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Delita (#47315206)
 member for 7 years, 1 month, 16 days
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Bio Photo Relaxing in the Smoky Mountains.
Debbie took this pic.

New Memorial : My husbands Army National Guard buddy for many years
Joe Griner

Debra Lynn Barwick

Debbie's son Our
Grandson TJ Parham
Birthday Mar 13, 1985- April 17, 2016 Suicide victim

August Special Days

Donald Wisenbaker Brother Birthday August 11 Angel Day Aug 17
Gail Wisenbaker Sister in law Birth Aug 14

John Wisenbaker Nephew Birthday Aug 19

Bobby Wisenbaker Brother Birthday Aug 31

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Daddy Louis Wisenbaker
Mama Cuba Wisenbaker
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Wesleyand Gail Wisenbaker
Richard Harold Wisenbaker
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Alton John Jerrold Parker
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Messages left for Delita (74)[Leave Message]
Mary Ann Barrowman
RE: Thank You Mary Ann
Hi Delita, I'm ever so sorry for the delay in replying to your beautiful message. You are so welcome. TJs passing was so unexpected and right out of the blue. My sister Alice, had made previous suicide attempts before when she was a teenager. When she died, it was still a dreadful shock and still is 33 years on. I can't tell you Delita, that time heals, it doesn't, it just becomes more bearable. I can still clearly and vividly remember seeing Alice lying on her living room floor after she was pronounced dead, and I remember every minute detail. However, you can't undo what's happened. It was a dreadful tragedy and I keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you are bearing up well, and I send much love to you and your husband and family. Love, Mary. XXX
Added by Mary Ann Barrowman on Jul 19, 2017 5:01 PM
RE: Deb
Dear Delita:

Thank you for your very thoughtful note and prayers for my husband and I. They are deeply appreciated.

I hope you are doing better as this month has not been easy for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time.

With Blessings and Hugs,

Added by Deb on Apr 25, 2017 3:16 PM
RE: Prayers

Thank you SO MUCH for the kind note and tokens left for my niece, Erica.

I read TJ's memorial page the other night. You're right, although losing someone you love is ALWAYS extremely hard, no matter the circumstances, but when it happens like the way it did for TJ and Erica, it is excruciatingly painful. The people left behind are grappling to make sense out of a senseless act. They are left with tremendous guilt. My nephew did this back in 2011. You feel so helpless and it hurts to think they felt that was their only option.

It seems as though TJ had everything going for him, just as Erica did. I will never understand this. In Erica's case, mental illness ran deeper than we thought. So many "what if's..."

I added TJ to my list of angels I want to visit regularly. I will definitely be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Thank you again,

