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Gen Wilber Elliott Wilder
Birth: Aug. 16, 1857
Genesee County
Michigan, USA
Death: Jan. 30, 1952
Governors Island
New York County (Manhattan)
New York, USA

A Congressional Medal of Honor Recipient. Then-Lieutenant Wilder was cited for rescuing a wounded comrade under heavy fire during the 1882 Battle of Horseshoe Canyon. The young officer's courage was to prove as habitual as it was extraordinary. Four years later in 1886 he rode alone into the Apache camp to negotiate Geronimo's surrender. A career soldier and a graduate of the US Military Academy at West Point, he was appointed Adjutant of his alma mater in 1895. He returned to the battlefield during the Spanish-American War, however, and in 1916 joined Pershing's expedition to Mexico to subdue the bandit Pancho Villa. Later, when the US entered WWI he served as a brigadier general in France. Born in Atlas, MI, he married Violet Blair Martin of the prominent Throop-Martin family of "Willowbrook", near Auburn, NY. Widowed in 1919, Wilder retired from the army in 1927 and resided at "The Elms", in Ridgefield, CT, until his death in 1952. The long-lived general's survivors included a son, Wilber, and a daughter, Violet. (bio by: Nikita Barlow) 
Family links: 
  Eliott Swift Wilder (1806 - 1862)
  Sylvia Gilkey Wilder (1814 - 1880)
  Violet Blair Martin Wilder (1860 - 1919)*
  Rose Dimond Phinney Wilder (1857 - 1923)*
  Laura Williams Wilder (1871 - 1951)*
  Throop Martin Wilder (1884 - 1956)*
  Wilbur Elliott Wilder (1888 - 1961)*
  Cornelia Martin Wilder (1890 - 1962)*
  Violet Blair Wilder (1893 - 1986)*
  Hamilton S. Wilder (1838 - 1864)*
  Hamilton S. Wilder (1838 - 1864)*
  Sarah H Wilder (1846 - 1901)*
  Wilber Elliott Wilder (1857 - 1952)
*Calculated relationship
Fairlawn Cemetery
Fairfield County
Connecticut, USA
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Originally Created by: Nikita Barlow
Record added: Feb 07, 2002
Find A Grave Memorial# 6160852
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Thank you, sir, for your dedication and service to our great country. You will never be forgotten. Rest in sweet peace, dear Wilber.
- susan emery
 Added: Jan. 31, 2017

- sjm
 Added: Jan. 30, 2017
General Wilber Elliott Wilder
- Jonathan Robert De Mallie, Historian
 Added: Aug. 29, 2016
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