Son of HELMUTH NAUMER & TOMEE REUTER
Relationships Research Institute (RRI), co-founder w/wife Christina Naumer
Course workshops: "The Mind of Love" and "Beyond the Game"
Michael Naumer, with his wife Christina, created "The Mind of Love" which later morphed into "Beyond the Game." Incorporating concepts from Gurdjieff, Oscar Ichazo, along with Werner Erhard and a number of other consciousness teachers, they created a transformational body of work where the objective was one of self-recognition. The main course, along with the graduate work, delved into the principles below, and then some—teachings about choice, reality, logic, and transformation. The course was about self-recognition, where Michael deemed, "the purpose of relationship was not to make oneself happy, but was a useful vehicle for seeing oneself." Beyond the Game was a higher game: chess, not checkers. It was a game not to be missed.
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40 Principles, Tools, and Aphorisms from Michael Naumer:
• Consciousness is that which recognizes itself.
• Everything changes. Everything happens in cycles. Everything contributes.
• Everything contains within itself the seed of its apparent opposite.
• There are no accidents.
• Things are not happening to me, they are happening for me.
• Do I want to be right, or do I want to be effective?
• Am I available for what I say I want?
• What is my part?
• Expand to include and have it contribute.
• There is no meaning in reality. Truth does not mean anything, it's just what's so.
• No good deed goes unpunished.
• The mind is a dangerous neighborhood, don't go in there alone.
• Our baggage is the material we need to transform. We need our stuff, we just want to become objective about it so we can deal with it.
• If you are going to be there, be there. If not, go someplace else.
• Whatever you hold as "this shouldn't be," you energize its continued existence.
• What you can't choose, you have to hold as burden.
• Where you are the most wounded, you are the most accomplished.
• When you get your limits, you get your maturity.
• When you diminish another person, you lose their ability to contribute to you.
• As long as you have to live inside the tribe you cannot be a leader.
• As consciousness rises, significance drops away.
• The universe is not oppositional, only our minds are.
• We get addicted to the struggle.
• It is all, all working.
• It's better to ride the horse in the direction it is going.
• It's not about me. It may have something to do with me, but it's not about me, or my value. Nor is it about you, or your value.
• Do not assign emotional responsibility to another. They don't cause it, they only occasion it.
• Gathering evidence: the way in which we organize our resistance.
• Get the debt out of relationship.
• Relationship will not fill my gap (and that solution then becomes the problem).
• There is a difference between taking a stand and being a stand.
• Position creates opposition; when I take a position, I have to defend it.
• When you have an agenda, all that's left is manipulation.
• Context determines content.
• Attachment produces dependence, dependence produces complaint. You can't get to satisfaction from complaint.
• Complaint is an abdication of responsibility.
• Expectation shuts it down.
• Love is the recognition of the equal in the other.
• People are miraculous surprises.
• Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes the bear eats you.
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Scanning for Gratitude
It all started with the white showing through
on the hole in your pocket.
Of course it started before then,
but the hole is when things
really began for me.
I watched the white go back and forth
in front of me
as you did the room,
talking, sharing, inspiring-
calling us forth.
I sat in the front row all
wide open
and watched the white;
pondering how it could be possible
that the white showed through.
I imagined sewing the pocket.
I imagined all the willing ways
of getting that hole sewn.
I dropped down lower
and sank inside the
experience of a white rip
on black pants.
Then it all began.
I got it.
It didn't matter.
None of it mattered.
White, black,
white on black…
Holes, wholeness…
There you stood
in your
hol-e-ness
living the practice
of it not mattering.
It was then that it truly
began
for me.
I relaxed,
opened:
I paid attention.
Never have I been
so grateful
for a
hole
in a pocket.
For Michael Naumer,
With immense gratitude & love,
Katrina Mayo-Smith, August 2000
_____________
"You know... like that." Michael Naumer
_____________
Relationships Research Institute (RRI), co-founder w/wife Christina Naumer
Course workshops: "The Mind of Love" and "Beyond the Game"
Michael Naumer, with his wife Christina, created "The Mind of Love" which later morphed into "Beyond the Game." Incorporating concepts from Gurdjieff, Oscar Ichazo, along with Werner Erhard and a number of other consciousness teachers, they created a transformational body of work where the objective was one of self-recognition. The main course, along with the graduate work, delved into the principles below, and then some—teachings about choice, reality, logic, and transformation. The course was about self-recognition, where Michael deemed, "the purpose of relationship was not to make oneself happy, but was a useful vehicle for seeing oneself." Beyond the Game was a higher game: chess, not checkers. It was a game not to be missed.
_____________
40 Principles, Tools, and Aphorisms from Michael Naumer:
• Consciousness is that which recognizes itself.
• Everything changes. Everything happens in cycles. Everything contributes.
• Everything contains within itself the seed of its apparent opposite.
• There are no accidents.
• Things are not happening to me, they are happening for me.
• Do I want to be right, or do I want to be effective?
• Am I available for what I say I want?
• What is my part?
• Expand to include and have it contribute.
• There is no meaning in reality. Truth does not mean anything, it's just what's so.