Love, Melinda
Added by Melinda on Mar 26, 2017 6:47 AM
Re:Dear Delita,
Thank you so very much for your thoughtful notes.Please forgive me for taking so long to thank you. I want thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your visits to my parents and friends...It truly means so much to me, that they are thought of and remembered. Bless you Delita.
I keep you and your beloved family in my thoughts and prayers each and every day.
We are so blessed to have this amazing wonderful sight to come too. The friends, we have all met are truly angels and have gotten all of us through very difficult days after losing loved ones..
The holidays have not at all been easy for any of us, with out our loved ones here with us, its been painful. But we must hold close to our hearts all our treasured memories of difficult as it is.
I hope and pray that you find comfort in my words Delita. Always know you can write to me on my email.
I hope and pray you and your family and loved ones, have a very blessed, and a very Happy New Year, from the depths of my heart...God Bless you my dear friend...
With love, prayers and hugs always, your friend, Eileen
Added by Eileen on Dec 27, 2016 7:33 AM
Mary Ann Barrowman
RE: Thank You Mary Ann
Hello Delita,
I'm so sorry for your sad and tragic loss of TJ. My heart weeps for you. It's a dreadful loss of this wonderful young man whom you loved so dearly. I pray you never had to suffer this tragedy. I'm almost 32 1/2 years into my journey now. I remember that day that my beautiful sister Alice died, just like it was yesterday Delita. My stepdad died, then my father, then my mother and then five weeks later, my young brother died. Sadly my extended family are dwindling away. My tragedy now is that Alice's name is very, very seldom mentioned , and this hurts me so much. One thing Delita is that Alice, my gorgeous big sister, was born on Easter Monday, 19th April 1954, and she also died on Easter Monday, 23rd April 1984. This has always troubled me. I have actually ordered a copy of Alice's death certificate, along with a copy of my daughter, Amanda's death certificate today. I have never actually seen these documents with my own eyes.
My love, thoughts and comfort are with you as you learn how to adjust to life without JT. Please feel free to contact me, anytime you feel you need someone to share your sorrow, I'm more than willing to lend an ear. I would never wish the pain of Alice's death by suicide on anyone. As I said Delira, your pain is new, it's red raw, but with support, it does become more bearable, but you will never forget this very talented young man. I'm also saddened to hear of the loss of TJs mother, absolutely terrible. I send your so much peace, love, warmth and comfort. Hugs, Mary, from Clydebank in Scotland. X
Added by Mary Ann Barrowman on Sep 30, 2016 3:59 PM
theresa wilson
RE: Delita
Your Very Welcome Dear, I know how hard these things are, My Grandad took his own life. Its been hard on the family. My only comfort from it was from the Lord. I had to give it him cause it was too heavy for me to carry in my Heart. I Pray The Lord can help you find that Peace too. Give it to the Lord in Prayer. Lol Theresa
Added by theresa wilson on Sep 05, 2016 7:22 PM
I am so sorry about your grandson. Please know I have been thinking about you.I pray God will be with you and your family during this difficult time.we dont understand why things like this happen's. Please take care knowing our God will be with you all the way.....Love Allie
Added by Broken~★~Heart on May 21, 2016 7:27 PM
Loretta Sampson
RE: Dear Loretta
So so sorry to hear about your grandson. My heart goes out to you . We never know what life has in store for us all, but I can't think of why such a young man would think life is not worth living.
I just hope by now your daughter is on the road to recovery. I will say a prayer for her.
For me, I am not doing that good,I just take one day at a time. I still think so much about your daughter Debbie, she is always in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care of yourself, my friend. Love,
Added by Loretta Sampson on May 18, 2016 6:57 PM
Rhonda C./Friends
Dear Delita,
I realize that I am always ages behind in messages and news on here, but that doesn't mean my friends are any less out of my heart and thoughts, and I am just so sorry to hear of T.J.'s loss. One of my friends helping to monitor my pages while Gannon and I have medical issues yet again sent me an e/m asking me whether I was aware of the news, and I literally had to sit down and put my hand on my chest, so great was the pain for you and yours. Delita, you ask in your posts what you might have done...I have had many suicides in my own family and circle of friends, unfortunately, and I began asking that question with the very first suicide to affect my life, that of my brother, Ron...thirty five years later, I still ask the question, and still have no answers. My father's suicidal tendencies - many who do not follow my writing do not know that his eventual end in a nursing home, brain dead for many years, was due to a failed suicide attempt - continue to tangle through my "What could I have seen sooner, and done differently for this family?" arguments, year after year after year. I have written many pieces on the subject, and when I was a bit better physically and could do so, I spoke at many events for families of suicide victims, etc. I will tell you what I am sure you have been told many times in the last few weeks: You are not responsible for somebody's choice...but you will never believe this. =( It is a very sad and strange catch-22; those of us in this sad club will forever go round and round and round, day to day, knowing that you cannot change somebody else's mind, but two minutes later, we will be certain that had we said something else, made another call, whatever, the end result could have been different. ...I am sure that you have already been told all of this by others and so I will hush up, but again, Gannon and I are just so sorry to hear of this latest test to you and yours, Delita...please know that, even though it seems as though I am on here literally once a month, I keep all of my site friends close to my heart and in my prayers, and am a better person for meeting many of the people on here and learning about their loved ones. And that includes T.J. - we send you love and hugs, as we do T.J., now safe at Home and at rest in Light.
RCP and Gannon Blue
Added by Rhonda C./Friends on May 15, 2016 10:41 AM
A Golden Girl
RE: Dear sweet Lady
Dearest Delita, my heart aches for you. Please know that we all love you, and are praying for you and your Family. BIG hugs; with tears- Donna
Added by A Golden Girl on May 10, 2016 7:45 PM
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