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Tommy Lou Adams Abner
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Birth: Dec. 12, 1924
Wagoner County
Oklahoma, USA
Death: Dec. 3, 2011
Muskogee County
Oklahoma, USA

11:00 AM
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
First United Methodist Church
Wagoner, Oklahoma
Elmwood Cemetery
Wagoner, Oklahoma
Tommy Lou Abner, 86, went to her heavenly home on December 3, 2011, while at Muskogee Regional Hospital.

Tommy was born to Ralph E. and Lillian E. Shinn-Adams in the family home at 716 Church Street, Wagoner, OK, on December 12, 1924. Mrs. Abner was a 1942 honors graduate of Wagoner High School, who attended Oklahoma A & M College (OSU) where she majored in music. After one year at OSU, Tommy Lou applied for a provisionary teaching certificate and returned to Wagoner where she took control of the school's band program.Tommy Lou met J. Ralph Abner, when he came to Wagoner to set up the Federated Store in 1946; they were married on January 12, 1947. Shortly thereafter, the couple moved to Lebanon, Kentucky, where Ralph opened Abner's Shoes. The Abners were blessed with daughter, Libby Lou, on July 10, 1952, and son, John Ralph, Jr. (Johnny), on May 21, 1956. Throughout this time, Tommy Lou continued to pursue her education at Nazareth College and was the organist at the Presbyterian Church. After she received her teaching certificate, she taught music at various schools in the Lebanon area including vocal music at Lebanon High School.After her husband's death in 1965, Tommy Lou and her children relocated to her hometown of Wagoner where she taught vocal music for a year at West Jr. High in Muskogee before getting a chance to teach band again at her alma mater. When given the opportunity to teach vocal music in Wagoner, Tommy accepted the challenge and consistently produced award-winning choral groups until her retirement in 1985. She was also active with music and drama groups in the area, notably the Wagoner Little Theater. Ms. Abner was very active in the Methodist Church as choir director and accompanied the group on piano and organ.

Tommy Lou is preceded in death by her parents, husband, John Ralph Abner, sister, Lt. Mary E. Goodpasture, aunt, Lullian Lyles, grandson, Paul D. Lamberson, and brother-in-law, John Freeman.


Services will be conducted by Hersman-Nichols Funeral Home, Wagoner. The funeral is scheduled for Wednesday, December 7th, 11:00 a.m., at the First United Methodist Church of Wagoner, Reverends Shannon Davis and John Stuckey presiding. Interment will be at Elmwood Cemetery in Wagoner. 
Family links: 
  Ralph E. Adams (1899 - 1991)
  Lillian E. Shinn Adams (1899 - 1981)
  John Ralph Abner (1917 - 1966)
  Mary Elizabeth Adams Goodpasture (1919 - 1964)*
  Tommy Lou Adams Abner (1924 - 2011)
*Calculated relationship
Elmwood Cemetery
Wagoner County
Oklahoma, USA
Created by: OkieBran
Record added: Dec 03, 2011
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Tommy Lou <i>Adams</i> Abner
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