• No good deed goes unpunished.
• The mind is a dangerous neighborhood, don't go in there alone.
• Our baggage is the material we need to transform. We need our stuff, we just want to become objective about it so we can deal with it.
• If you are going to be there, be there. If not, go someplace else.
• Whatever you hold as "this shouldn't be," you energize its continued existence.
• What you can't choose, you have to hold as burden.
• Where you are the most wounded, you are the most accomplished.
• When you get your limits, you get your maturity.
• When you diminish another person, you lose their ability to contribute to you.
• As long as you have to live inside the tribe you cannot be a leader.
• As consciousness rises, significance drops away.
• The universe is not oppositional, only our minds are.
• We get addicted to the struggle.
• It is all, all working.
• It's better to ride the horse in the direction it is going.
• It's not about me. It may have something to do with me, but it's not about me, or my value. Nor is it about you, or your value.
• Do not assign emotional responsibility to another. They don't cause it, they only occasion it.
• Gathering evidence: the way in which we organize our resistance.
• Get the debt out of relationship.
• Relationship will not fill my gap (and that solution then becomes the problem).
• There is a difference between taking a stand and being a stand.
• Position creates opposition; when I take a position, I have to defend it.
• When you have an agenda, all that's left is manipulation.
• Context determines content.
• Attachment produces dependence, dependence produces complaint. You can't get to satisfaction from complaint.
• Complaint is an abdication of responsibility.
• Expectation shuts it down.
• Love is the recognition of the equal in the other.
• People are miraculous surprises.
• Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes the bear eats you.
_____________
Scanning for Gratitude
It all started with the white showing through
on the hole in your pocket.
Of course it started before then,
but the hole is when things
really began for me.
I watched the white go back and forth
in front of me
as you did the room,
talking, sharing, inspiring-
calling us forth.
I sat in the front row all
wide open
and watched the white;
pondering how it could be possible
that the white showed through.
I imagined sewing the pocket.
I imagined all the willing ways
of getting that hole sewn.
I dropped down lower
and sank inside the
experience of a white rip
on black pants.
Then it all began.
I got it.
It didn't matter.
None of it mattered.
White, black,
white on black…
Holes, wholeness…
There you stood
in your
hol-e-ness
living the practice
of it not mattering.
It was then that it truly
began
for me.
I relaxed,
opened:
I paid attention.
Never have I been
so grateful
for a
hole
in a pocket.
For Michael Naumer,
With immense gratitude & love,
Katrina Mayo-Smith, August 2000
_____________
"You know... like that." Michael Naumer
_____________
Son of HELMUTH NAUMER & TOMEE REUTER
Relationships Research Institute (RRI), co-founder w/wife Christina Naumer
Course workshops: "The Mind of Love" and "Beyond the Game"
Michael Naumer, with his wife Christina, created "The Mind of Love" which later morphed into "Beyond the Game." Incorporating concepts from Gurdjieff, Oscar Ichazo, along with Werner Erhard and a number of other consciousness teachers, they created a transformational body of work where the objective was one of self-recognition. The main course, along with the graduate work, delved into the principles below, and then some—teachings about choice, reality, logic, and transformation. The course was about self-recognition, where Michael deemed, "the purpose of relationship was not to make oneself happy, but was a useful vehicle for seeing oneself." Beyond the Game was a higher game: chess, not checkers. It was a game not to be missed.
_____________
40 Principles, Tools, and Aphorisms from Michael Naumer:
• Consciousness is that which recognizes itself.
• Everything changes. Everything happens in cycles. Everything contributes.
• Everything contains within itself the seed of its apparent opposite.
• There are no accidents.
• Things are not happening to me, they are happening for me.
• Do I want to be right, or do I want to be effective?
• Am I available for what I say I want?
• What is my part?
• Expand to include and have it contribute.
• There is no meaning in reality. Truth does not mean anything, it's just what's so.
• No good deed goes unpunished.
• The mind is a dangerous neighborhood, don't go in there alone.
• Our baggage is the material we need to transform. We need our stuff, we just want to become objective about it so we can deal with it.
• If you are going to be there, be there. If not, go someplace else.
• Whatever you hold as "this shouldn't be," you energize its continued existence.
• What you can't choose, you have to hold as burden.
• Where you are the most wounded, you are the most accomplished.
• When you get your limits, you get your maturity.
• When you diminish another person, you lose their ability to contribute to you.
• As long as you have to live inside the tribe you cannot be a leader.
• As consciousness rises, significance drops away.
• The universe is not oppositional, only our minds are.
• We get addicted to the struggle.
• It is all, all working.
• It's better to ride the horse in the direction it is going.
• It's not about me. It may have something to do with me, but it's not about me, or my value. Nor is it about you, or your value.
• Do not assign emotional responsibility to another. They don't cause it, they only occasion it.
• Gathering evidence: the way in which we organize our resistance.
• Get the debt out of relationship.
• Relationship will not fill my gap (and that solution then becomes the problem).
• There is a difference between taking a stand and being a stand.
• Position creates opposition; when I take a position, I have to defend it.
• When you have an agenda, all that's left is manipulation.
