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Patricia Ruth "Pat" Basham Asher
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Birth: Nov. 30, 1936
Oklahoma City
Oklahoma County
Oklahoma, USA
Death: Jul. 31, 2006
Maricopa County
Arizona, USA

My Mother. It has been nine years since cancer stole her from us and not a day goes by that she is not missed. Mom had three children; Patti Jo, Eddie Louis and me, Michelle Diane. She was born to a poor family and struggled with her siblings and her mother to survive, especially after her father left the family. She kept that spirit and raised the three of us mostly on her own. She never had much, but worked hard all of her life and raised us to be independent and strong. She fought cancer with grace and was more worried about her children and grandchildren since she was content with all that she had accomplished. She fought to live after surgery to remove a cancerous kidney, in January of 2006 we got the news that my nephew Chris, had died unexpectedly. That did it, grief and heartbreak filled her heart. A follow-up checkup found the cancer had spread to her liver, and nothing could be done.
I held her hand as she slipped away that morning with a smile on her face after she said..."I'm comin' Mama". I love you mama and someday I will get to meet you again, too.

She is also survived by many Grandchildren and Greatchildren. She was preceded in death by her mother Jewel, her sister Shirley and many other relatives. Earlier in 2006 she was present for the memorial service of her first born Grandson Christopher James Sandbo. She died knowing that she would see him and her mother soon, and that gave her peace.

I found out later that she was most concerned about how I would handle her death, since I was the baby, and refused to cry and upset her while she was dying. I took care of her in ways that she cared for me when I was a baby. I promised her if she could stay I would do it forever.....
To the end she was my best friend. 
Family links: 
  Jewel Lessie Cochran Shaver (1916 - 1995)
  Shirley Ann Basham Ingalls (1935 - 1996)*
  Patricia Ruth Basham Asher (1936 - 2006)
*Calculated relationship
City of Mesa Cemetery
Maricopa County
Arizona, USA
Plot: Section 1277, Lot 2, Grave 4
Maintained by: Michelle Downs Falabella
Originally Created by: Frank Elsberry
Record added: Nov 18, 2010
Find A Grave Memorial# 61807418
Patricia Ruth Pat <i>Basham</i> Asher
Added by: Michelle Downs Falabella
Patricia Ruth Pat <i>Basham</i> Asher
Added by: Michelle Downs Falabella
Patricia Ruth Pat <i>Basham</i> Asher
Added by: Michelle Downs Falabella
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I miss you Mom, Happy Birthday in Heaven.
- Michelle Downs Falabella
 Added: Nov. 30, 2014
Although time has taken the edge off of my grief, I won't be whole until I see you again. I love you, and miss you so much. <3
- Michelle Downs Falabella
 Added: Jul. 28, 2014

- Michelle Downs Falabella
 Added: Jul. 12, 2014
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