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Betty Cole (#46861583)
 member for 10 years, 6 months, 25 days
maybelle Hinckley Warren
Re; Maybelle Warren on Memorial 106783907, I recently found her stone at St. Joseph's.

119912533 is a duplicate record and it is titled
Maybelle Warren her last Husbands name.

Would it be possible to remove the Hinckley name from the Title and to put a remark in the comments, of how her first husband died and vice versa on his record how he remarried Maybelle and she remarried, which might make it easier for folkds to find her.
I don't want to put a photo on two memorials and did pick yours, since it seems to be more complete, but I can see the confusion.
Have a good day, Elaine

I did suggest to the other person to delete their record.

Added by Elaine on Nov 18, 2015 7:00 AM

Charlet Roskovics
Alice Towers Whittemore
Hi Betty,

Check your "edit" button for Alice Towers Whittemore's obituary that I offered.


Added by Charlet Roskovics on Jul 28, 2014 12:09 PM

Northern Neighbors
Cole & Diane Wilson memorials
Hi Betty, I deleted the memorials, presuming by their birth dates that they are both still living. When I created them it was near the time that "pre-need" memorials were no longer acceptable to add.
FYI, when you are seeking a transfer you may want to add your relationship (even if only well-known friend, etc.) Some members transfer in guidelines only (4 generation direct) and others will consider out of guidelines if the person was special to you in some way. There is also a very nice virtual cemetery feature/tool you can utilize for memorials not under your management.
Have a great day!

Added by Northern Neighbors on Mar 27, 2013 2:03 PM

Rebecca Ann Neathery Bowles
In response to your posting:

1)I was hoping to get her name written as Rebecca Ann Neathery Cole-Bowles.


FindaGrave Rules
Naming conventions:
Unless the legal name contains a hyphen, punctuation, including the () and /, should not be included in the memorial name. Full capitalization (ALL-CAPS) of names should not be used, whether it be surname or the full name.

"First Name" - First name of the deceased. Please put the entire first name (if known), even if the grave marker is only an initial.
"Middle Name" - Middle name of deceased, if known.
"Nickname" - Nickname of deceased, if known; the nick name is automatically placed in quotes.
"Maiden Name" - Maiden name of a married individual, if known (otherwise leave blank); the maiden name is automatically italicized and should only be used if the individual was married and took the spouse's surname as the new surname. If the deceased was never married, then the surname should be placed in the "Last Name" field, NOT in the "Maiden Name" field.
"Last Name" - Last Name as you would find it on the tombstone, if the interred had more than one marriage or other possible spellings please place this information in the bio and use the family links.

If you can post a legal document showing she had a hyphenated surname in 1952, I will hyphenate this memorial.

2) Why do I see my name per researcher Betty Cole on her page,I didn't give my permission?

Reply: I have removed what I thought were reasonalbe comments made by you from the memorial.

3) Are you a relative??

Reply: I have not determined all of my realtives in this area.

4) Why are you deleting my messages?

Reply: I work a grueling 50-60 hour week and then come home to several hundred corrections every week. I use my resources to try and document all corrections which may take a large amount of time. I do not have time for this type of trivial harrassment from other members, as I spend most of my non-work hours trying to do research for people who appreciate it.

Thanks for all you do !!

Added by 4losthistory on Mar 25, 2013 7:10 PM

Paula Lewis Picken
RE: Constance Wilson
I've transferred the maintaince of Constance Wilson's memorial to you.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year.

Paula Picken

Added by Paula Lewis Picken on Dec 22, 2012 3:55 PM

Charlet Roskovics
RE: Guinivere Cole
Dear Betty,

Absolutely--I will pass her along to you as soon as I take a picture of her headstone. The stone hasn't been set as of November 6--I checked after voting.

Just curious--where do you live?

I'm new at this game so am unsure how to transfer but will figure it out!

Charlet Roskovics

Added by Charlet Roskovics on Nov 10, 2012 3:04 PM

Yvonne P. Edwards
Cole Memorial
Betty, I posted the pictures of Randy Cole and Lois Cole tonight. I also took a close up of Mark Cole's side of the plaque - let me know if you create a memorial for him and I'll post it on there along with the same overview of both markers that I put on the first two.


Added by Yvonne P. Edwards on Sep 14, 2012 11:06 PM

Don Sugarman
About Betty Fuselier
Cemetery office reports no record of Betty Fuselier.
I found an obit ( that says she was buried in Pittsfield Cemetery. BTW, I worked with Gunner and Chris. Check Pittsfield Cemetery office,move memorial, and re-request photo.

Added by Don Sugarman on Sep 05, 2012 5:00 PM

Paula Lewis Picken
Constance Wilson
Betty - I've updated the record with your suggestions. As a relative, would you like to manage her page?


Added by Paula Lewis Picken on Jun 15, 2012 8:55 PM

Brent Fallin
Richard Nethery Memorial

I already had a grave photo for Richard Nethery/Neathery on my computer from a prior visit to Maplewood so I added it and send a message to the person who previously claimed it. Are you related to Richard by any chance? I have researched this individual in the past while working on a canvass of Maplewood for the Sons of Confederate Veterans. Richard served as a Private and later Corporal in Company K of the 14th Virginia Infantry Regiment and is one of the only VA Confederate soldiers buried in Maplewood. The present small footstone was placed by the United Daughters of the Confederacy in the 20s. I seem to remember from my canvass that his son is buried next to him and he has a family installed marker (small obelisk). Richard's marker is currently on our list to replace with a modern VA marker indicating his full name and military service. This is a long term project and we are still a ways off from ordering the new markers. We generally attempt to notify family of the deceased before replacing headstones even though the current headstones in place were not installed by the family. An example of the type of headstone we seek to install in the future can be seen here in the second picture:

Brent Fallin
Bennitt-Duke Camp #773 SCV

Added by Brent Fallin on Apr 19, 2012 11:20 PM

Janice Watrous
Silas Bailey
Betty, I added pictures today for Silas Bailey and for Etta Bailey whose stone was right next to his. Was that his wife?

