace, are living examples of that contradiction. Each should be honored and remembered, so that our gratitude never fade's... 💗❤💗

Leaving coins on the headstones of those who served in the Military, especially those who died in combat, dates back at least as far as the Roman Empire.

The practice became especially popular in the United States during the Vietnam War because of the political climate throughout the 1960s and 1970s. Friends of those who died in combat left coins to let family members know that someone had visited the gravesite. Leaving a coin on the headstone was more practical than contacting the family and risk becoming involved in a discussion about the war.

Generally speaking, a visitor who did not know the deceased well enough to be considered a friend might leave a penny. Someone who went through boot camp or a training class with the deceased might leave a nickel. A friend who served in another platoon within the same company might leave a dime. A buddy who served in the same outfit, or was with the deceased when he died, might leave a quarter.

Some Vietnam Veterans left coins as a "down-payment" to purchase a beer or play a hand of poker when he was eventually re-united with his deceased buddy.

Today, the denomination of the coin left on the headstone has become less significant because so few people carry coins other than quarters.

The coins left on headstones within National Cemeteries and State Veterans Cemeteries are collected by cemetery staff from time to time and are used to maintain the grounds. Some cemeteries use the coins to help pay for the burial costs of indigent Veterans.


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cheryl drummond
was looking for a grave for Fred Lynn McCord and did not find one. thought it would be near Irmas but apparently now. do you know of a grave for him. also do you have any info on getting death certificates in montana. would like to get one for Grover Cleveland McAlister. thank you.
Added by cheryl drummond on Jun 12, 2017 9:15 AM
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irma McCord
thank you very much. yes that does help.
Added by cheryl drummond on Jun 11, 2017 1:03 PM
Your bio is very informative!
Enjoyed reading about the history of coins and the military. I always thought it was a tip for the cemetery caretaker, or, person down on their luck!

I wonder how many walk the cemeteries looking for financial gain? I heard of a guy in Missouri who collected enough coins over 50 years to retire quite nicely!

Hope all is swell with the Cow Girl named Beth!

Larry, of course!
Added by Larry on Jun 11, 2017 11:38 AM
cheryl drummond
mother Maxine Mural McAlister bn 1-28-1928 was daughter of Grover Cleveland McAlister (1893-1934) # 48171358 and Irma Patefield McAlister McCord (1905-1996) # 79598142. Grover son on Charles Patrick McAlister (1830 ind-1922 mo) and Mary Caldwell. Irma, ;dau of wm Patefield and mary Crapp (crappbow listed on marr record for Irma and Grover C. McAlister 1927 Bozeman montana.
Looking for family information of Irma Patefield McAlister MC CORD, after cleve passed. appreciate any information :
Added by cheryl drummond on Jun 10, 2017 2:31 PM
Jessica Marie
thank you
Thanks for sponsoring my grandmas memorial. I got the email today but it don't show,
Added by Jessica Marie on Jun 01, 2017 9:28 PM
Sue Wiedemer Jones
RE: Shirley Ann Baragar
Thank you, but no, I was taking photos for some requests and her grave just happened to be close by. The Black Hills National Cemetery has less than half of the graves photographed so I try to do a few each time I am there.
Added by Sue Wiedemer Jones on Jun 01, 2017 4:11 PM
Kelly JMT
Transfer of my Father
Thank you so much for the transfer of my Father's Memorial. I appreciate it very much.
Added by Kelly JMT on May 31, 2017 5:34 PM
RE: Photo's at BHNC...
You are very welcome. It was my honor and a beautiful time to be there with all the graves decoraced. Cindy
Added by Cindy on May 29, 2017 8:44 AM
Jessica Marie
RE: Welcome back Jess
I miss you too, I have been through so much over the past year. We will catch up very soon.
Added by Jessica Marie on May 29, 2017 8:06 AM
Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret
RE: Gary
OKIE DOKIE, it's odd folks don't up date their memorials. I have a list I check for when I go out. The office told me it was up to the familys.
Added by Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret on May 22, 2017 6:19 AM
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