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Mary Mercer Thompson Ord
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Birth: 1834
Culpeper County
Virginia, USA
Death: Jun. 15, 1894
San Antonio
Bexar County
Texas, USA

She was the daughter of Judge Robert Augustine Thompson, member of Congress from Virginia and judge in the courts of California and Mary Ann Smith Slaughter, a daughter of Captain Philip Slaughter and a granddaughter of James Slaughter. James' father, Robert Slaughter was one of two brothers who were the first wardens of the famous St. Mark's Parish in Virginia. Colonel James Slaughter commanded a regiment at the first engagement of the Revolutionary war in Virginia.

San Antonio Light Sunday, February 6, 1955
Tombstone in S.A. Recalls a Historic Tiff
By David Nevin
Mrs. E.O.C. Ord who brushed bitterly against one of history's greats is buried in a quiet corner of San Antonio's National Cemetery. She was a gentlewoman by all accounts, lovely, gracious and a crack horsewoman.

Proof of her gentility might be that she held her composure until the very end of one of the most brutal tongue lashings on record delivered by the wife of President Abraham Lincoln.

The Incident
It was during this time the incident the Ords never talked about, yet certainly never forgot took place. Ord's XVIII Corps was drawn up for a Presidential review. Lincoln arrived early and started the review with General Ord.

Carl Sandburg in his book, Abraham Lincoln The War Years, Vol. VI engagingly describes what happened next. Mrs. Lincoln and Mrs. Grant approached the review site in a jouncing, horse drawn ambulance. The first thing Mrs. Lincoln saw upon arriving was Mrs. Ord riding side saddle in the review. She happened to be riding quite close to the President.

Mrs. Lincoln immediately cried out in outrage: What does the woman mean riding by the side of the President and ahead of me? Does she suppose he wants her by the side of him?

Sandburg notes: She went into a frenzy that mingled extravagant rage and drab petulance.

Meanwhile Mrs. Ord seeing the ambulance arrive, rode over to join the ladies and found herself in the midst of an extraordinary tongue lashing. An observer notes: All that I could do was see that nothing worse occurred.

Major's Joke
Sandburg relates: A nephew of Secretary Seward, a young Major and a member of Ord's staff, a joker, rode alongside and blurted out with a rich grin: The President's horse is very gallant, Mrs. Lincoln. He insists on riding by the side of Mrs. Ord.

Mrs. Lincoln snapped, What do you mean by that? and young Major Seward at once had horse difficulties and shied away in a crazy gallop.

When the review had ended and the troops were moving toward the enemy picket lines and death and wounds Mrs. Lincoln hurled vile names at Mrs. Ord and asked what she meant by following the President.

Enough of this sent Mrs. Ord into tears. Mrs. Lincoln stormed until she had spent her strength.

Mum's the Word
Another observer said everyone was shocked and horrified. No doubt that included Mrs. Ord. Yet she never talked of it and today her descendants consider it an ambiguous part of family history.

Military life continued for the Ords after Lincoln's tragic murder. Mrs. Ord lived on in San Antonio 11 years. She died June 15, 1894 and was buried at the National Cemetery. 
Family links: 
  Robert Augustine Thompson (1805 - 1876)
  Edward Otho Cresap Ord (1818 - 1883)
  Mary Elizabeth Ord Preston (1851 - 1915)*
  Roberta Augusta Ord Trevino (1856 - 1884)*
  Edward Otho Cresap Ord (1858 - 1923)*
  Lucy Maud Ord Mason (1860 - 1953)*
  James Thompson Ord (1863 - 1905)*
  Mary Ord Hillcoat (1865 - 1899)*
  Jules Garesche Ord (1866 - 1898)*
  Albert E. Ord (1871 - 1872)*
  Sarah Elizabeth Thompson Huie (1827 - 1905)*
  Mary Mercer Thompson Ord (1834 - 1894)
  Reginald Heber Thompson (1836 - 1899)*
  Thomas Larkin Thompson (1838 - 1898)*
*Calculated relationship
Note: Wife of Edward Otho Ord
San Antonio National Cemetery
San Antonio
Bexar County
Texas, USA
Plot: A, 20.
Created by: SLGMSD
Record added: Sep 04, 2009
Find A Grave Memorial# 41560484
Mary Mercer <i>Thompson</i> Ord
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Mary Mercer <i>Thompson</i> Ord
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