Added by Janice Watrous on Sep 29, 2011 10:32 PM

Paula Lewis Picken
RE: Info.

I have no information on Harold Wilson. You can see that his name is on the headstone, but no dates. I did add some information on Constance Cole Wilson. When she died in 1996, Harold was still alive. They lived in East Lyme, CT.

Added by Paula Lewis Picken on Sep 29, 2011 6:16 PM

Edward Cole
RE: Relatives
I had a grand-uncle also named Edward who lived his adult life in Connecticut. He was the son of Tunis Peter Cole and Mary Hitchcock and was born near Gloversville, New York about 1880. My Gramps'

Added by Edward Cole on Sep 05, 2011 8:20 AM

Janice Watrous
Myers Graves
Betty, I took pictures of the Myers graves. Note that they are buried on the Williams Lot with Frded being to the left and Viola to the right of the Williams Family Stone. Viola's stone is more covered in lichen than Fred's, so her's did not take as good as a photo.

Added by Janice Watrous on Aug 14, 2011 4:02 PM

Cathy Clark
RE: Info.
Hello Betty,
Sorry for the delay in responding. I haven't been on this site in some time so didn't realize my email address was out of date.
I was not married to a Howard Clark so, unfortunately, I don't believe I can help you.
Have you tried I've reconnected with quite a few people through them.
Good luck in your search.

Added by Cathy Clark on Dec 15, 2009 6:34 PM

Patty Donohoe
RE: Hinckley
Yes. Mercy Hinckley married Joseph Cole. His father was Daniel Cole, whose son, Israel, is my 12th great grandfather. So the Hinckleys are collateral. All of these folks were early Cape Codders. The Coles who married into the Stephen Hopkins, of Mayflower fame (Stephen, Giles, Stephen, Elizabeth married Samuel Burgess whose daughter, Remember, married Israel Cole III)family are buried in the Old Cove Cemetery in Eastham, MA. Remember and Israel eventually pioneered to Virginia after the Indian trouble with King Phillip.
My great grandmother, Mary Cooper Williams, is descended from this Cole family (her father, Elijah Williams' grandfather[his father was James Williams] Richard Williams, married Keziah Cole whose mother is Remember Burgess Cole.)Keziah was brn in Ulster, NY on their way West. It gets really confusing here because Keziah married her cousin, Sampson Cole, from Swansea, MA. Both families pioneered together to Sugar Grove, Virginia and eventually Tennessee.

Added by Patty Donohoe on Sep 03, 2009 9:18 PM

Patty Donohoe
I forgot to mention that I too am related to the Hinckley family. Most of us on the Cape with ancestry here are!

Added by Patty Donohoe on Sep 02, 2009 9:13 PM

Patty Donohoe
RE: Barnabas Hinckley
Hi, Betty:
I don't know at this point. The website is asking me to reduce the size of the file. I tried that but it still bounced back. Is it ok for me to just send it to you in an email? I have 5 different views of the tombstone I could send.
This is my first attempt, so I could try again tomorrow and then go from there. I had the photos put onto a CD, so I'm going to try and add them directly form my camera instead since the ones from the CD didn't translate.

Added by Patty Donohoe on Sep 02, 2009 9:11 PM

Christine S
Wayne R Lopes
Hi Betty - with regards to your photo request for Wayne R Lopes, at the National Cemetary:
I live a half hr from the cemetery so when I fulfill the requests, I like to fill as many as possible while I'm there. I usually wait to get more than one photo at a time, as it is time consuming to only fulfill one at a time. on avrage, i may have anywhere from 5 - 25 photos at a time to get.. last night, after work, I had 14 requests to fulfill, one being your request. When I "claim" the photo, it is to let people know that I will be going to the cemetery SOON to fulfill their request, it doesnt always mean I will be getting the picture the same day it is "claimed". I apologize if it took longer than you expected.


Added by Christine S on Aug 18, 2009 6:52 AM

Kevin Murphy
RE: Hinckley Family
Wow, small world. I live near the East Sandwich border. I pass the L&L B&B often. I'll tip my hat next time. Where do you live?

Added by Kevin Murphy on Aug 05, 2009 3:05 PM

Kevin Murphy
RE: Hinckley Family
Wow, small world. I live near the East Sandwich border. I pass the L&L B&B often. I'll tip my hat next time. Where do you live?

Added by Kevin Murphy on Aug 05, 2009 3:04 PM

Kevin Murphy
RE: Hinckley Family
Hi Betty,
Originally from Rhode Island but have lived in New Jersey and Upstate (Buffalo) NY. Now in West Barnstable. The local cemetery( West Barnstable Cemetery) has many Hinckleys.
Have you done your family history?

Added by Kevin Murphy on Aug 05, 2009 5:34 AM

Kevin Murphy
Hinckley Family
No Betty, I do not know any personaly. I'm not from this area. The Hinckley family goes back to the very beginning settlements in Barnstable Co. (Cape Cod).

Added by Kevin Murphy on Aug 04, 2009 4:58 AM


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