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AlleCattSTU (#46897564)
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Bio Photo Grief never ends,
but it changes.
It is a passage,
not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of
weakness or lack of faith...
it is the price of love.

The words above are thought to be based on a eulogy Queen Elizabeth made for her sister Princess Margaret.

RE: erroneous memorials in Santa Fe National Cemetery ~ ALL people buried in ALL National Cemeteries are findable at VetGravesLocator

I don't make more than a couple memorials a day on average, but have done research into the families of lots of them...same for many whose pictures I post...making me gladly able to help with most anyone's ancestral brick walls however I can.

As the activity on FindAGrave increases, memorials and pictures left to be added decrease. There are already over 125,000,000 memorials; so considering that half the people who ever lived on Planet Earth are living now, and that it's unknown where over 90% of the dead many does that leave? -LOL and go figure.

When the picture "request" function first started, pix were limited in size to 250K: a comparatively tiny 1/32 of 8M now allowed. Back then there was only one guy and me taking pix in Arlington National (all that white granite for matching military markers comes from Vermont...not China :^), and there weren't many requests, so you can see how membership and contributions have exploded! I've had to tell my eager grandboy that there will probably be little picture-taking left to do when another seven years pass, just always recent deaths to add.

Us'uns who are willing & able: little burial grounds usually need cleaning and repairs; but don't go alone, and be careful ~ I've encountered snakes, dogs, & Black Widow spiders...and been told creepy tales about the LIVING I might encounter.

Some might think others of us are too possessive about pictures we take/post, but you probably haven't encountered a self-aggrandizer who deletes memorials after lifting the pictures others added to them and then remakes memorials with same pictures claimed as their own. As on any real city block, not everything is hunky-dory here; and not all the neighbors are nice. It takes just one rotten apple plus a few manipulators, stalkers, and green-eyed game players...especially the ones who post wrong poor-quality pictures on purpose, change names &/or places of burial to make originals look like duplicates, &/or put deaths willy-nilly into incorrect cemeteries just to inflate their "contributions" and then get huffy & vindictive when others notice the obvious, require the rest of us in the barrel to ignore the inappropriate comedy of their intentional errors.

COMMENTS ON MESSAGES TO ME ABOUT COPYRIGHT ISSUES, INCLUDING FindAGrave's OWN rules and regulations, found here ~ FindAGrave FAQs ~ which admonish, among else: >>The copyright of all photos posted to Find A Grave remains with the original submitter. No use of photos for any other website or personal use is given without prior consent of the original submitter.<<

Sad to have to point out that I have posted NO pictures on, but some members there and elsewhere online lifted pictures I DID add to FindAGrave ~ ESPECIALLY of KINFOLK ~ & reposted them as their own with no credit given. When you see a picture on identical to one I've added to FaG, mine is the original; if included posting dates, I would not have to explain this. It's also quite silly that when I/others have made family trees there from personal information, they're noted as having no sources, but then when others copy same, their "source" is US!

You can use pictures I've taken and posted on this site in your online family trees by making a connective link to the original and/or including " FindAGrave member #46897564"; none may be sold and/or exchanged for any type of payment.

Why I got on FindAGrave:

I oversaw the newsletter of Colonel David Hackworth, military author/ commentator/ columnist with 8 Purple Hearts, for several years until he died from the effects of Agent Blue (used along with Agent Orange in Vietnam) while my husband was off in a war zone; at which time I needed a new focus and determined to pin-point our then-totally-unknown ancestors: at least 28 Revolutionary War Patriots, his Mayflower and Salem "witch" ancestors, my Swedish "hanky-panky in the palace" & Scottish Robert the Bruce people...and many *ships who pass in the night* ~ then sometimes remain friends ~ who have been great fun, challenges, and blessings to find.

So, at the onset in 2005, I was first able to find basic facts of the missing Major James Powell, and began a two-year mission to restore his legacy which was lost upon his death at Shiloh 145 years ago today as I write this 06APRIL2007. This long walk, still being shared with both living and non-bodied souls, is what educated me in how to usually quite rapidly find pertinent data for you "strangers," which I still remain happily willing to do!