• Context determines content.
• Attachment produces dependence, dependence produces complaint. You can't get to satisfaction from complaint.
• Complaint is an abdication of responsibility.
• Expectation shuts it down.
• Love is the recognition of the equal in the other.
• People are miraculous surprises.
• Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes the bear eats you.
_____________
Scanning for Gratitude
It all started with the white showing through
on the hole in your pocket.
Of course it started before then,
but the hole is when things
really began for me.
I watched the white go back and forth
in front of me
as you did the room,
talking, sharing, inspiring-
calling us forth.
I sat in the front row all
wide open
and watched the white;
pondering how it could be possible
that the white showed through.
I imagined sewing the pocket.
I imagined all the willing ways
of getting that hole sewn.
I dropped down lower
and sank inside the
experience of a white rip
on black pants.
Then it all began.
I got it.
It didn't matter.
None of it mattered.
White, black,
white on black…
Holes, wholeness…
There you stood
in your
hol-e-ness
living the practice
of it not mattering.
It was then that it truly
began
for me.
I relaxed,
opened:
I paid attention.
Never have I been
so grateful
for a
hole
in a pocket.
For Michael Naumer,
With immense gratitude & love,
Katrina Mayo-Smith, August 2000
_____________
"You know... like that." Michael Naumer
_____________
Relationships Research Institute (RRI), co-founder w/wife Christina Naumer
Course workshops: "The Mind of Love" and "Beyond the Game"
Michael Naumer, with his wife Christina, created "The Mind of Love" which later morphed into "Beyond the Game." Incorporating concepts from Gurdjieff, Oscar Ichazo, along with Werner Erhard and a number of other consciousness teachers, they created a transformational body of work where the objective was one of self-recognition. The main course, along with the graduate work, delved into the principles below, and then some—teachings about choice, reality, logic, and transformation. The course was about self-recognition, where Michael deemed, "the purpose of relationship was not to make oneself happy, but was a useful vehicle for seeing oneself." Beyond the Game was a higher game: chess, not checkers. It was a game not to be missed.
_____________
40 Principles, Tools, and Aphorisms from Michael Naumer:
• Consciousness is that which recognizes itself.
• Everything changes. Everything happens in cycles. Everything contributes.
• Everything contains within itself the seed of its apparent opposite.
• There are no accidents.
• Things are not happening to me, they are happening for me.
• Do I want to be right, or do I want to be effective?
• Am I available for what I say I want?
• What is my part?
• Expand to include and have it contribute.
• There is no meaning in reality. Truth does not mean anything, it's just what's so.
• No good deed goes unpunished.
• The mind is a dangerous neighborhood, don't go in there alone.
• Our baggage is the material we need to transform. We need our stuff, we just want to become objective about it so we can deal with it.
• If you are going to be there, be there. If not, go someplace else.
• Whatever you hold as "this shouldn't be," you energize its continued existence.
• What you can't choose, you have to hold as burden.
• Where you are the most wounded, you are the most accomplished.
• When you get your limits, you get your maturity.
• When you diminish another person, you lose their ability to contribute to you.
• As long as you have to live inside the tribe you cannot be a leader.
• As consciousness rises, significance drops away.
• The universe is not oppositional, only our minds are.
• We get addicted to the struggle.
• It is all, all working.
• It's better to ride the horse in the direction it is going.
• It's not about me. It may have something to do with me, but it's not about me, or my value. Nor is it about you, or your value.
• Do not assign emotional responsibility to another. They don't cause it, they only occasion it.
• Gathering evidence: the way in which we organize our resistance.
• Get the debt out of relationship.
• Relationship will not fill my gap (and that solution then becomes the problem).
• There is a difference between taking a stand and being a stand.
• Position creates opposition; when I take a position, I have to defend it.
• When you have an agenda, all that's left is manipulation.
• Context determines content.
• Attachment produces dependence, dependence produces complaint. You can't get to satisfaction from complaint.
• Complaint is an abdication of responsibility.
• Expectation shuts it down.
• Love is the recognition of the equal in the other.
• People are miraculous surprises.
• Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes the bear eats you.
_____________
Scanning for Gratitude
It all started with the white showing through
on the hole in your pocket.
Of course it started before then,
but the hole is when things
really began for me.
I watched the white go back and forth
in front of me
as you did the room,
talking, sharing, inspiring-
calling us forth.
I sat in the front row all
wide open
and watched the white;
pondering how it could be possible
that the white showed through.
I imagined sewing the pocket.
I imagined all the willing ways
of getting that hole sewn.
I dropped down lower
and sank inside the
experience of a white rip
on black pants.
Then it all began.
I got it.
It didn't matter.
None of it mattered.
White, black,
white on black…
Holes, wholeness…
There you stood
in your
hol-e-ness
living the practice
of it not mattering.
It was then that it truly
began
for me.
I relaxed,
opened:
I paid attention.
Never have I been
so grateful
for a
hole
in a pocket.
For Michael Naumer,
With immense gratitude & love,
Katrina Mayo-Smith, August 2000
_____________
"You know... like that." Michael Naumer
_____________
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