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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 16 years, 2 months, 13 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Sue McDuffe:)
Thelma Rose Rinehart
"Thanks so much for the excellent grave marker photo!"
Added by Sue McDuffe:) on May 21, 2017 6:42 PM
William R. Cavins
Thank you
I sincerely appreciate your time and effort in helping complete the memorials for the Spencer's with images.
Added by William R. Cavins on May 19, 2017 1:02 PM
Spencer Heisel
Dee Lander Heisel
I appreciate your willingness to go out and confirm that the gravesite has no headstone. It has helped me out a lot. I hope to be able to help some others find some graves as well. Have a great day!
Added by Spencer Heisel on May 16, 2017 9:10 AM
Laura Bias
Moses S Peters & family
Hi Doug & Marilyn,
Thanks for going the extra mile with marking and photographing this family's markers!

You guys are the bomb!

You made it very clear and straightforward.

Thanks, again,

Laura :-)
Added by Laura Bias on May 16, 2017 9:10 AM
John Winning
RE: Onkst
Hi Marilyn,

We are fine. Thanks for updating the Onkst's headstone photo.

Added by John Winning on May 16, 2017 12:38 AM
Kathleen Kiloh
Thank you so much for the photo of my ancestor's headstone. I really appreciate your efforts!
Added by Kathleen Kiloh on May 08, 2017 4:04 PM
John Winning
Hi Marilyn,
Hope everything is okay with you and your family. Can I get you to update the Onkst's headstone photo #28651812. Take the photo and let me know and I will request new photos.

Take care,
Added by John Winning on Apr 27, 2017 2:39 PM
Smith Photos
Thnak you so much for the photos of Cleveland and Harriet. Enjoy your weekend.
Added by RHare on Apr 15, 2017 5:55 PM
RE: Lawlers:
Marilyn, are you related to the Lawlers buried at Lawler Cemetery, Marion County, AL? The cemetery is between Hodges & Hackleburg. Jehu Benjamin Lawler is related to some of my friends, whom I now have found are distant relatives through the Williams-Lawler families buried at Lawler Cemetery. If you are related to them, I will give you more information about the cemetery later.
Added by Olva on Apr 14, 2017 11:32 AM
W. Loy Frisk Simmons
Serea & Edward Clark
Thank you for checking to see if they had stone and taking photo of where they are. Your effort is appreciated.
Added by W. Loy Frisk Simmons on Apr 13, 2017 11:20 PM
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