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Patsy1945 (#48212232)
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Bio Photo I was born and raised in Los Angeles, moving to a very small town of 1,100 in southern Oregon in 2001. Spent most of my working career for a large nationwide company, in a management capacity, with all the pressures that came with it.

My grandparents and aunts were of the old school of family historians, long before the internet made it so easy. "Grave Walking", as we called it, was a big part of their research. I spent many a summer or week-end walking old cemeteries with an aunt or grandparent. Each headstone or monument told stories that collectively had a story of lives over decades of time. I was amazed at the stories contained within these old cemeteries. Famine, disease and war taking the lives of so many of the same family, stories told ONLY on the amazing grave markers.

Now retired, I am able to spend my time fulfilling the wishes of my great aunts, great grandparents by continuing their research and making sure our children and theirs know our "stories".

My daughter and I are gathering "memories" of those who have passed and are contained within many boxes passed down to us (photo's, obituaries, bibles, birth and marriage records, newspaper articles and such, containing names of relatives and friends). Each piece of paper has information that could prove valuable to a family member mentioned, not necessarily our own. If it is an obit we make every attempt to pass it to the person maintaining the memorial at FAG, if there is no memorial we will do our research and create one in hopes of uniting a family member who will maintain the memorial. I am no longer able to "Grave Walk" through an old cemetery but am fortunate to be able to let my fingers do most of the walking for me, especially with the help of the internet.

All of us family researchers have the same goal. It would be selfish not to record our families history in some way, either through our own research or that of others creating a memorial at FAG. "From a purely practical standpoint, if you don't pass on your life experience by leaving a legacy, the wisdom you've gained through decades of difficult learning will disappear as your physical body wears out. (unknown author)"
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Donna Ruhland Bonning
RE: Mary Lansing
Thankyou for the link Patsy. I'll make sure to add it to my favorites, just in case anyone asks.

I often think about the adults who are developmentaly disabled who aren't able to take care of themselves when a caretaker passes away. I know now that they have group homes for people to live at.....where at one time they would have been institutionalized. If i had a child who was born with say......down syndrome....i think this would always weigh heavily on my mind.

I'm so blessed that i was born now than 100 years ago. I have epilepsy and at one time it was so misunderstood. Still is i think by many. My seizures are totally under control so i don't worry about them so much but at one time they were a real problem. When i went to photograph Craig Colony Cemetery i felt a deep connection with the people that are laid to rest in that cemetery. How very sad that so many were lost and forgotten in the system. I hope that one day this will change and it will be much easier for them to be "reunited" with loved one's that are looking for them......

Thankyou for contacting me. I wish you success in finding out more about Mary....

Take care...

Added by Donna Ruhland Bonning on Feb 18, 2015 12:40 PM
Donna Ruhland Bonning
Mary Lansing
Hi Patsy...

I'm very glad that you contacted me to let me know that (hopefuly) you have found YOUR Mary Lansing. This would be wonderful! I can tell you that she is buried at the front of the cemetery where the newest stones are because her's is flat. I'm not exactly sure of the precise timeframe of the burials but prob. 60's and 70's. After that time the institution closed. As far as finding out more about Mary, New York State has locked up the records so they can't be obtained. No dates. No death records. No details. NYState won't release anything to family. I've found a link that you can read more about this and the Bill that is trying to be passed where this law could be changed.....Seems like they are dragging thier feet. At the bottom of the page there are some posts from people who are having problems obtaining info about thier family members. It's very sad and so frustrating. I wish i could help you more. I'm so glad that there are at least names on these stones. So many institutions buried thier patients in graves marked with nothing but #'s and even unmarked graves which is horrifying to me! To be thought of so little as to not even be given your name in death. This disgusts me beyond belief!!! The oldest cemetery at Craig Colony is found deep in a wooded area with little metal markers with numbers on them.

Here is the address for the site i was telling you about....You will understand what i'm talking about.....

I hope this is your Mary. If you feel almost certain that it is then i will fill in the info you have sent. I wish you good luck in finding out more about her.....

Take care,

Added by Donna Ruhland Bonning on Feb 17, 2015 5:31 PM
Mary J Griswold
RE: Photo Request for Claude A Lansing #901752
Very strange, in deed.
Added by Mary J Griswold on Feb 16, 2015 5:32 PM
Mary J Griswold
RE: Photo Request for Claude A Lansing #901752
I think the simple answer to your question would be yes. I was concerned because I couldn't find him at all in the VA Grave Locator nor was he listed in Eagle Point's grave locator. Wish I could be of more help.
Added by Mary J Griswold on Feb 16, 2015 5:17 PM
Sharon Matye
Happy to transfer this to you. I take photo's for the Bakerfield Va Cemetery, so if there is a missing memorial, I add them.
Added by Oakblossom on Feb 14, 2015 10:00 AM
Lindy/Olga Wise
Barbara Broad Wise Patrick
Yes, same person...are you still looking up family members? Good to be in touch with you again.
Added by Lindy/Olga Wise on Feb 11, 2015 5:29 PM
Lindy/Olga Wise
Barbara Broad
I am her dau/law and was with her in Des Moines when she made arrangements to be cremated and buried beside her parents
Added by Lindy/Olga Wise on Feb 11, 2015 4:36 PM
Joan Shoffner
John McClure
are all the McClurein wrighe cemetery yiur family
let me know. Joan
Added by Joan Shoffner on Feb 08, 2015 1:38 PM
Joan Shoffner
John McClure
I tranfer john to you
Glad to help you.
Added by Joan Shoffner on Feb 08, 2015 1:33 PM
Luella Miller
RE: Pleasant Hill Cemetery
Grant, Greene County, would Grant township.If you need Photo's taken of family headstones let me know.

Added by Luella Miller on Feb 07, 2015 7:40 PM
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