My head-smacks in research are people assumed to be kids of step-parents when the bio-parent (usually mother) died too young & seeing my favorite greatgrandmother constantly called "Mrs. G.: husband's first initial and married name" ~ most ALL females losing their identities up into the 1960s; so I'm elated whenever I successfully work the puzzles ~ better than word math, sudoku, or cryptograms ~ of restoring ladies' kids &/or maiden names as the most appropriate and long-lasting FLOWERS to their memories, and alas, I still have just ONE nee name in my own Heck(ofA)family to dig up.

May all of Granny Vance's roses perpetually bloom bright and happy!

The book of life is brief,
And once the pages read
All but love is dead:
That is my belief.
(sung by Bobby Goldsboro in 1970...when he & God were watching Scotty grow)

God is Love.
(1 John 4:8)
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Donna Markey
RE: Eliakim & Angeline Crosby
I have been on a "mission" lately, trying to put a maiden name to all the ladies in my database. (I re-read your notes on this, and I am in complete agreement. Women, in essence, lost their personal identities when they married. You do not see her referred to by her first name, much less her maiden name, unless she was unmarried or widowed. She was Mrs. Whatzizname.) I have been fairly successful so far, but it means my research is all over the map--literally--since the families in my database spread out across the country. My favorite places for study, however, are in western New York, which is where my immediate family began and where I was born.

Still here, and still trying to solve puzzles,
Added by Donna Markey on Aug 16, 2017 8:00 AM
Donna Markey
Eliakim & Angeline Crosby
Thanks for adding photos to their memorials. Don't know what we would do without photo volunteers! Great work!
Added by Donna Markey on Aug 15, 2017 7:50 AM
Pics ~ Pleasant Valley Cemetery
Hi -

Thanks SO MUCH for fulfilling my photo request in Pleasant Valley Cemetery - Jason/Nellie Bump.

Great pictures, I sincerely appreciate your time and effort!

Added by Anne on Aug 14, 2017 8:59 AM
Francis and Gladys Hopkins
Thank you for the picture.
Added by Todd on Aug 13, 2017 5:23 PM
Jay Warner
Mt hope cemetery West Almond
Thank you for going to Mount hope you found my cousin Lee Roesch Gravestone. It may have been hiding under the mulch last I was there.

I also liked the photo of my 4th great grandmother Rhoda Margeson's stone

if you have any more photos you want to post go ahead

there were a lot of the stone i could not read but I See that you were able to decipher a few.

Thank you so much
Added by Jay Warner on Aug 09, 2017 7:02 PM
Jay Warner
RE: Hills family Cemetery West Almond
Thank you for trying to find it. I talked to Ron Taylor, he said he talked to a lady and she may have old pictures of the cemetery. he would post them on his website
if she finds them.

Thanks again

Added by Jay Warner on Aug 09, 2017 4:47 PM
Marilyn Washburn Boyles
Ray and Emma Brockel
thank you for the photo of the Brockel headstone. Your time is appreciated.
Added by Marilyn Washburn Boyles on Aug 05, 2017 9:25 AM
John Ricklefs
Evon Masters
Hello. Thank you so very much for fulfilling my request for the photo. I appreciate it so very much.

John Ricklefs
Added by John Ricklefs on Aug 04, 2017 9:12 PM
Penelope DePasquale
Picture of Eleanor Burbank maybe....

I recently visited an antique store in Belfast, NY. I purchased a bunch of photographs and one of them has writing on the back which says, "Eleanor Burbank age 16 months when taken" and "Mother" I am not sure if this is the same Eleanor Burbank that is listed in some of your memorials, but I think there is a good chance of it. Are you interested in the photo? If so, I would be happy to send you a copy. I don't know her, as she isn't my family, but was intrigued by the beautiful picture...

My email is
Added by Penelope DePasquale on Aug 03, 2017 3:46 PM
Jennifer Williams
Joseph vogel request
Thank you for looking for the grave of Joseph Vogel. I appreciate you telling me about the lack of information concerning his death and burial. I will obviously have to dig deeper! Lol! :-) I also appreciate the photo of the area that Joseph "might" be buried in.
Thanks again,
Added by Jennifer Williams on Aug 02, 2017 12:17 PM
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