|Susie Mc S (#47880357)|
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|I've always enjoyed wandering cemeteries, reading the headstones and enjoying the peacefulness surrounding me.|
I am a wife and a mother to 3 adult children, and "Namma" to 3 beautiful, brilliant and rambunctious grandchildren.
I enjoy traveling, boating, reading my Kindle, writing, photography, gardening and genealogy.
I am honored to volunteer for Find A Grave.
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|Kim S.||RE: Donald Mayo|
Good question: only one. It was my own family member and I wrote a full, beautiful bio and posted the gorgeous picture of her that her husband and kids chose for the funeral brochure. I asked the husband first and he said "yes." But later he told me he'd thought more about it and decided he didn't want any family information posted online, so please don't do it. Well, I'd already worked many hours on it and posted it. But of course I deleted the memorial. I later realized that some stranger would put one up and we'd have no control over the amount of info, so I put one up for her again, but with only name and date, not even a stone photo, though some stranger might yet post that. But the opposition was about the info, not the stone picture. The deceased was always unusually frightened of looking into her genealogy at all because her grandparents had escaped Russian pogroms and she was afraid if she started asking questions about her ancestry the Russians would come after her. And her husband worked at a prison, so there was added fear there. It was very sad.
But no, other than that, I have never had anything less than gratitude for posting memorials or pictures. But I know some people have gotten very angry when people build a memorial so immediately that a family member doesn't get a chance to do it first. I always wait a little while - one reason I generally work off existing grave stones. Those families have had plenty of time. And the info I add is from public sources that anyone can access: The California Death Index, newspapers, etc.
Sadly, some people see this as a competition to get the most numbers, a race to the death notices, like it's a treasure hunt and not the sorrowful deaths of people's loved ones. These people will often not transfer memorials to close friends or any family member who does not meet the F.a.G. guidelines for mandatory transfers. They'd rather keep their own numbers up than have a memorial managed by someone who knew and cared about the deceased. It's very sad. Life is too short for that kind of pettiness! I suppose we all blindly have our own bee somewhere in our bonnets. :)
And thank you for the kind words.
Added by Kim S. on Mar 03, 2013 11:36 PM
|Kim S.||RE: Donald Mayo|
Hi Susie, what a sweet message. If you read my bio, you'll see I buried my own husband just a few months after I started volunteering with F.a.G. and it was very sudden - no illness, he just collapsed at work and never regained consciousness. It was only a few months later that I accepted my first photo request at the national cemetery. I'd never been there, even though I live close by. I was so moved and stunned and grieved, but also so moved and stunned and HONORED to even be there, honored by the sheer number of men and women who have served, unselfishly. My own dad and all of his brothers were WWII volunteers, and my dad was a "lifer" in the AF. My husband was a volunteer into the Army to fly helicopters in VN. My f-in-law was in WWII in the Marines, Pacific Theater, like my dad. My one br-in-law was in the AF in Thailand, and the other served in VN in the Navy as a hard-hat diver, then finished college and became career Army. It's in our heritage and blood, and I feel it when I'm there - the General and the Seaman first class, all the same stone, all in formation. It's such an honor to volunteer there. I sometimes get to speak to the widows or children. I always work hard on the photos to get really good resolution and leveling and cropping etc, just to honor them. I am blessed to work at this! I'm glad you feel that there, too. It's really something to stand back and just look at the field of white stones, all standing at attention over the remains of the vets.
Blessings to you,
Added by Kim S. on Feb 28, 2013 7:30 PM
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