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HJ (#46937296)
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family and friends will all be considered individually. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)
Finally, when I die, please no one euphemistically assert that I have "passed." It sounds so impolite, as though a catastrophic gastric feux pas has occurred, and won't fool anyone into thinking I have done something other than dropping DEAD. Geesh, we all do it, so I don't think it is taboo to say it. Furthermore, I shall haunt anyone designating my date of death as an "angel day," or similar nonsense. How presumptuous it would be for anyone, except God, to make such an assumption.

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Cheryl Mueller
Your Bio
Love it!
Added by Cheryl Mueller on Apr 09, 2017 11:27 PM
Jacki Bierma
RE: Conrad Nolte

Added by Jacki Bierma on Mar 27, 2017 6:03 PM
Katharine P. Pyott
Elizabeth Fidela Moore Parr
Thanks - I think the ghosts are just going to have to stay. Hopefully anyone who tries the deleted number will realize they should try the other one.

I'm still hoping to hear how we are related :-) ...and sometime when you have a chance, I'd love to know more about the source you refer to in Nancy Carrick's and Samuel Parr's bios as "Family history, compiled by ECMP": who is ECMP?
Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 21, 2017 6:41 PM
Katharine P. Pyott
RE: Elizabeth Fidelia (Moore) Parr
Thank you!! :-)) I'm delighted to have Elizabeth's death/burial dates corrected (I'm sure she is, too). And the correction automatically linked to her husband and children - the Find A Grave network is amazing!
Just one more detail: is there any way to get rid of the "ghost" link that originally led to my memorial for her (#124102599)? On her memorial and her husband's, there are still TWO lines for her links - my old one (which leads to "not found") and your corrected one, so they both now look identical. Not a big deal, just awkward...
Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 20, 2017 1:45 PM
Katharine P. Pyott
Sidney Parr
Thank you for solving (perfectly) the duplicate problem. I created my version early in my days of working with Find A Grave and didn't realize you had already done a memorial for him - sorry about duplicating your efforts. I appreciate your including my info and giving me credit, and have (carefully!) deleted my #175936556. Next time I want to create a memorial for someone I certainly will check to see if there already is one.
Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 20, 2017 9:36 AM
Katharine P. Pyott
Elizabeth Fidelia (Moore) Parr
I was going back through my "unfinished business" and noticed that Elizabeth's death & burial dates have not been corrected to 1904 (she died 11 Jan 1904, was buried 14 Jan 1904). Evergreen Cemetery says they have corrected the error in their records; is there any info I can provide to help get the Memorial updated? I have her death certificate, both in the current form issued by Winnebago County and a copy of her original death certificate, in case they would help.

Please let me know if there is anything I could do to help.


Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 19, 2017 11:36 AM
Katharine P. Pyott
RE:Sam & Lucie
Thank you!! I am SO happy to finally have them linked! I'm also glad that the photos of Sam are on his page - I'm not sure how they got there (from my family album) but I'm delighted that they did! (Mike Schelter might have had copies of them - he & I have collaborated on a number of Parrs over the years.)

I also have a nice photo of Lucie, in case you would like it on her page. I don't know how to get it there, but surely something could be worked out. It's in her gallery in my tree. I also have a good one of Lewis Beecher Parr. My mother made me a family photo album with LOTS of relatives in it, and I have been able to edit some out of their groups.

Now, back to the Taxes :( .

Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 17, 2017 6:10 PM
Katharine P. Pyott
RE: Dorothy Pennell Parr
Thank you for the instructions for linking Dorothy with her adoptive parents. For now, I will just have to hope nobody suddenly finds her birth parents - I will save the linking instructions and hope to follow them later, but I need to tear myself away from the tree and do income taxes.

Meanwhile, I still hope my grandfather Samuel Wilson Parr will get Lucie listed as his spouse - I can't understand why that doesn't seem to work. Could it have anything to do with the fact that my father's father (Sam) and mother's mother (Katherine) were brother & sister?? This has bogged down a number of computer programs. Hopefully the link will happen eventually.

Thank you for your help.
Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 16, 2017 10:14 PM
Louise Konneck
Hi, her obit next to a relatives, email me and I will scan to you for the extra info. :)
Added by JuJu on Mar 16, 2017 9:12 PM
Katharine P. Pyott
Flora Pennell Parr
Thank you for updating my great aunt Flora's death info. She was a very special person at Castle Park, their home in Allegan County, where many of John's siblings also had property (we still have the house built for John's sister Frances in 1913).
One thing I am wondering: is it possible to link people's ADOPTED children in Find A Grave? I have tried to find something about it in the (lengthy!) guidelines, but haven't found it. John & Flora adopted a daughter, Dorothy, in Chicago in 1893 and raised her to adulthood. I have Dorothy's marriage information and our family kept in touch with her after they moved to Louisiana (I even talked with her daughter Barbara on the phone several years ago). But can Dorothy be linked as John & Flora's adopted daughter? Dorothy & her husband already have Find A Grave Memorials (I just noticed that I need to have Elaine credit Dorothy's background info to me, or it doesn't make sense...). They are very much part of our extended family, and I wish a connection could be established. In case you want to look at Dorothy's Memorial, it is #87128519; her husband was Ralph Miller.
I'm sorry to even bother you with this, but I wish Dorothy could be connected.
Added by Katharine P. Pyott on Mar 13, 2017 3:00 PM
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