|M. Young (#47776170)|
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I have loads of gravestone pics, e-mail me at email@example.com if you are in need of any.|
Here is the list of families I have done:
*This is a warning* I consider my work propriatary. So anyone wishing to have material of mine, ask first before taking. I would do the same for each and everyone of you all.
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|Kathi Flyte||Robert Westbrook|
I can't find an obit for Robert so I can't confirm parents for you.
|Barbara Ludwick||RE: Hi there|
Sorry, for taking so long in answering your question. Malinda Frances (Weeden) Stringham is my 2nd Great Grandmother.
I really don't have much about her ancestors though. I just found out last year that this James Weeden just might be her father and I've been researching my family for quite a few years now. Most people that would have known are now gone.
How are you related?
|Nancy||RE: Sarah Kelley - YOUR Duplicate Memorial|
Thank you for removing the duplicate memorial. My offer to transfer the original memorial to you remains open. All you need to do is ask.
Also, I have contacted (several times) the person who posted the wrong photo to Sarah "Sally" Cook Kelley's memorial to request that the photo be removed from Sarah Kelley's memorial and transferred to the proper memorial.
Since we are all volunteers, these corrections sometimes take some time. Not everyone responds as promptly as we might like.
Your recent action and respect for everyone's efforts to "get it right" at Find A Grave is appreciated.
Added by Nancy on Jan 10, 2015 5:33 PM
|Nancy||RE: Sarah Kelley - YOUR Duplicate Memorial|
I do not doubt your reasons for wanting to update and improve the memorial for Sarah Cook Kelley. I too have faced the same situation with ancestors dating back to the 1600s. When I have asked for a transfer, it has almost always been granted (sometimes even when I did not ask!).
Your purposeful action in creating the duplicate IS AN AFFRONT TO EVERY MEMBER OF FIND A GRAVE. It did not cause me, personally, any pain - I have no desire to "own" any memorial. As I said before, had you ASKED FIRST, your request would almost certainly have been granted.
Quote from your public page (emphasis added):
"*This is a warning* I consider my work propriatary. So anyone wishing to have material of mine, ASK FIRST BEFORE taking. I would do the same for each and everyone of you all."
In this case, you did not live up to your own words!
You are probably not aware of the years of effort required just to locate this cemetery (nearly a decade), not to mention the time spent in creating a memorial for every burial there. And how about the time and effort of the photographers, who took their own time to physically visit this cemetery so you and other relatives could find your ancestors? Would you have "bothered your bones" for such an effort?
Your flagrant disregard of the Find A Grave guidelines, and lack of respect for others' work, even after the issue was brought to your attention, has now become a matter of principle that affects EVERYONE who contributes their personal time and effort for the benefit of everyone.
Thank you for your apology - it's a nice gesture. It does not, however, excuse your inappropriate actions.
A simple request for updates and/or a transfer would have been appreciated. It almost certainly would have granted.
What if everyone behaved as you did - creating a new memorial just because they didn't care for the one that was there, with no regard for the individual who found the cemetery and created the memorial? Find A Grave would soon become a cluttered, useless mess!
What if every direct descendant of Sarah Cook Kelley created their "own" memorial because they "didn't like" the one YOU (a mere nephew) created? Wouldn't you feel a little disconcerted at seeing 6-10 duplicates of what you believe is the "accurate" representation of her life, not to mention the negation of the efforts you put into researching and creating the memorial?
Your disrespect affects every person who participates in this website. The administrators of Find A Grave have been notified of this situation, and will continue to be notified of the entire thread. I am maintaining a log of our correspondence - both public and private.
Even now, despite the disrepect you have shown to fellow gravers, I am willing to transfer the original memorial# 43579655 to your care - but ONLY ON THE CONDITION that it NOT BE DELETED. Rather it be enhanced with the information that you might have, and that YOUR DUPLICATE MEMORIAL (133859393) BE DELETED. This request conforms in all respects to the Find A Grave guidelines (have you ever looked at them?!).
Added by Nancy on Jan 04, 2015 7:25 PM
|Nancy||Sarah Kelley - YOUR Duplicate Memorial|
Greetings fellow graver!
I just noticed that you created a duplicate memorial for Sarah "Sally" Cook Kelley - just last summer in 2014. I created Memorial# 43579655 for her in 2009 (5 years earlier).
My concern is not so much that you might have additional info to add to the memorial. Rather, I am deeply offended that you did not request transfer of the original memorial. Under the rules of Find A Grave,, the first memorial created is to be respected. A direct descendant can request and receive transfer of the memorial. Transfer to any other relatives is at the discretion of the person who first created the memorial.
A search of Find A Grave emails that I have received for the last two years shows NOTHING from you.
I can understand that you might have felt that her memorial was inappropriate. Someone posted the wrong gravestone photo on the memorial that I created. Still trying to fix this issue.
If you would like me to transfer the ORIGINAL memorial (Memorial# 43579655) to you, I will be happy to do so, on the condition (under Find A Grave rules) that it be enhanced AND NOT DELETED. Just wish you had made such a request BEFORE adding the duplicate.
Under Find A Grave rules, the ORIGINAL memorial should not be transferred to someone who intends to delete it. Your behavior makes me question your intentions.
A copy of this email will be sent to my inbox, and I WILL forward it to the Find A Grave Administrators to assure that the original memorial is not deleted.
In the many years that I have been a member of Find A Grave, this is the first time that I have encountered such a flagrant violation of the rules. Most members show consideration for those who work hard to to identify and enhance the burial locations of our ancestors.
Frankly, you should be ashamed of yourself!
FYI: I intend to also post this message at your Find A Grave homepage so everyone can see how inconsiderate you are!
Added by Nancy on Jan 02, 2015 8:28 PM
I did the transfer and sent an email, which I got back.
Added by Denise on Feb 18, 2014 3:37 PM
Probably she would not be interested. I'll ask her when I see her next week.
Added by LJBC on Jan 02, 2014 12:19 PM
|LJBC||RE: Got a question for you.|
My stepdaughter is related to them through John's son Joseph.
Added by LJBC on Jan 02, 2014 7:32 AM
|LJBC||John (Halford) Weeden|
I have always assumed he was buried at Blueville Cemetery, but so far no one has been able to find his gravestone.
Added by LJBC on Dec 31, 2013 11:58 AM
|Lois and Daughters||Charles Nuckolls|
Just removed request. Look into further with this family and found he was buried close to Auburn in a different cemetery. Thanks for all your work.
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